From the start then, I (25M) have meet my friend (22F) on college, we share a group in common and have had a good relationship overall (shits and giggles and whatnot).Recently we started traveling from our university to home together, we both live far away and coming back with good conversations is something I really appreciate. On one of such days she had a panic attack, a really bad one. I'm talking about hyperventilating and trembling. I tried to do what I could, offered water, space and chat but didn't seem to work out. I remembered that when my Ex (and even I) had that kind of situation, what helped the most was pampering (idk if it's the right word). I mean soft touchs on hands, arm, neck and hair. She refused at first but agreed a while later. It did seem to work, she relaxed and we managed through the next hour of traveling. Of course, after this I got worried about her, even more when I learned that it was a first time kinda thing. Apparently she had troubles on transports that triggered this. The previous situation happened again some other day (when she was already taking meds).I got worried and offered to travel with her on the mornings too and wait for her on the evening. Since it didn't bother me and was according to my lessons it sounded like a good idea. At first everything was alright, but she started not responding texts (the organizational kind "Hey are you close to the station?") and avoiding contact. I thought she didn't like me, or that it was disrespectful to her for some reason. So I asked and she said that we were alright and that I was dumb for asking. She asked why was I worrying for her and I told her that I really care about her. She didn't like it. She also told me that she was feeling a bit of dependency that she hated.
Idk really, we have grown apart since then, I've been angry, sad and all the emotions in between. Mostly because I felt like I was bothering her (and also a SIMP, to put it simply). I didn't want to feel bad for someone who couldn't ask for help and didn't want it when it was offered to her. I would really like to stop thinking about it (it's been 3 weeks for gods sake).Was she just being proud?? Did I misunderstand something??
>>34577472>>34577469If she is sorry prone to panic attacks, the interaction could have just ignited a deeper fret. Its not unusual for women to isolate themselves if they are scared. Some may cry and actually need to be hugged and shown that someone does care. Communication is key and creates clarity in most situations, but panic attacks are unpredictable.
>>34577483I get what you are saying but for what we talked she doesn't like being touched. I tried to show that I care but she doesn't give me a space to be there for her. I suposse that's what keeps this situation on my mind.
