I've known her for years but not seen her in a decade.Im 26 and shes 28. Her grandfather and my grandfather grew up on the same street so that's how our families know eachother. I went to my grandmas the other day and she was just there, only now did I find out that shes there until the end of June. her family moved to the USA like 20 years ago and mine stayed in the UK.I will be seeing her for like almost every day until the end of June when she flies out back to Atlanta because I am always at my grandmas in the workshop.I just don't know how to handle this. I wouldn't be stressed if this happened at Uni or through a female friend or something but I have found myself into someone highly compatible but it's all happening at my grandmas house...My grandma finds her laziness a little annoying as she can be quite slow but I find it charming. I made good first impressions when seeing her after a decade just coasting off the surprise since I didn't know she'd be there... but now I'm getting kinda nervous and stressed, like she's cute and clearly a bit lonely since she's staying away from family and doesn't know anyone here.I was planning to offer to show her around the area since I have a car, but I don't want to be weird --- because it all feels awkward since my grandma will be there. My grandma is wise, I don't want her to think i'm preying on her.Mature people of this board, please advise so that I won't be a freak. How do I:( a recent design graduate looking for work, often scruffy sewing and fabricating in a workshop most days, also into esoteric Christianity and sometimes linux & tech)Charm a:(homebody, kind, caring, sweet normal girl who is aspiring to be a teacher)?My ex was quite a normal sweet girl but I was 21 at the time and kinda just bullshitted my way into that relationship but now that I'm older I don't know how to win the heart of a more mature woman.This is serious. Thank you
>>34581510Oh no, sir... we don't allow such language in the advice board. This is a place for Anons to help each other out (◍•ᴗ•◍)ChatGPT says that you might be projecting ? Should I refer you to the emotional wellbeing team ? I hear they do great things over there.Don't worry- I'll CC you in.
>>34581549erm okay we've got an edgelord on our hands.I've already made her laugh plenty- my main concern is that it's at my grandmas so I'm trying to navigate that weirdness surrounding that. But also since I've been kinda out of the game for a few years. Back in 2023-2024 I was able to get decent attention from artsy girls at my uni but that was through my eccentricism... Only had eyes for one of them regretfully because in hindsight there a super hot Turkish classmate that actually wanted me but I was blind. Had like handful Taiwanese and Chinese girls within my grasp but east asians are just not my type at all.That was 2 years ago and since then I've kinda just been in and out of work and grinding away at personal projects so like I can understand that I might sound retarded now in the way that I type. Getting old I guess. A gremlin in the making. So your mentioning of my writing style is valid and I will pay more attention to it thanks.Still hoping for a wrinkled brain to reply to this thread though.Cheers.
Listen, you both are in your late 20s so forget about what grandma thinks.You need to confidently invite her out like you suggested. During your outing, keep it ambiguous but look for little opportunities to flirt. You'll be able to tell if she is interested by her reactions. Just go for it.
>>34581585be specific about it then. What is it about the way I write ? And what does that imply about my presence IRL?
>>34581510>>34581549>>34581585>>34581594Why are you such a jerk?>>34581501>I was planning to offer to show her around the area since I have a car, but I don't want to be weirdDo it, it's not weird, unless you wait too long for it.>>34581501>Mature people of this board>How do I>Charm>?Just ask her out, if you try getting close as friends it will only get weird.
>>34581613Just because you're an incel, doesn't mean OP has to be one too. Go cum on one of your socks and leave this board, pls.
>>34581588Thank you for the bump in confidence. The anxiety comes from the fact that this is sort of high risk- unlike a woman unconnected to people I know, if I am just a little too awkward my family might end up knowing about it and it's semi disastrous because some of them are pretty uptight. Usually I wouldn't care to much after a short amount of time. I think I'll offer to drive her to a nearby royal park because I know a couple spots. My strategy with shyer girls is to just be calm and curious and ask about them and be a little pushy at times but I think I need to be much more careful this time around.Like If I am to be much more chill It's going to be harder to get information out of her. She doesn't talk too much unless prompted- at least so far.Thanks>>34581594Damn how did I acquire such a hater from this post in the advice board of all places ? LOL>>34581609You know... I admit I am boyish, too much for my age even. I do have to man up, I was raised without a father, but these past 7 years have been parenting myself and at least in regards to women it worked well enough embracing my eccentric and less traditional masculinity. > realistic, robust, savage.Sure, But I have other qualities like wit, creativity in engineering and when in the mood and not being mogged by some chad I can liven a room up.> Therefore, you will fantasize and jerk off as usual, and get ZERO pissy from this 28 year old bitch.Bahahahaha okay man.>>34581618>Just ask her out, if you try getting close as friends it will only get weird.Okay any tips on this? because this is what I'm worried about. I never just gossip and giggle or whatever- always clearly trying to understand a girl better when one on one- and testing the waters etc... but because friendship might be assumed by default since our families have been friends for a couple generations, it might be hard to move away from that- and if I am too straight forward then it could be damaging
>>34581622>>34581627The only spot you hit was your own. You're an incel, you will never even get a sniff of pussy in your entire life, the sadder thing is that you're miserable and you want others to feel like you, it clearly won't work though, OP already had sex, and he will probably bag this one as well, now, you can go jerk off into your sock, you won't be missed, lol
>>34581684>if I am too straight forward then it could be damagingYou will have to take this risk OP. I promise you that it will be less damaging that if you're not direct. I'm sure she will understand if things don't work out, and if she rejects you, take it as a champ (unless it's one of those rejections in which she raises objections, then you have to convince her that these objections don't matter). Just wait a moment in which she is alone with you, try to do some small talk and ask her out, if you can't do it personally, message her. Do you have her socials?
>>34581729>>34581738Samefagging, you're still an incel btw, lol
>>34581777>How's that killing yourself thing we talked about coming along?You should follow your own advice. You're still an incel, though. I'm glad I hit the spot.
>>34581706I think she's quite culturally millennial and only uses facebook but I'm not sure. I'll get her number casually in a few days when I'm there next and just use iMessage. >You will have to take this risk OP. I promise you that it will be less damaging than if you're not direct.man... I think I will drive her around one of these days soon... but since I will be seeing her for like 3 times a week until July I will move slowly and get to know her more before I am more direct- just to get more of a taste to see if I actually want this (like a couple weeks).In the meantime I will naturally keep things lighthearted and try to be funny. if we get along I will to move things forward, if she stays sort of distant then I will respect it because like we will definitely be occasionally seeing eachother for the rest of our lives lol. like every 2-5 years their family come to visit.I should mention that this side of the family is middle eastern, so the culture around attraction and dating not an open one. They're all moderately religious.Thanks for your time, I hope my plan isn't too wimpy or slow. Just that the risks are higher for potential awkwardness or embarrassment with this one- with the possibility of extending into the future too. Plus she is quite awkward so that's an additional layer of difficulty... I will struggle to read her.
>>34581832>I will move slowly and get to know her more before I am more direct- just to get more of a taste to see if I actually want this (like a couple weeks)>I should mention that this side of the family is middle easternYeah, I had no taken this into consideration, I think the plan of moving slowly might work just fine. Just don't pussy out when you're certain you want something with her.
>>34581839>prontoWho would have known you're a fucking shitskin?>Did someone molest the shit out of you or somethingSpics have a higher molestation than any race. I guess you're projecting.The only sex you're having is with your uncle, and this isn't even a joke, LFMAO
>>34581847>ZERO pussy.Right, that's what you're gonna get for the rest of your remaining shitty life, Juan
LOL the spic got banned, I just checked other threads and several of his comments got deleted, I guess nobody likes that piece of shit, I hope he read this, LOL
>>34581856Damn almost feel bad.If they explained themselves a bit more instead of just repeating the same >ZERO PUSSYthen it would've been a more interesting conversation.
>>34581501relax, hold frame and make her laugh.Don't be a silly billy
