I want to master my thoughts and actions to become a better man. A good man. I have issues with demons like narcissism, impulsivity and lying. I know these are normal human things but I need to lower their grasp over my character to the absolute maximum extent. There is no limit to improving and learning. Whenever someone upsets me I try to see what they would see through their eyes and the possible thoughts that could have let up to their actions. Do any anons have any advice or wisdom they could share
Your internal monologue should be nice and wholesome and reassuring to yourself at every micro-moment possible. Keep trying to modify it until your inner story is habitually posutive. That's literally it.>I have issues with demons like narcissism, impulsivity and lying>to the absolute maximum extentYou have some grand immense dark narrative about yourself and your place in the world that weighs you down until your life is like trudging waist-deep through wet clay and you lash out at people and develop insane neuroses and shit as a result. This is because you aren't using the most fundamental tool in a man's toolbox to dissipate the constant stressors of life which is reassuring self-talk. Let go of literally every other narrative device and self-description that has lodged itself into your mind and poisoned you all your life. The voice in your head should sound like>Man, I'm glad I made a little progress toward my goals today>I'm so glad I have four walls and a ceiling to sleep under>[thing] didn't go how I wanted today, but that's okay>I made a mistake when I did [thing], but that's okayLiterally if a thought enters your mind and it doesn't contain the phrases "I'm so glad..." or "that's okay" eject them instantly. If you have beliefs that make these thoughts hard to generate, get rid of them.Or don't! The more mentally raped self-injuring freaks there are running around out there, the less competition I have for great relationships, grrat job opportunities, etc
>>34573755Excellent post. This is the true difference between the chad/chud archetypes that consume us so.Perhaps it's not 3mm of bone, it's the fact that when Chad fumbles his order at the restaurant he doesn't go purple in the face and non-verbal for hours out of sheer self-hatred, he laughs it off, repeats himself, and everyone forgets about it in two minutes.Our ego is our worst enemy.
>>34573745For me, it helps to remind myself daily that no matter how good I make my behavior, I'm not the author of those virtues. The principles that I aspire to, like honesty, compassion, patience and humility, exist independently of and prior to me. I didn't create them, I can't take credit for them, and even at my absolute best I'm merely a recipient of them. Rather than thinking that my good behavior makes me better than anyone else, it's more rational to acknowledge that my virtues are a gift given to me from above, to be grateful for them, and to pay them forward as well as I'm able by gently guiding and teaching. It's also helpful to consider that the root of bad behavior is ignorance, and that everyone will eventually learn what I've learned, given enough time, because they're being guided in the same gracious way that I've been.Reading a little bit every day helps a lot, too.
>>34573755Thanks anon. I also needed to read this. Knew you were on point when you mentioned the neuroses
>>34573755>Having an internal monologue, at all.No wonder you inner monologue types are so neurotic, talking to yourself like a screwball in your own head all day. Making yourself your own imaginary friend in rumination what the fuck lol.
