>be 5'7 manlet>go out with friend group>attractive tall fag friend effortlessly gets laid and has multiple women simping for himHow do I genuinely get over this? It is absolute ropefuel and I don't know if its something I can truly get over. I have seen it multiple times, it hurts so much when its girls you think you would have had a chance with. I can't cope anymore. This is the type of stuff that just makes me want to permarot, after a drug induced night out I was genuinely the closest I have been to jumping off the nearest bridge
Not sure if any consolation but just know that for every chad "tall fag" that gets bitches effortlessly there are 10 more "tall fag" khvs out there. >i'm one
>>34577487I am not fully putting the blame on my manlet status and I definitely have neurodivergent tendencies that hold me back but idk its hard to cope that if my looks weren't better it would still be easier.
bump pls help
>>34577479>>34577530Don't treat night clubs like they're real life. They are specifically designed for the hottest people to get laid with the hottest people. It's all chads and slut Stacys there.For the vast majority of people, they find a partner the old fashioned way, in a way that allows for more personal connections rather than the shallowness of nightclubs
>>34577539I feel like this is kind of cope if I am being honest. I don't disagree about how people find partners yeah but knowing girls with personalities I enjoy being around are getting tossed around by these guys effortlessly is truly rope fuel that I can not cope with
>>34577479You get over it by realizing that none of those things bring happiness or fulfillment. Even if you had everything you admire, you still wouldn't be any closer to any form of peace. In fact, you'd be farther from it because more distractions and obsessions means less peace. Your friend is still going to have to make peace with death, he's still going to have to get old, he's still going to have a moment in his life where he realizes he has nothing to look back on other than the same kind of shallow, meaningless sex that a farm animal has. Feeling insecure and worthless over that is as ridiculous as feeling insecure that you have a fat friend who gets to eat a lot. People trapped in their vices aren't something to be admired, they're something to be pitied.
>>34577552I agree but it hurts that I am not that guy. I just want to experience the feeling of having that many options. I feel like I am too neurodivergent to capitalize on opportunities I am given, or maybe I am just coping with my lack of looks and height. I really don't know at this point.
>>34577479another 5'7 manlet here. I didn't have this exact same experience, but me and my slightly taller (5'9) friend went to a dating event yesterday and I genuinely wanted to fucking kms. It doesn't help it was a rooftop bar party and I fucking hate loud places in general so I get agitated after like 5 minutes. I'm a reformed former blackpiller. I unironically did the self improvement meme. I'm not swimming in dates, I have to try to get them, but I don't really have trouble if I try. For short guys purely/mostly visual environments and mediums (dating apps, clubs, etc) are pure rope fuel because of a combination of both external rejection rates (girls going for taller, bigger guys) and internal feedback loops (short guys getting treated worse through life = lower confidence = offputting body language). Think about it. Women can ONLY judge you based on physical appearance. That's why they gravitate towards chad even if they would marry you irl. My advice is genuinely just to stick to places where you feel comfortable expressing your status as someone who isn't afraid to make your romantic interests known. I unironically have 0 problem even with cold approach. I fucking hate my life because I really like the idea of latino parties and shit, but every single time I go to one I end up wanting to kill myself. I'm just gonna stick with quiet venues from now on
>>34577581Poster of ^ here. I'm also autistic which is why I'm uber depressed and hate loud places. I wish there was a pill I could take to be a normie so bad. It is what it is
>>34577581>>34577586To be fair I do see manlets getting with women and I have before at these environments. This isn't even a pity manlet thread but at the same time I just can't deal with seeing all these attractive women just throw themselves at these guys. Like its just such ropefuel for me. But I do acknowledge I am just getting more neurodivergent by the day
>>34577479>be 5'7 manletThis is tall in some areas of the world.My suggestion is to take advantage of this, because, 5000 years ago, 5'9" tall Yamnaya men absolutely BTFO'd, 5'4" Neolithic Farmer men. 95% of the Neolithic Farmer male lineages were wiped out.
>>34577613>This is tall in some areas of the world.Horseshit. 5'7 is manlet everywhere.
>>34577579It's easy to agree outwardly, but what takes practice is agreeing inwardly. If you agreed inwardly, it wouldn't hurt at all because you'd know that since true, complete and lasting happiness doesn't come from "options" or shallow sex, then you couldn't possibly be missing out on anything worth having or caring about in the first place. Getting yourself to agree inwardly with something you only know must be true rationally takes practice, but it can be done with regular meditation and consistent effort. Reading helps too, and having examples of men to look up to who led what you'd consider to be a good life despite not being self indulgent or promiscuous.
>>34577613>>34577646Agree and disagree, 5'7 even where I am in my city is pretty in the range of average. But I do agree that it is not really tall anywhere in the world though
>>34577539Utter cope. Unless you're actively below average you will do fine. Or if clubbing is just not your jam. Then its not going to work either, because being uncomfortable and only there for da poosi will kill any vibe you may possibly have.>>34577552Even more cope. Nothing wrong with having options and getting into more dedicated relationships as a choice, not because they are your only avenue for sex and closeness.>>34577586>I'm also autistic which is why I'm uber depressedAre aou actually doiagnosed autistic, or ist it some tumblr self diagnosis shit? Also Autism is another fashion diagnosis that nowadays gets slapped on anyone with social and emotional issues. Also doesn't make you depressed. You should work on all that instead of declaring it to be unchangeable properties of yourself. >and hate loud placesThen don't go to loud places to meet women. Eas fix.
>>34577827Diagnosed. Should've used "and" rather than "which is why". My autism leads to a lot of overthinking and subsequently depressive disorders. >Then don't go to loud places to meet women. Eas fix.I literally already have this written as a solution in my first post you illiterate troglodyte. I didn't say any of this was immutable other than the autism. I'm probably smarter than you, so guess what, I'm aware and I've fucking worked on it to get over the typical problems. Then new problems turn up, because that's life, which I am now working on. I can still consciously hate my circumstances even if I know it is something that can be overcome by effort
You're more attractive than a 5'6 manlet.
>>34577479What's the alternative, that a girl fucks you and populates the earth with more autistic manlets like yourself?Why do you want to spawn more manlets so much?Just accept that you have inferior genetics and should not have sex/reproduce
>>34577479I'm 6'0 and I don't feel short, but I feel invisibleI don't really stand outMy problem is that I'm too normal5'11 is the average height where I'm fromdespite being slightly above average I'm still inadequate in this modern hypergamous worldit is what it isI will never have my looksmatch or better and neither will 99%+ of menthis world is for women and gigachad only
>>34582088Are you retarded I'm in the exact same situation with a 4/10 face, strong Autism and I have had 0 issues pulling women out of my league through friendships and clubbingI've also met plenty of Ukrainians who don't even speak the local language and are shorter who have had 0 issues pulling out of their league
>>34582350>and I have had 0 issues pulling women out of my league through friendships and clubbingno you have issues overestimating their value because women are only ever capable of dating up
>>34577552>You get over it by realizing that none of those things bring happiness or fulfillmentWrong
>>34582683LolEveryone tells me I overshot with the girl I'm dating rn bc she's out of my league but sure, everything in life is governed by hard rules that cannot be broken and women will not date "down" The less you start rating people like there's an objective measure of their worth the less miserable you become
