When I was 17 (I am 28 now), I cheated on my girlfriend by making out with another girl at a party then taking that girl out to prom instead of my gf after we broke up. It still plays on my mind and makes my stomach twists into knots. We are both older now, she’s married with a kid and I am engaged. But I still feel awful about what I did and I don’t know how to let it go. I can rationalise it as me being young, stupid and immature. But that only helps so much. There’s other stuff I did between the ages of 16 - 20 that I want to forgive myself for, but this is the major one that plays circus inside my head. Any advice? Thanks
>>34570248>Any advice?Don't try to tell yourself that what you did was okay, because it obviously wasn't. Instead, tell yourself that the amount of suffering you've done since then is enough: that you've done your time and are now eligible for parole.
>>34570248forgiving yourself is something hard, i like to think i forgive myself a little it everyday
>>34570255I’m not OP and I have a different battle but this really helped me. Thanks
>>34570248reach out and apologizei used to bully a kid in grade school and i felt that no amount of guilt and self-loathing could make me forgive myself. i had to reach out and sincerely apologize to him
>>34570248I only regret things when people retaliate or I suffer consequences. As far as I’m concerned everyone I’ve “hurt” had it coming. And even then I only regret not handling their retaliation better and humiliating them further.
