Do you actually have to believe in love to have a girlfriend or wife? I really just want children of my own and will do my best to fulfill my role as the father. But I know children need that healthy environment where the parents "love" each other and do natural couple shit. I've just never had a gf before and don't believe in love.
>Do you actually have to believe in love to have a girlfriend or wife?Love is how you treat others despite how you feel.
>>34575647Love isn't a passion, it's the absence of passion. To treat somebody selflessly, impartially and objectively and all synonyms for love. If passion is involved then what you're feeling is attachment, which is a selfish emotion, and selfishness and love cannot ever mix. You only truly love somebody if you love them for their own sake, which means loving them selflessly.
>>34575730>>>34575647 (OP)>Love isn't a passion, it's the absence of passionAbsolutely not. You can love someone you are deeply passionate about. Not to mention that you do not define something by the absence of something else, this flatten concepts into shadows of something else instead of treating them as things with their own nature.
>>34575730I also disagree. Loving someone passionately is not selfish. It fuels the fire that keeps love burning when things grow cold. Love is about respect and doing what you can to help, not being perfect, but not intentionally causing harm. Love is letting go yourself, giving the reins over to the other person once in a while- and graciously taking them back.A marriage is a different kind of love . It's a binding of two people to create new, if youre a breeder that means new people. Humans are imperfect beings. But the first step is acknowledging your own actions and admitting you need help. The first 5 years of marriage (not dating)will be the hardest, especially if you breed.To have a successful marriage you may lose the "love" like in the honeymoon stage. But if you show up emotionally, remember she is a person too, everything can work itself out. Maybe? Unless you marry a psycho then idfk
>>34575828>>34575957Loving somebody passionately means loving the way that they make you feel. It does not mean loving that person for that person's own sake. A mother who abuses her children to keep them close to her at all times loves her children passionately. One that helps her children grow so that they can mature and eventually leave her and start their own lives is a mother that loves dispassionately. That doesn't mean she has to feel absolutely no emotion whatsoever, it just means that emotion can never be allowed to come before love.
Love is to will the good of the other
>>34575828Spot on. You are one of the few people I've encountered on here who actually understands what love is. Good luck explaining to the multitudes of autists and personality disordered antisocials on here tho.
