My instinct tells me no, but I guess it depends. Have you ever talked to him directly in a voice call? Have you seen his face? Have you talked to him long enough to gauge his personality and intent?
Even then it sounds sketch. If I imagine my daughter doing it, I would be extremely alarmed.
My question is why does it have to be that guy in particular? Why can't you just go outside and talk to guys locally? Why go through the trouble of meeting some online grandpa?

>>34577180
No

>>34577200
because he's rich

>i'm wondering if anybody else has done something like this?
sort of. i'm a woman who has paid guys to hang out irl before. almost all of them from soc, adv and r9k. none of it was particularly memorable or what i was really looking for. idk it's not as dangerous as you would imagine if you've never met anyone from the internet before. it's like if you just met a random guy off the street but you have a little more background info on him already. realistically the worst thing you have to worry about is that they're insufferable ime

>>34577210
Idk, sounds like a good way to get raped and/or get your kidneys harvested.

>>34577212
>i'm a woman who has paid guys to hang out irl before
Not OP, but, assuming this is real, what kind of circumstances would you have to find yourself in where you would do that?

>>34577180
If it's a one-time weekend thing, the fact that he's rich wouldn't seem to be particularly relevant.

>will I get murdered?
Statistically it's more likely that you won't than that you will, but if there's even a small chance of that, it's worth paying attention to. If you are meeting a guy under normal conditions, then it's relatively easy to do so safely, with a few basic precautions. But one of those basic precautions is: if anything doesn't feel right, walk away. If you're flying out to see him, and you're staying with him, then realistically you can't walk away. If you do, you'll have nowhere to sleep, and no plane ticket to fly back until the next day. So if he does turn out to be violent, you'll be trapped: in a strange city that you don't know your way around, with no one you know who can help you.

How much do you actually know about the guy? By that, I mean, how much do you know about him that isn't something he himself has told you? Have you spoken to his family? His friends? To his colleagues from work? Do you have independent evidence of anything at all? Have you even spoken to him on a video call, or is it possible he's been sending you photos of someone else?

>>34577212
>i'm a woman who has paid guys to hang out irl before
You have paid them to hang out with you? Why would you do that?

>>34577215
>>34577212
>>34577200
we've vc'd, exchanged pictures, are planning to video call. he's not a creep, he's cute, and he's been pretty straightforward with what he's looking for (GFE, more or less).

i figured at worst i'll be creeped out or bored for 2 days. at best, i have a great time and a fun story and i'll want to see him again. i am not telling my parents but definitely some friends where i'm going, with his picture and address, that is if i do decide to go.

>>34577215
lol wut? with this logic, nobody should use dating apps as its just a picture and a paragraph, right?
> you don't talk to their friends
> you don't talk to their "colleagues"
> most times you don't video call
> you swipe right and meet for a beer
have you ever been on a date?

when in doubt, Uber to a hotel, pay for 1 night and fly home. women backpack through europe hooking up with random dudes. ever see that movie "hostel"?

>>34577229
Can you actually read? I specifically said it's very different when you're meeting someone close to home, because if anything doesn't feel right, you can simply walk out. In OP's scenario, that is much harder. Please brush up on your basic literacy skills before responding next time.


>have you ever been on a date?
I have a body count of 40, and am 13 years into a very nice relationship. So yes, I have, thank you. If anyone wants to, I'm happy to list all the things one should normally do to make dating safe; the problem is that in this context there are some of them that you can't do.

>>34577223
those are all really good signs. idk what else you have to keep in mind. maybe have some kind of itinerary/plan B solo adventure in mind. you're not just visiting him but the place too after all. just to make sure it won't get too boring. have fun OP
>>34577214
>>34577221
i'm paying a cute and charming guy to give me the fantasy. it just never ends up being that for various reasons

>>34577180
I met a guy on soc, once I married him he started to get mean, controlling, eventually ramping up to abuse and death threats, so I'm now homeless with nothing. So, you probably shouldn't.

>>34577276
damn is that you M? if not you're the second person i've heard this has happened to.

>>34577296
Yikes, not M. I take no comfort in not being alone in my experience.

ive met up with 5 people on /soc/ before, only two of those meetings worked out. something ive noticed is a lot of people on /soc/ are very flakey and or avoidant. it could be a fun experience for you, but you also run a lot more risks than just being murdered

This happened to me but unintentionally. I happened to be somewhere that a guy recognized me and I got nervous and felt like someone was playing a trick on me by using his voice to lure me into another part of the restaurant. If I somehow knew it was real, I would have at least shared a meal but I was a little scared and retrospectively.. I feel like that I missed out on what could have been my best friend.

>>34577313
was there an expectation of sex in your meets?

For all the anons wanting to marry a non virgin, this is the kind of woman you're slaving away for.

>>34577212
>i'm a woman who has paid guys to hang out irl before
Like, WTF? Were they attractive? I can't imagine a woman paying to meet a man. Maybe it's because I'm ugly.

>>34577452
yes, but it was mutually agreed. i think it didnt work out with some of them because they thought i expected more than that, and wanted a relationship

>>34577465
(NTA) Male escorts exist, anon.

>>34577223
>he's not a creep
How do you know?
>he's been pretty straightforward with what he's looking for (GFE, more or less).
Just so we're clear, here, you are actually prostituting yourself, are you? It's not a hook-up? You're being paid?
>i figured at worst i'll be creeped out or bored for 2 days.
At worst, he'll actually kill you.

Look, if you absolutely must do this, make sure someone knows exactly where you are. (Not just which city, but the exact address, a hotel room number, etc.).l When you get there, call your friend in front of him so he knows that someone knows where you are, and he knows that someone else knows his name; that makes it a bit less likely that he'll try anything. (But not impossible: if you're booked to stay the weekend, he's got plenty of time to dispose of the body before anyone reports you missing).

What are your countries? Your first meeting should be him going to you so you can have a personal meeting to see if you like each other.

>>34577313
/soc/ is dead for straight people now. It has been overridden by faggots and troons.

>>34577899
true, but us straight girls still get lots of requests/adds

>he's over 10 years older
True
>rich
Not
>it would probably be like a 1 time weekend thing
Yeah
>fun
Debatable

You're 10 years younger than whoever that is. There's plenty of dudes 5 years younger than he is that's more legit, want to show off his fancy car and have fun for the weekend.

>will I get murdered?
Do you have his identity verified? I've done it before. The guy was somewhat famous so he couldn't murder and get away with it.

>>34577936
Do you have big tits? I would add you if you think you are my type.

>>34577969
my 4chan dating days are over, sorry

>>34577180
He's not gonna hurt you. Why do women think everyone wants to secretly murder them?
What he does want is sex. So if you are prepared to get fucked, you should definitely go. It'll be fun.

>>34578221
>Why do women think everyone wants to secretly murder them?
It doesn't require very many men to want to murder you before it becomes a risk that you need to take seriously.

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>other women
I met up with an older guy on soc before(orginally r9k, for platonic cuddling, but they are a avid soc user trying to find their other half), 16-17 years older.
>flying
Was 2 hours away, can't help you there, but based on their post history they have offered to fly femanons out to meet.
>will I get murdered
No, but they would likely want sex or try to escalate towards something physical.(felt like a dumb fucking idiot thinking otherwise) Guy I met was more of a gentleman, knew boundries, and was a socially awkward weeb. He likely would have been fine but disappointed if it wasn't sexual. We ended up dating for a while, but I broke it off because soc seems like a desperate, degenerate purgatory where love goes to die, users hop from one failed attempt to another. I was always paranoid they will just go back searching for other uninhibited femanons or e-girls. Didn't feel remotely threatened, but i'd suggest pepperspray, mace, or some kinda rapewhistle. Don't do this if you're broke, don't have enough money for a hotel or a ticket back, or don't have enough common sense to survive by yourself. Tell someone, give location.
>rich
Guy I met had a nice job, i'd rather go 50/50 on most things out of fairness. It also felt gross that soc users will willingly let females use them for affection or company.
>fun
The experience itself was pretty fun, we went to anime conventions together, hung out etc. If your desire is for a detached fun getaway and you have decent survival instincts then go for it. Also don't suggest doing this if you care about the quality of your future relationships, most guys would consider this whorish whether it is sexual or not. Personally, I would never attempt this again, felt empty and bleak.
>>34577221
I have considered doing this...
I don't suggest other femanons to try to find their sensitive misunderstood counterpart on 4chan.

Everytime i go on /soc/ its just full of kinky shit, have you guys found anything meaningful in there, i am a dude and i am scared shitless of the women there even though i am horny asf

>>34578531
Women there are no different than dating apps, they're looking for attention, money or Chad. I'll post my Discord there every once in a while and maybe get a friend request or two, but I get ghosted before the day is over.

>>34578531
If you're trying to find shy, nonfinancially struggling women then don't use soc. Also lots of insane mentally ill-underage girls.

>>34578549
How do you initiate conversations with them? I feel like many of them will be boring/shy/awkward.

>>34578746
They're boring and vapid and expect you to keep a conversation going. It's a waste of time to engage with them, really.

>>34578800
I wouldnt have done so, chastity is better than dating women like that

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>>34578800
I'm not arguing for women here, but honestly what do you expect when they get hundreds of matches? I remember a cute tinder date I had once and she said she only had the app for a week and had a thousand matches already. You think browsing TikTok and doomscrolling is bad for your brain and dopamine, imagine having constant access to an army of guys willing to fellate your asshole for even a crumb of attention. This is the world we live in thanks to technology. If you aren't interesting to her from the bat she'll just hop to the next guy.

All that said, I'm pretty sure I have met my wife on /soc/ so best of luck to you ^^/

>>34578892
Does your wife do her duties like a good wife? (Kids, cleaning, cooking, sex)?

>>34577313
Shit is it worth it? I've wanted to visit cause honestly getting pussy from loser girls sounds fun but at the same time it's women off 4chan of all places. I'm in my 30s now so it's not like I go out much these days.

>>34578918
she wants to, but I am low income so still have to work on improving my career

20s woman here who has met up with older guys a fair few times, especially when i was in college. i even slept with a hot teacher.
> older men are more well off
> older men are more mature
> older men are more upfront with what they're looking for
> older men will give younger women gifts and buy them things for a nice time, which is nice, especially when you're a broke college student
> there's no expectation of a relationship or "omg he didn't text me today, he's cheating!"
a lot of young guys salty that older guys are getting younger women, or people who wouldn't go on an adventure in this thread.

to the males, if an apparently older, attractive, rich woman asks you to go hang out for a weekend, and you've established that your organs won't get harvested and you two get along. why tf not, right? its a two way street

just use condoms. young or old, men will lie about STDs.

>>34579219
posts like this are why im investing so hard. im hoping by the time im 40 im rich too.

>>34577180
Why isn't he flying to meet you if he's rich? Have enough money for back-up accommodation/flight changes etc. if things don't work out.

>>34579219
>older men are more mature
Not when they come from 4chan sis.

Try having a fucking autistic 50 year old fumbling around with a big wad of cash to give to you in full view of everyone at the airport, thus ensuring everyone in the vicinity thinks you're either a whore (true) or smuggling money (not true and could get you into trouble). Or maybe having to apologise to people in line when he autistically cuts a massive queue in a polite setting. Good riddance.

>>34579373
i'm not saying "don't do your homework on someone". after a few weeks to a month of chatting or so if you don't at least have a good idea of who you're chatting with than that's on you, not on the spergy guy
> what are the expectations?
> enough vc/video chats to realize they're legit
> pics of their place and the address (this can be confirmed with zillow or EU equivalent site)
and so on

that's like me going to a uzbek restaurant and being like "wait, you only serve plov and manti here? huh?" and getting upset. that's on me not the servers

>>34579930
Autists can throw the most embarrassing curveballs sis. The expectation is that they're capable of behaving like a normal mature human being in public, which you won't find out until you're in public with them by which time it's too late... They can come off polite in text chat but then sperg out in reality and embarrass you by association

>>34578484
>felt empty and bleak
Same I felt this way every time I met up with someone from this site even if it was another girl and/or purely for friendship and everything went super well. The other person always tells me they had a lot of fun and it was even one of the best memories of their life, they can be themselves around me, stuff like that. There's just always this air of sadness around the whole thing. I feel so bad saying this but it always felt like I'm doing charity work for a dying make-a-wish kid.

>>34579219
Where does one find girls like you?

Try to do it on your independent whim.