I'll try to keep this brief. I recently saw a stage play and became instantly, overwhelmingly infatuated with one of the actors. Now I really want to shoot my shot, but I have no idea when or how.The problem is that he's not based in my state, so for all I know it could be months or even years before he comes back. I also don't want to be weird about it. I can't go to one of his performances in another state and be like, "Hi, I drove six hours so I could see you."My goal isn't for anything physical to happen. I'm in a relationship, my goal isn't to cheat. I just want to know whether there's any kind of vibe between me and this guy. Like, throw out some flirtatious energy and see if I get any back, or not.I haven't been taken with someone like this since I was a teenager, so it's difficult to know how to approach it.
>>34596604>my goal isn't to cheat i just want to see if i can cheat with this guyPlease be a larp
>>34596631My goal is not to stick my tongue down this guy's throat. I just want to see if I can sense some kind of mutual interest. It's not a sexual thing.
>>34596637Throwing out some flirtatious energy for the sake of evaluating him as a potential romantic partner is cheating.
>>34596637Emotional cheating is still cheating. ESPECIALLY flirting with another man is cheating.>My goal is not to stick my tongue down this guy's throat>became instantly, overwhelmingly infatuated>I really want to shoot my shot>throw out some flirtatious energyInstant dump and heartbreak if I found out my gf was obsessed with another man
>>34596641I'm not evaluating him as a potential romantic partner.
>>34596653>Emotional cheating is still cheating. ESPECIALLY flirting with another man is cheating.Oh, come on. Saying something to someone in a playful or flirtatious tone of voice is not cheating. Yes, I know it's not great that I find someone other than my partner so attractive. I have mixed feelings about it.
>>34596668>Saying something to someone in a playful or flirtatious tone of voice is not cheating.Yes it is, that should be for your partner only>I find someone other than my partner so attractiveThis is only cheating if you act on it and in making this thread you clearly have the desire to. You have 3 options>move on and pretend like this never happened and stay with your partner>break up and chase the other dude>cheat
>>34596604>instantly, overwhelmingly infatuated with one of the actorsThis kind of behaviour is pathetic and the person in question is going to find you very annoying.
>>34596709>This kind of behaviour is pathetic and the person in question is going to find you very annoying.I have enough self-awareness not to ACT like someone who's pathetically infatuated.>>34596706Yes, I'm aware that I won't be receiving a medal for my pure-heartedness. I don't subscribe to your belief that speaking to someone in a playful or flirtatious tone is cheating.
You got infatuated with this actor because you saw him play a role. You don't actually know what he is like.
>>34596725Yeah, I'm trying to keep my feet on the ground about that. Actually, when I finally saw what he looked like not covered in makeup, I was surprised by how dorky he looked. Nonetheless, it didn't really sway me. I'm smitten enough that I could probably accept just about anything.
>>34596654Then why do you want to meet him and see what the vibe is like between the two of you? Be honest with yourself; this is inappropriate.
>>34596717>I don't subscribe to your belief that speaking to someone in a playful or flirtatious tone is cheating.Ask your husband what he thinks.>I don't wannaGee, I wonder why.
>>34596735It's an end in itself. I know we're not going to fall in love and run away together, I'm not completely insane. But I would just like to shoot my shot somehow, to take action of SOME kind.I suppose I'm also just thirsty for more contact with him, no matter what kind. I'd be rapturously excited if I just had the opportunity to sit and listen to him talk, even about trivial nonsense.I know it's inappropriate. I don't deny it's inappropriate.
>>34596637>It's not a sexual thing.Yes it is.
>>34596604>My goal isn't for anything physical to happen. I'm in a relationship, my goal isn't to cheat. I just want to know whether there's any kind of vibe between me and this guy. Like, throw out some flirtatious energy and see if I get any back, or not.This is textbook emotional cheating. If you don't believe me, then ask yourself why you aren't willing to tell your boyfriend that you're considering doing this.
>>34596744Then keep it in the realm of fantasy. Keep it in your pants, anon.I'd be extremely disappointed if I learned my girlfriend posted a thread like this. I'd consider dumping her over it.
>>34596828No, it isn't.>>34596837It would hurt my feelings if my wife started rhapsodizing to me about how ravishingly attractive she found someone else, regardless of whether or not she'd done anything about it. I think hearing about it would hurt her feelings, probably worse than it would mine if I were in her place.
>>34596744disgusting, never tell your boyfriend about thisthink long and hard about your priorities
>>34597083Forgive me, I was unaware that you were all such paragons of virtue.
>>34597266Did you want our advice and opinions or not? This is shitty, anon.
>>34597271I'm aware that it's problematic. I have mixed feelings about it.I'm glad to hear your advice (if any) and opinions. At the same time, I have to roll my eyes at anyone who falls into a seizure over the fact that I'm considering speaking to someone in a flirtatious tone.
>>34596604I’ve said this to enough guys lately to not be a misogynist, go fuck yourself and then rethink your entire decision making process
>>34597278You should get real with yourself and unmix those feelings. I cant imagine you're actually very attracted to your boyfriend at all if you're so wrapped up in this.
>>34597328Her boyfriend probably can't satisfy her. If he kept her satisfied this wouldn't be happening.
>>34596744To me, it's obvious that you want him to seduce and fuck you, but have him take responsibility for it. "It just happened" bro>>34597351If your boyfriend can't satisfy you, the right thing to do is to end the relationship rather than to prolong it.
>>34597497To me, it’s obvious this is written by a guy, maybe as the bf writing his account from the woman’s perspective as a coping mechanism. Women are too socially aware to write this, it’s a step more believable than a woman writing about how she loves big cock and jizz
>>34597543No, I'm a guy. Haven't claimed otherwise.
>>34597554That's gay.
>>34597557Yeah, I'm aware. This guy is something, though.
>>34597558What is some good gay media you like or media in general? I like Tim Dillon but I’m pretty sure his audience is all straight guys
>>34597561idk. I'm not gay, certainly not "culturally gay."
>>34596604>I just want to know whether there's any kind of vibe between me and this guy. Like, throw out some flirtatious energy and see if I get any back, or not.Sure. Monkey branching. Very common.
>>34597672>Monkey branching.I'm not going to run off with some guy just because I thought he looked good in Elizabethan dress. Why blow it out of proportion?
>>34597758Only because he'll reject you.
>>34597650You went to a play (gay) and fell in love with a man (gay) and now you’re getting catty with me
Go for it. The fact you like someone else tells you that your current boyfriend is not enough for you.
