Is it normal to not want to date anymore at 29 years old?I was engaged to my first gf from 16-17 years old (didnt work out, long distance), had an LTR of 1 year when I was 18-19 and another LTR of 3 years at 21-24. I then just dated casually for a few years, just going on dates and having short term relatonships.Now at 29 I don't even want to put up with dating apps or nightlife to even invite girls over to my place despite being able to do it often before. I'm just bored of it. Is it normal? I'm just wondering if I should embrace this or if it's a comfort I'd never get out of. I think I just lost hope finding a good wife or building a family and the one night stand sex never feels worth all the effort
>>34593472How did you get engaged to someone that was long distance
>>34593479met off a youtube video and she lived in Scandinavia lolThe plan was moving over from USA so I could get free college and go to school together. We drifted away at our senior year of high school though unfortunately
Im in the same spot anon. Long term relationships just feel like a job babysitting another person's shortcomings for deminishing returns. Starting a family is not even close to an option financially even with my well paying job. The one night stands are a ton of work for subpar sex. Im comfortable too, I can do whatever I want outside of work hours, I can see friends whenever and however long I want. I used to be depressed about being single. Now im happy that nobody controls me anymore. But I am saddened that this is all there is, that no romantic connection or intimacy exists for me in the world, that im running out of time to have kids, thats what saddens me, is that despite all the fun and freedom, its unfulfilling.
>>34593503Yeah, essentially as an adult male I pretty much have 0 problems in my life. When I introduce other people into it then I have problems that I have to solve for them. All my girlfriends besides the first I had to stress out on what career they should go for or how to remediate their fucked family/friend situations etc. I usually would break up because I just had enough and wanted to go back to no problems in my life, just working my job, stacking investments and playing some games with my friends/brothers/dad irl or online after work.>Starting a family is not even close to an option financially even with my well paying jobYeah, I honestly don't event think they'll have any jobs to do in the future either. If you're not rich it's making yourself into a slave to birth more slaves (children will be indoctrinated to join the military, burdened with paying pensions to strangers and subsidies to foreigners, etc)>The one night stands are a ton of work for subpar sex.Yep I'm definitely above average in looks so I can pull this off every week off dating apps/bars if I wanted, but there's so much emotional investment needed and rejection you have to go through that the 15 min of pleasure hardly justifies all that. Even in relationships you only have sex like 1% of the time for how long you're together. >unfulfillingyeah, I kind of feel there's no future to really look forward to. The only cope I have is just embracing the present as much as I can and setting things up every month a year ahead to look forward to, like traveling somewhere new, working on various art projects, or seeing my investment portfolio hit 7 figures eventually and retiring early. When I was young and naive I thought I'd build a huge family while building some business empire. I tried my best for a long time at business and pretty much gave up on that either, just sticking to my good job + stocks to realistically make the most without stressing my mind out.
Focus on yourself, if stop trying, you might then meet someone later that fit into your life well.I'm 38, going through divorce, I have no interest in getting into another relationship. I have no desire to be in love again. I've had a few dates, slept with a few women and it hasn't done much for me at all.Right now, I struggle to know what I want from a partner, I struggle to know what it is I am actually attracted to anymore. I'm going to do my own thing and see what happens.
>>34593539On the bright side anon, you and I have one thing many dont and that is a peaceful life. And I'll take the low stress no drama life over the constant problem solving any day. Sometimes I talk to friends in relationships, or married (both male and female) and the shit they have to deal with sounds just ridiculous. So, sometimes, even though going to bed alone sometimes hurts, there's just as many times where its liberating as hell.
>>34593472She also has a nice cunt.
