How do I come up with topics that won't bore people and make them want to talk about said topics?
>>34572089> come upYou usually don't, either you have common topics or you don't. Most people don't say anything interesting most of the time, but even common drivel requires some effort - that's just being well-versed in current events, basic skills that come up a lot (sports, cars, politics, etc) or traditional skills in other circles (chess, ability to play music instruments) etc.It's also highly-contextual and you can't please everyone, though some topics do translate. But a redneck is probably not going to respect your chess skills, whereas a swedish millionaire is not going to care about your gator catching (though it might amuse them).So the short answer is "do shit" and don't expect to please everyone.Also, if you want to appeal to girls, don't make the mistake of thinking that knowing "girlish" stuff will make you anything other than a faggot. Though again, things like dance and culture carry over.To wrap it up, basically do shit and some people might find you interesting.
>>34572265how do you start those convos?
>>34572089Charismamaxx with a stupid, niche hobby that you can show off easilyFor example, I read tarot
>>34572089You don't really have to come up with a topic yourself. Almost any social interactions is people subconsciously wanting to prove themselves. I have noticed that you just have to ask follow-up questions. When you are in the office in a conversation with some dude, he might mention different stuff about either the work or his private life. Just ask follow up questions like "You like working on your cars?" or "what kind of animals do you have?", depending on the person. Watch the people a little and make an image for yourself. If a person is often mentioning the parts of his car or whatever is wrong with the coffee in the office, he might have an interest in these topics, because he keeps circeling back to them. Just ask and he will be happy to show you all his knowledge and experience and his "genius" thoughts and whatever. You might try to build a bridge from these topics. But if a person isn't interested in a topic, there is little you can do. Maybe try to look a little at his body. Does he stop his gravity-defying behavior when you change the topic? Rotate his torso away from you? Blink with his eyes on the impact of some words? Does he change the position of his feet into something less static or close them towards you? Or does he just stop talking altogether? Generally people just want to talk about themselves through their interests. Identify these interests and ask follow-up questions to appear interesting in them personally. Its easier with most old people, because they hate the feeling of being forgotten in a few years and they at least want someone to remember their past experiences. Go to older people and ask them shit like "what was different 40 years ago? how did your grow up? how much technology did you have, ...". You will understand what I mean very quickly. But of course there are exceptions. Don't try to lead to conversation though. Don't suddenly talk for 10 minutes. That will bore them. They don't care. But they think you do.
