i Met these guys back in 2018 and kept talking to them till this year, the group kept shrinking and one of the dude's made a new server with like 5 people because he didnt like the rest of the group. fast foward to today and they're all on VC at this new and exclusive server i dont have access, so i have to BEG them to go to our old server to talk to me.are these fuckers my friends or am i just coping at this point?
>>34594559I wouldn't destroy the relationship but maybe look elsewhere for more and try to improve socially.
>>34594559Online """""friendships""""" are never real. They might seem like friends but will discard you when you're not in tune with their collective psychosis. If they're doing this shit then leave them
>>34594559Does the dude that made the new server dislike you?If not, you can either joke about it, or just wait to see if they remember you, or if they join the old server.In any case, I think begging to be called is bad. It'd hurt my pride.
Online relationships are basically an illusion of connection, you're basically talking to edited down persona and can never sus people out fully, which is already difficult irl but at least you can't hide so much. What have you done to keep the friendship going for these guys anyway?
>>34594559they don't like you, find new friends.
>>34594835i kept being friends cuz i didnt have much going on irl
Find people to create things with. Artists, writers, etc.These are the type of online friends I have created close relationships with.
>>34594559So its probably just the one dude that doesn't like you, controlling narcissist. Other people are passive observers. They see the one dude sitting in call and just join, dont think to disrupt the ecosystem by going to the old server.If you've known them for this long I don't think its worth cutting the whole group off. I had a similar dynamic with a group of 7 high school friends where one of them didnt like me and found out he had a group chat with 3 others where they talked shit about the rest of us. Basically told them delete this shit or I'm out of here, they did and all the shit talk immediately stopped because it was all coming from that one cowardly guy in that one group.I'm still friends with them and I've forgiven the other 3 who have sufficiently apologized but I just avoid the one guy. Basically my point here is you have one problematic and toxic individual ruining your friend group, you have to fight back against it. Tell them its not worth it for you to stay in contact if they won't invite you to this Discord since you're tired of begging them. If they say "ok whatever" then they were bad friends and its time to find new ones.
>>34597062This, stand up for yourself. It's plausible the dude doesn't like you but they're still friends with him and it's just a more active VC. In which case, it's understandable to not invite you, but they still need to make more of an effort. My friend group had a schism once where only like two of us ended up still being friends with everybody and both of us make an effort to spend time with both groups. Not everybody is going to get along and it's unfair to expect them to drop ties with somebody they do get along with but if they care about you then they'll find time for you.Also worth noting it's possible the issue is with other people in the group if they're regularly in the old VC. My friends added people that were really fucking annoying and it made me hesitate a lot to spend time with them for worry that they'd tag along even if I tried to suck it up.
