Do you know how long you want / need apart to think things over? Obviously if you go to someone and say ''idk i don't wanna see you anymore for idk...'' they'll think you're being a bit of a cunt.

You said you've only been seeing them for a year. Do you live together? If this is someone who you see a few times a week and exchange messages with rather than someone you have to pay bills and manage responsibilities with, my friend, you have no idea what caged feels like.

Tbqh, it does sound like you just don't want to be with them. What do you even want to do with your freedom?

>>34592854
>Them, them, they

Shuut the fuck up faggot

>>34592854
See if you can be friends for a bit. Like 6 months. That will help tell you if he is even someone you get along with about be more with and it gives you breathing room to make space and pace dynamic.

>>34592860
Idk. I miss being able to go out by myself, do things on the weekend, drive places and make new experiences by myself. It feels like all my free time is spent with them.

We're not living together yet but they want us to be soon. It's all just happening so fast and the thought of commitment, getting a place together, being financially tied to each other, spending the rest of our lives together, it terrifies me. I like my own space and I like having my independence. I need room to breathe. I've barely started my adult life and it feels like I'm being rushed through it as soon as possible.

>>34592878
We were friends for 6 months before we dated. It felt better then, it wasn't super serious, it was fun and we got along. For the first few months of dating it was fine too but now it feels like there's such pressure to constantly meet expectations. It feels like I'm getting in too deep and I'm way in over my head, like if I don't say something soon it's going to be too late. They want to start a whole life together meanwhile I don't even know what I want out of life yet.

>>34592895
Sounds like you need to tell them you feel it's best you are friends like before, none of that romantic stuff. If they ask why or argue just say that this is how you feel and as your friend they need to respect that.

>>34592895
If you just want to go places by yourself and you feel rushed through life at 20, they should understand that, desu. The worry, I'd think, for anyone when a partner says they want time apart to ''make experience experiences'' is that they mean meeting and screwing other people, and they're just a back up plan. If you do want to be with this person and you just need a bit of space, that's reasonable at 20, but if you are just stringing them along keeping them as backup in case you can't find anything better, they should recognize it as that. Just manage their expectations. If you come at someone with a lot of ''idk what i want... or when i will know what i want...'' it'd be in their best interest to leave you and move.

>>34592854
You're saying that you want to be able to fuck other people, right?

Break up with him instead. Putting your dude through a break is emotional torture because you may or may not come back and will probably fuck other dudes. Ik from experience ive dated women who would do this to me and it fucked me up.
> I miss being able to go out by myself, do things on the weekend, drive places and make new experiences by myself. It feels like all my free time is spent with them
You can do all these things in a relationship, idk why some people think you gotta spend every single moment of your freetime with your partner.

>>34592854
You can do literally all of that without having to break up you stupid idiot
>I should tell my partner I'd like to be able to go out and travel on my own from time to time, and communicate my needs and desires to the most important person i my life
>or uhhhh
>nah lets fuckin nuke the relationship instead fuck that

>>34592895
>miss being able to go out by myself, do things on the weekend, drive places and make new experiences by myself. It feels like all my free time is spent with them.
It isn't necessary to break up to fix this. Just tell him/her that you want to do things by yourself *sometimes*. So long as you're not cheating, they're not going to have a problem with that.

>>34592970
OP is a faggot dating a tranny (hence the "they" instead of "her") and hence thinks of nothing but unprotected sex with as many men as possible.

>>34592870
not OP but I type and speak like this all the time and have had a few people point this out. except im straight man with a wife. no clue why people get so pressed about it, any reason you can give me?

>>34592854
You have to pick one. Which will you regret more? Losing this person or not doing the things you'd like to do before you're committed?
Have you talked to your partner about doing those things? Why can't you do them while you're with them? Why are you being vague? Do you just want to fuck other people?
If you wanted to be with this person for the rest of your life fucking other people wouldn't matter to you, no need for a break in that case just make it a break up. Sometimes the right thing to do still makes you feel bad.

>>34595669
Yeah of course, I'll explain, and I'm being dead serious: It's nu-speak, the goy globohomo media has instilled this into the mind of the new generations, and by new I mean us (I'm 30, born in 1996), this bullshit never existed.
Then SJW's were born, and they wanted to get rid of gender assumptions, so they conducted a psyop, which was at it's worst in the 2010 woke era where trans and black people were absolutely untouchable worldwide, and just saying anything negative about them would get you absolutely ostracized from society with heavy consequences for your social life and even work. Opinions like the ones we have today under Donald Trump were absolutely silenced. Even me as an accepting person, who loves everyone, blacks and trans included - I felt the psyop. I felt compelled to use they/them and say "my partner" instead of "my girlfriend", I would gasp when I heard the N word being used and would defend the peoples ears from hearing this word. I was a teenager when all of this was going down. Later down the line I understood that this is gayspeak, this is a way to make everyone is compliant in their speech with SJW values, where gender is not assumed. The very use of they/them indicates to everyone that "gender does not matter", when in fact it matters so freaking much, and there is NO shame that should be associated what so ever in admitting to the world that this is your WIFE or your husband. So yeah. Critically think how it became normalized for you and you'll see that you never wondered because everyone on Reddit and the internet does this, even people IRL do this. I used to do it IRL too, not anymore, not after I understood that I've been played by American media and the psyop conducted by SJW's.
So that's why OP this homo can go shove it - whether he's an actual homo or he's a dude with a gf, he's still a faggot for using this nuspeak and he can go shove it away from my sensible eyes.

You already know you want to break up with him and take a step back for your own space. Explain you only see him a friend and want it to be like that again.

>>34595685
I will regret them both. At the moment I feel unfulfilled and restrained, I want to be free again. But I know if I left them I would hate myself for it and I would want nothing more than to have them back. It's the fear that if I do I might lose them forever. But if I stay I'll HAVE to be with them forever. It's not that I don't like them or don't want to be with them, I do, just not yet, it's too soon.

I really do love them and I want to be with them, but at the moment I feel I have no free time to myself or freedom to go out by myself. I also feel so sexually frustrated and unsatisfied currently. I get that it's wrong to feel that way and it's not fair on them. They will think I'm keeping them as a spare or a backup plan. I guess it's the fear that I can't control everyone's lives and have things exactly how I want.

I know whatever I do I'll regret both options. I just don't know what will be the best for both of us long term.

Faggot, state the gender like a proper person you tranny lover

>>34596313
You need to break it off and figure yourself out before offering someone any kind of commitment. You don't seem to be ready for a relationship and will honestly die alone. Youre wasting someone else's precious time and are sick in the head. Give up and let them go live their life WITHOUT YOU