hi aha, im a teenager and im dealing with severe body and face dysmorphia. i cant really look into mirros cus if i do, i see a completely different face everytime and it makes me sad, mad and just lost. i hate how i look like and my friend who lets just call horse doesnt really help. i has a fucking folder for pics of me? and its not like those romantic ones, i asked whats it for and he wont tell me, he just says "to spread it". its really weird in my opinion and i keep asking him to stop taking pics of me but he doesnt stop no matter what. im kinda in a shitty situation mentally cus abuse from family and stuff but im fine with that. its just him who keeps doing this. i dont care what it takes i want him to stop so if anyone could like just recommend me to do stuff, it would come handy aha!
>>34584814> He won't stop cause he ain't your friend...Get new friends.
well, weve been friends since 6th grade and its kinda weird now, he got into a new friend group and that might be the reason but im really not sure and its not like i just can not be someones friend
>>34584825Just casually spread some of the secrets or misinformation to someone popular or influential in the other friend group. Don’t make it obvious — just drop it naturally like it’s normal gossip. He’ll quickly drop back down to the bottom of the social ladder after.
>>34584859im not really social, even though people say they like me, i dont feel comfortable with anyone just a few people that i could count on one hand. i dont want to bring horse down, i jus want all this to stop but i could give it a try. im not sure if it would work tho because hes the type to admit to anything hes a disgusting person sometimes
>>34584876>Target his friends individually B, C, and D When you’re alone with one of them, casually drop something like,“I heard from A that you have a small dick,” or “A was telling people you’re gay.”Say it like it’s no big deal, almost like passing gossip. Don’t show any hate toward A. After dropping the line, immediately change the subject and move on naturally.Do this with each of them separately with different lies. His reputation will quietly crumble without you ever looking like the villain.
>>34584915okay hold on, i have my best friend, lets say hes AD. me and AD are really close, we are football partners and just good friends. then theres horse, he is from my priamry school, and we were friends since 6th grade now we are in the same highschool. me AD and horse are in a friendgroup and there are like 10 of us. this friendgroup started out pretty well it was fun but lately horse and like 90% of the friendgroup started vaping, drinking, partying etc which we all found corny years ago. these days horse and the friendgroup turned really toxic aside me, AD, and 2 more people. so the majority of the friendgroup is becoming their own independent friendgroup and thats where horses new friends are, so im not sure how i could make gossips about him. sorry if my explanitaion is a bit weird, im not the most rested right now.if you just wanna skip it, basically gossips are not really viable but i do really appriacte the help, means a lot!
>>34584930Honestly don't recommend it but, one of the quickest ways for a target to stop being singled out is to redirect the group's attention toward someone perceived as weaker. It's a cruel tactic, but it often requires less work and creates less immediate drama for the person doing it. In many cases, the group follows along because they're looking for entertainment, even when that entertainment comes at someone else's expense.
>>34584957yeah not proud to admit i did try to redirect it but its not really that, hes like obsessed with taking pics and doint something with it and its really creepy and weird and its nobody else just him, really fucking weird
>>34584963Then tell a teacher otherwise goodluck.
>>34584814how old are you?this place is very bad for young developing mindsthis pace is bad for everyone but worse for some more than others
>>34584965considering it or telling his mom ill just give it a bit of time
>>34584967oh well im not an adult yet but i promise its okay, i wont let stuff get to me too much, most of my trauma and stuff are cus of family issues so my friend doin allat isnt the main issue, just really weird and doesnt help
>>34584967Dude it's High School just say he takes creepy picture of me and they will interfere
>>34584973and would that help? im genuienly asking since i never really told teachers stuff
>>34584977Yes also worse if he has the pictures saved in his phone lol that will be really terrible for him.
>>34584984oh he has a dedicated folder for me, creep
>>34584985Then go the teachers or principal.
>>34584991alright ill give it a shot, thanks for the help aha
>>34584814Are you a woman or a man? If you're a man, and you tell teachers, they won't do jack shit about it. If you're a woman, they will obliterate him, and they should, this guy is weird for taking pics of you. One thing is for friends to take pictures together, or going out and taking pictures, but taking pictures without consent and having a folder full of them is weird and a big no no
>>34584997oh im a boy, thats why ive been a bit anxious to speak up this. plus i wouldnt say im ugly or anything, im just really uncomfortable in my skin and hate pictures of me or even my reflection. i asked him noumerous times and he jsut doesnt stop man
>>34585001>i asked him noumerous times and he jsut doesnt stop manYou have 2 options, spread rumors telling he is a creep that takes photos of people without their consent, or take photos of him at weird moments so he gets a taste of it. Preferably at awkward angles, when he blinks etc
>>34585081oh i tried doing it back to him and he just doesnt care but im hoping he realizes hes like a weirdo, if not ill def take actions based on what yall said
