Is everybody lonely at the core or is it just me. St which point do you get the "real love in within" bullshit
>>34591294I am lonely too OP, you're not alone.
>>34591294I can't speak for "everyone", but yes, I do feel lonely very frequently. I live in a large city that gives me almost constant access to meet new people and spend time with the people I have already met. I am single. I sometimes think about these "connections" I have with people around me, and how meaningless it feels. I almost feel that I go out to meet people and hang out with them just to stave off the pain of feeling alone, not to actually actively spend time with these people.I don't know your situation, but I don't belong to a community, as defined as a group of people on whom I rely and who rely on me in turn. Our mode of economic production (capitalism), combined with the degradation of public spaces, religion, and family, have made creating and joining community exceedingly difficult. Especially in a city. People search for relationships as a way to overcome this lack of community, I feel. But even relationships are devalued to the point that they have become commoditized, IMO. I am not coming at this from a right wing perspective, either; I think the problem is economic and technological as much as it is cultural.I sometimes think about the fact that we are totally solipsistic: no matter how attached or connected you may feel with someone, at the end of the day, all you have access to are your own thoughts, and everyone else around you only has their thoughts. Any semblance of shared conscious experiences are an illusion, and you are always fundamentally alone. I don't think I would think about that if I weren't lonely. I think the biggest escape from this is family, which is the most important thing in life. But even then, when I spend time with my family for more than a few days I feel somewhat alienated eventually.
I used to think Im broken because Ive always felt lonely but over the years I realised most people are lonely. My parents, parents in law, basically everyone I know has "friends" whom in my book I would consider acquaintances. But no deep deep friendships and bonds.Sadly even with family I often feel like there are just gaps we cannot bridge as another anon also mentioned ITT but its a mindset thing somewhat, you gotta find common ground with them and enjoy the interactions for what they are.
