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Real talk, how many times do you have to message/text someone before they start texting you first?

I'll text other male friends first maybe twice and then stop giving a shit about them. After a while, it feels like I'm begging for people's friendship and it feels kinda humiliating.
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>>34576375
i used to care about this but i think zoomers are just socially retarded by default. so i just send whatever whenever and so long as i get some acknowledgement i don't really care.
i place a lot more value on in-person interactions so if those are stale i pretty much cut the cord on the friendship but lots of people are fine face to face and just suck with texting you if you're not (a) in a group chat or (b) one of their two favorite people
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>>34576375
Most people never text first, even if they like you. Also, it doesn't change much. Some people are first-texters and some aren't
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>>34576375

this is exactly the reaction i knew would happen to social texting starting in 2002, as people stopped fucking talking to eachother in person or on phone calls.

honestly OP, the only solution is to fucking do what you want. If you want to interact with someone, fucking do it because you want to. Don't talk yourself into not doing so when you have no evidence that you are actually begging.

And if they are annoyed, then dial it back if you have to. Everything doesn't have to be life and death.
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>>34576375
>they start texting you first?
I don't care about that at all. This one e-friend i have. I message her once a week, don't care about her initiating exchanges.
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>>34576375
2 times. After that its clingy.
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>>34576800
seconding this. some people just don't like texting. ask to meet them in person. if they say yes, they're cool being friends with you.
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>>34576375
I am a girl and no one ever texts me first. People claim to be my friend or know me but there was like one person who hit me up so we could get our nails done and that never happened.
Dont take it personal and enjoy being alone.



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