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>What is /htgwg/?
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.

>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!

>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.

>Resources and Books
https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq (Leykis 101)
https://dokumen.pub/why-women-deserve-less-firstnbsped-1467978302-r-1917433.html
https://www.fantasticanachronism.com/p/how-to-be-good-at-dating
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)

REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.

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how to penis in vagina
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>>34574517
just be confident bro
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Have a date with a turbo autistic girl tomorrow. First date in years but I’m not gonna tell her that
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When is it okay to tell the girl you’re dating you’re autistic. Does she need to be my gf first?
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>>34574530
but woman reject me :[
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How to get pale white non obese female to step on my face
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>>34574594
> bro just be confident bro
> bro just get a haircut bro
> bro take a shower bro
> bro talk to her bro
> bro make eye contact bro
> bro back straight shoulders back bro
> bro go the gym bro
> bro wear nice clothes bro
> bro wash your ass bro
> bro eat clean bro
> bro make sure to smile bro
> bro skincare routine bro
> bro it's the personality bro
> bro make her laugh bro
> bro get a tan bro
> bro read a book to be interesting bro
> bro buy a bidet bro
> bro slide into the DMs bro
> bro be charismatic bro
> bro be interesting bro
> bro have a cool hobby bro
> bro have your friends/sister introduce you bro
> bro wear cool accessories bro
> bro make her feel safe bro
> bro take her to the movies bro
> bro clean the earwax in your ears bro
> bro open up and be vulnerable bro
> bro AURA bro
>bro bounce back after a rejection bro
> bro bro bro bro bro bro
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>>34574747
Bro, I got you bro!
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>>34574826
Most of that list is "have money"
Also men are taller than women
And why would you ever complain about dating younger women
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>>34574853
bro, men need to overachieve to get on with mids. that's the point of the meme, I'm actually can get girls, but i can understand the overall frustration on both side of the sexes.
haven't you seen the landwhale tinder whore and literal chad rapist criminal meme? it's insanity out there.
So basically avg guys get scraps via online dating, while 7-9s can access to 5s-6s if desperate to fuck, so again those foids are entitled to chad in their perspective because they got dicked once by a complete drunk nigga.
bottom line, don't be retarded bro
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>>34574863
The funny thing is that this meme is an older one and has been around since before the broccoli headed zoomers where captioning their tiktok dances with 'hoeflation' '80/20 rule' blackpill shit.
It has always been like this and is getting worse now with the checklist's bare minimum requirements. That and it has become somewhat socially acceptable to lightly 'joke' about it it out now, to offset the bad vibes...
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>>34574747
this but unironically
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>>34574826
And here comes the kissless virgin neet giving everyone advice about women.
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>>34574863
/soc/ rated me a 3 and I've had plenty of decent pussy in the past and I'll have plenty more in a few months when I'm in a better living situation
>> bro just be confident bro
Unironically all that matters, see >>34573755
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>>34574960
speak for yourself faggot, i'm a lite-chad in person.
I have banged more foids than your body count of 5 if you're lucky.
please debate what points are wrong that men need to overachieve completely vs foids, so putting 10x the effort. and avg/ugly dudes such as yourself have no virtual odds on online dating and can only get fat black cunts or literally disabled retards
kek
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>>34574974
Sorry for whatever happened to you that made you like this
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>>34574981
reality is a bitch, and i'm here to fuck her.
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>>34574960
found the bitter femcel lol >>34574958

stop trying to pick fights granny, there are other ways to get the attention of zoomer BVLLS that do not include making a spectacle of yourself
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>>34574747
>>34574826
I hate it how I have known about this shit ever since I was 13 years old from going on prime incel r9k in 2014. Im not even an virgin but fuck man ive been lonely for so long it just feels so hopeless. Since the last time ive felt any intimacy I have:dropped out of school, returned to school and got my bachelors, became an alcoholic, stopped being an aloholic, worked 5 different jobs, started my career, gained 60 pounds, lost 80 pounds, and etc. I feel better now than I have in many years but its not like I feel that good, I play guitar and work out most days but I only do that because if I stop my suicide ideation will come back. I dont even give a fuck that it is friday I know nothing will improve. I aint even depressed either because I can still function and receive some enjoyment from things I like. Maybe i should go buy a halberd or an SS helmet to make myself feel better for a few minutes lmao.
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>>34574973
with all due respect, if you're a 3. you don't get tail, be honest brother.
you would be literally obese and disabled if you look like a 3. and you're decent pussy is a 1-2, I don't even want to imagine what does looks like.
>>34575023
I mean if you're average there's no other way than to looksmaxx. you need to lift, you need to earn well, you need to be strong and lean, update your wardrobe that gets you close to a 7-8 in looks (depending how unfortunate you got in the face department).
but then again avg men are so weak and lame you can quickly climb some ranks and be more attractive, so there's hope. the only thing is you need to put the effort and discipline. men don't have it easy, it was never meant to be easy for a dude.
Godspeed
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>>34575038
nta but how on earth do I dress myself?

Fashion seems to be the only guide missing from these self improvement guides, and I've taken to copying my friends' styles since I do not want to look like ignatius j reilly yknow?
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>>34575068
depends on your age and style, probably the faggots over /fa/ can advice too. but you can look some ideas easily around the web (and grab like 3-4 main attires you can always play dress up with that would look good).
the key is to wear something that fits you nicely, you feel comfortable in your own skin and it's decent looking for the foids.
so you get the idea. also importance having a nice haircut / tidy trimmed/beard.
and obviously hygiene for you spergs, being clean and tidy is very important (trim your nails, wash your balls, brush your teeth, avoid bad breath).
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>>34575038
You're right. Your framework with which you view reality is 100% correct, you know the details of my life better than I do. I am begging you to continue living your life and interacting with people with the same mindset you have now. Pretty please? It's for your own good! It benefits me in no way for you to continue being how you are. And as a bonus, convince more people to think like you if possible. Thanks man.
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>>34575089
So play it safe and keep it simple? That is quite straightforward.
Should I just drop the urge to 'express myself' and dress in a unique way, is that just a meme? (I do not want to look like a turbo autist) pic rel.

And I dare not step foot in the /fa/ board
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>>34575118
That look works but you will be a weirdo until you come to actually establish youself as the weird guy who dresses like that. But also, this guy in this image is just handsome and will look good in a t shirt and jeans. Will you?
Reviewbrah is someone who persisted and now has a distinct style, but he's paid for it and is a legit social recluse. Also, will you be larping? Will you dress the same at home? That's the difference between a costume and everyday dress.
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>>34575099
checked, bro, i mean i'm all up for showing who has the largest dick, don't you get it.
Mindset gets you far yes, but if you don't have the looks and charisma (which an autistic 3 on the looks scale wouldn't even have) you got nothing brother, so tell me, how many women have you picked from dating apps, how many have you picked up in clubs, how many on random streets? I assume virtually 0 on all those fronts, or can you prove me wrong? (you cannot), so you get your fat oneitis from colleague which was a disgusting landwhale and you call that decent pussy. nice cope mein nigga
I can show you my conquests, can you show me yours? i got the ego for that champ, show us how it's done loverboy

>>34575118
so again style depends on what you want to attract, a goth girl ain't gonna be attracted to a normie obv. a rich girl ain't gonna be attracted to a hippie fag, etc.
What I would say, is smart casual, clean, tidy, good looking and timeless.
And please try to not be overweight, because that's primordial.
you could rock something like this for going out with dates and they'll be attracted if you put the work behind it
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>>34575118
also remember, the unique aspect is tough to go unless you play the artist vibes, girls always follow the crowd so whatever is trending they'll like. they cannot think by themselves everything needs to be processed by the lens of their own constructed narratives
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>>34575149
Did I say I was a 3? Sorry, typo, I meant to type 2.
>which an autistic 3 on the looks scale wouldn't have
Where do I buy a looks scale btw?
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>>34575149
This looks like a normalnigger who's about to do a home energy efficiency inspection but I guess normie women like this.
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>>34575149
hello this is the fashion anon. I have been told by some random girls and my brother's friends that I am better looking than him and he is quite popular with the ladies, which I suspect is due to his good fashion sense and outgoing demeanor.
I, on the other hand, am socially colder and do not like to go out and socialize much, and though it would be a smart idea to dress myself to attract girls with a similar temperament or similar interests to me.

The pic from before is an idea of what I am going for: long hair and anything with collars, but I do not want to take risks and end up looking autistic or worse, tryhard
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>>34575163
you're just a foid, most men aren't as delusional as yourself, unless they are trannies.
you got anything to show for us? or just the bullshit you're spitting out kek
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>>34575190
works for most ocassions, women are just cattle, very few of them are even able to think or think independently at all. they just go with emotions and feelz
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>>34575162
Ah shit I missed this reply.
Yes, it would be smart to keep it within trends I guess, but I would like to select the style and coloring to match my temperament and potentially attract girls with the same or similar temperament as me
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>>34575192
Do you get this pressed when your girl shit tests you?
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>>34575378
I make her cry whenever we get into arguments. Literally last Wednesday night, I mentioned that relationships are transactional, and no women would date a dead broke loser unless the guy was very handsome of course, having a long list of requirements (provider role). But for a guy, it could happen that they would still date a girl even if she's a dead broke loser and kind to them lmao.
Case example, Matt Damon getting it on with a dead broken argentinean waitress with 2 bastard kids, they are currently married. Inverse the situation that would never happen from a women's side. Ergo, relationship are transactional. And the only unconditional love you can expect it's from your mom. I also said men aren't delusional and know their own limits and I said I couldn't date a 10/10 women because it's a money game, and they would go for a literal 10/10 Chad all the time. She got offended and cried because obviously she's not a 10/10.
>Women, you can't handle the truth!
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>>34575378
I also heavily discuss rape statistics and crime. And I say of course there's white dudes raping out there (sexually frustrated deviants), but the overwhelming majority of cases it's niggers. She's getting it slowly into her head. With due time, women assume your own political posture.
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>>34575402
>>34575411
Can I have some of your meth? I need to debloat
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>>34575425
You need to start a diet bitch, then you can debloat.
Waiting on your tips and the hotties you had picked up in your long life. If you wanna pretend you're a dude Or were you only a cum dumpster for guys like me? Lmao
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>>34575443
>Waiting on your tips and the hotties you had picked up in your long life
It hasn't been that long, I'm only 45
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I'm on month 9 of breaking up with her.

we talked a bit and hooked up once or twice before January

she didn't reply to my birthday message and a couple others

she was like my daughter, and I abandoned her. This guilt kills me. I understand suicide now
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>>34575458
Did you try aggressively redpilling her on crime statistics? It works really well for >>34575411 you'll get her back in a jiffy
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>>34575496
You're still mad honey? It only works if you're attractive babe, kek.
So don't be ugly, any receipts you wanna share "chad"?
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>>34575515
Why are you wasting posts toward the bump limit in your own thread? Is epicly pwning a random person on the internet that important to you?
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My gf just broke up with me because I'm incompetent and can't take care of her or handle my own business

What do I do now?
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>>34575458
Play arknights and get attached to Amiya
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>>34575538
Smash your cheekbones and jaw with a mallet
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>>34575543
I'm just lying down and I'm completely numb
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>>34575533
I already stated I got my online ego here, I just don't know whether it's a foid (which I lean to) or a literal gay little man, which I cannot believe any dude can be as retarded as to pretend that you'll go far in dating without having decent looks + charisma. There's no possibility at all, unless you're playing a money game (which doesn't count), avg dudes are literally unseen in dating apps/nightclubs (not that I would recommend any of those options for avg looking dudes).
That's all. Also not my thread just spammed it a lot kek.
>>34575538
Focus on the business, make money, new foids come in. You need to sell your gf at the top and buy another one at the dip. You'll be okay
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I'm too inept to kiss my dates
How over is it
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>>34574398
Ahhh yes, the How to Cope General
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>>34575023
>I dont even give a fuck that it is friday
Damn i didnt even know it was lol
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Reminder that she expects you to hit on her.

Beautiful women don't fuck cowards.
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>>34576215
Brutal
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Dating tip:

The right one will try to overcome her fear of you to see your loving human side. The wrong one will just be blinded by it focusing only on how much of a hideous monster you are. Alright. You have to be patient. You're just someone who has his moments.
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>>34576215
Okay
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What amount and what kind of female attention is an indicator that you're good looking?
I've seen people flip flop between
>women will mindlessly and shamelessly throw themselves at Chad
and
>even Chad has to approach women, women HATE making the first move
So which is it? Have any of you, or guys you know ever got female attention without you/them doing anything, i.e. making the first move? How frequently would that have to happen for you to be considered good-looking?
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>>34576825
Impress her by being human with her not good looking.
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What do you say to a woman in a department you never see but in passing once a day, if that? She looks down every time we catch eyes, but now so am I because I have no idea what to say and don't want to interupt her busy schedule ir freak her out. I have no idea if she even knows I exist, we've kind of looked at each other for seconds on end from a distance, but avoid eye contact when we get too close. I feel like I have no chance, and saying anything will be too much or weird. I feel like we both have been looking, but I have no idea how to break the ice. She seems polite and reserved and more considerate than the others at work, and it's just making me feel more nervous. We have 0 cross work reference of each other's jobs so I can't find a single reason to naturally engage with her, like asking for help or directions. What can I do in a 2 second interaction?
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>>34576931
>should I talk to a woman I find attractive?
the absolute fucking state of western men in the big 26 needs to be preserved and studied extensively to make sure whatever combination of psyops and contaminants in the food and water supply that caused them to become such massive, homosexual, dick sucking faggots, cannot be replicated again.
Nigga, you go up to her and tell her you think she's pretty and you would like to get to know her better.
Literal pajeets and nig nogs are capable of this despite having a low enough IQ to qualify them to be forcibly placed in a mental institution if we were to live in a society that values order and decorum.
No wonder the birth rates in Europe and the U.S. are so low.
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>>34576931
Just go fucking talk to her. Ask her how her day is or say hi? How did u ever form a relationship with anyone? Your making it weirder by not breaking the ice
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>>34576215
>Beautiful women don't fuck cowards.
where are they? I'm literally never in the same social setting as them. I seen them on the street occasionally.
>inb4 cold approach
I've done it and it's insane. I've gotten digits, but it's pointless and never leads to anything. It's also nigger/jeet tier.
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>>34577015
>Literal pajeets and nig nogs are capable of this despite having a low enough IQ to qualify them to be forcibly placed in a mental institution if we were to live in a society that values order and decorum.
>No wonder the birth rates in Europe and the U.S. are so low.
nta but you are a retard. Just two days ago I saw picrel on my afternoon walk, and it felt bizarre because I'm in Europe and this is basically the BBC memes from 4chan, except it's reality. These 8/10 blonde, blue eyed white women are factually insane and propagandized.
To make the claim white women are fucking niggs because white are shy or not willing to make conversation is fucking insane.
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>>34575101
>My house was built in the mid 19th century. A former owner installed a modern electrical system, now outdated, around 1991. So yes, I get to do things inside instead of in the fresh air and natural sunlight, but besides that all I really have is my plumbing and electric stove. That said, I split wood, and I gather water for my garden from the nearby river (about 1000 feet away from my house). I already told you I often cook on a grill, which is cooking outside by a fire. Additionally, you were initially talking about women in the 1950s and the decades leading up to it, many of which would have had at least indoor lighting, an electric stove, and probably things like electric irons as well. The main point I was making is that women like to pretend that rinsing dishes and then tossing them into the dishwasher, throwing clothes into the washing machine and pressing start, and once a week vacuuming are some laborious full-time toil that leaves no room for any downtime, which is laughably stupid.
I said that household appliances made that possible for 1950s women. You must have gotten confused with me saying housework was difficult at the beginning of the 1900s. You also haven't mentioned any children or spouse, which suggests you're taking care of yourself only.
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I have a second date tomorrow and I’m so fucking excited to see her again. I feel like a kid on christmas eve making preparations and counting down the hours. I don’t even care if I get laid, I just want to kiss her and dance with her.



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