My parents were extremely strict when it came to nudity and sexual content when I was a kid. I wasn't exposed to porn until I was nearly 15 years old, excluding 1 or 2 nude images, which was after a handful of my friends started having sex. I was exposed to a lot of sexual talk due to the extremely deviant nature of my friend group though. I didn't have my first real girlfriend until junior year of high-school, and then after we broke up I started dating someone I had known for awhile right before I went back to college as a sophomore. While neither of these relationships were healthy or good for my mental health or theirs, they were both wildly degenerate, more so than anyone I had known personally or have yet to know. It didn't help that the 2nd girl was into everything the 1st was into and wayyy more. Fast forward. New relationship. Arguably in a better place with my mental health and physical situation and my new GF is genuinely a good person. While she can easily match my libido, she is effectively vanilla pretending to be otherwise. Almost every time I we have sex I end up fantasizing about my exes. This is taking a severe mental toll on me and our relationship. I need advice and probably help.
>>34588408What were the in anon? What are you missing?
>>34588427I am going to assume that you mean "what were they into". For my sake and their sake I am not going to give a detailed breakdown, but they were both into extremely hardcore BDSM, exhibitionism and free use. The 2nd girl was way more into exhibitionism and was obsessed with showing off her legs and ass. Both of them were arguably more attractive than my current gf as well however my current gf is still fairly attractive. Another difference is that both of those girls knew exactly what they wanted in bed and were willing to experiment.
>>34588455>Both of them were arguably more attractive than my current gf as well however my current gf is still fairly attractivewow, modern dating is so fucked
I just want A girlfriend bruh
>>34588464How attractive my girlfriend is or how high her libido is is not the problem. I am used to a certain caliber or sexual activity and my brain cant seem to cope with the fact that I'm not getting it, when I know that not only is it probably not healthy but also extremely rare to find one girl let alone two who were as wild as they were.
>>34588477find another girl who can meet your expectations then
>>34588486I have considered this however I would feel like a massive dick. I like my girlfriend, and I have tried to explain some of this to her while leaving out the part about my exes of course, and it just does not seem to work. I would rather change myself because I am aware that I am probably the problem.
>>34588490>I like my girlfriendjust like her? not love?
>>34588497While we have sex regularly it becomes boring. I used to love her, but now I really dont know. There are severe complications with me breaking up with her though so I dont think I'm going to do that. I can change or she can change and right now the easiest thing to do would be for me to change unless you have a special manual on how to reprogram women from the ground up.
>>34588509>There are severe complications with me breaking up with herlike what? do you two live together? if not id just leave her right now
>>34588512We live together and I am in a rather bad financial situation at the moment. While I am not leaching off of her it would cause me severe financial repercussions. It also does not help that I work for one of her relatives. Finding a new place to live, a new job, and moving all of my shit would be expensive. I would likely need to save up for months and line up a new job in order to continue living where I am and be able to break up with her. But then again, that's a dick move. My family situation is also very complicated so I would not be able to move back in with them and if they found out why I broke up with her there would be hell to pay.
>>34588408>deviant>degenerateStoip doing this shit.Sex is Sex, everyone has different needs and tastes. Yours happen to be a bit more rough, which is anything but unusual.Your parents are puritan weirdoes, and you should stop judging yourself for your own needs.>>34588455Look, if you're not sexually compatible, then you aren't. Its not going to go away. You will just spend an eternity in sexual frustration until you break up or cheat. Sex is one of the cornerstones of a functional relationship, even if it is not the only one. Theres plenty of nice and well adjusted girls who enjoy getting choked. Just look for one of those instead of forcing yourself to be something you aren't.Its not about how you have sex, but with whom you have it, and apparently you are now able to find non-crazy women.
>>34588408>more so than anyone I had known personally or have yet to know.Last one. How do you exactly imagien knowing about that? People don't tend to describe their sex lives in detail, not even to close friends.You know fuck all about how other people have sex. In all likelihood the most milquetoast couples you know are into some severely weird shit.
>>34588519>Theres plenty of nice and well adjusted girls who enjoy getting chokedYea my current gf is into choking, but the shit my exes were into were levels of magnitude more extreme. You are right though, I just need to put my non-sexual affairs in order before I break up. Also yes, my parents are puritan freaks. You are also right about the use of deviant and degenerate, just lingering vocabulary. >>34588522Many of the people I was around regardless of if they were guys or girls had 0 issues discussing their sex life, especially in middle school and high-school. Yes, I personally knew several people who were sexually active in middle school. Is this the norm? probably not. Were they lying? potentially, however some did in fact bring real receipts.
Anyways, OP here, might be back in an hour or maybe tomorrow morning. Dont know yet.
