My only friend proposed to his girlfriend sometime ago, I don't know when exactly they marry but I imagine it'll happen soonI'm very happy for him, but I just can't help but feel like shit when I talk to him now. Even just seeing couples out in public reminds me of how much of a loser I amI don't hate anyone, I swear I try so hard to be in good shape and to be a better person, but nothing I do ever works. Seeing better looking people than me at the gym makes me feel terrible tooI just wanna to hug, kiss and have sex just once before I die to at least know what it's likeThe mental breakdowns and crying over my loneliness has become a daily occurrence that prevents me from focusing during the day and sleeping at night. I need help I don't know what to do anymore
>>34587474You could have peace and genuine good will towards others if you stopped caring about outward things so much and started caring about your inward relationship with wisdom more. A man who loves his own relationship with truth more than he loves pursuing pleasure and comfort is never miserable or jealous.
>>34587474I hear you man. I often feel the same. So many of my friends are living great lives, some living in other countries, some with kids, most are married, or have great careers... and, while I am happy for them, it's good to see your old pals doing good in life afterall, it does makes me feel embarrassed to interact with them. I often cry and feel miserable, isolating myself more and more with each passing year. I like those people, but I feel bad, nevertheless.But my brother, I do not know of the circumstances that led you to the place you are in your life right now, but what I can say is that nothing is certain or set in stone in this life. You and me and others, we can still turn over a new leaf.Keep focusing on yourself. Ignore the others, not out of hate or envy or anything like that, but because if you keep comparing yourself, you might remain stuck. Keep taking care of yourself, your body, your mind, your future. It's all everyone can do in this life, to try their best, and create a path for themselves. Let's keep trying our best.
I think it's important to look at our life in its entirety so we can be kind to ourselves. Why do you feel that you're not where you're at in life right now? Did you have a difficult childhood? Did you mess up in your 20s and flunk out of college? Or did you just lack direction? Why don't have the same starting lines. Some are more privileged than others and some have to make mistakes before they realize what they want. So be kind to yourself. You're at where you are in life because you've been through a lot.
>>34587487That's easier said than done, all I ever do all the time is compare myself to others
>>34587538My childhood was very easy, I dropped out of college, failed a normal job, failed the military and am going back to college this fall. But I know damn well going in I'm gonna mess it up again. But all I'm really concerned with is love
>>34587500Thanks for the advice, it's hard to believe that this isn't just fate, it feels like I'm supposed to be like this sometimes
>>34588317But it is possible, which means you ought to be taking actionable steps towards attaining that goal every day rather than wallowing in self loathing. Compiling a list of logical arguments for why it's irrational and self defeating to compare yourself to others and meditating on it every day would be a fantastic way to start. Mastering your own mind is difficult, no one ever said it wasn't, but what could possibly be more worthwhile?
>>34588334Np OP. We can turn the tide and change fate to our favor.Best wishes, brother, and I mean it honestly.
