How to find find a joy in life when you know you will be forever alone and won't have a beautiful family that you wished for?
>>34596743If you're attractive you'll get another one anon. If you aren't, please don't reproduce. Do us all a favor, thank you for your attention to this matter
It gets better after a while. The pain will very slowly subside over time. I loved a girl once and dated her for almost 3 years. It took me around 4 to fully get over it because I was pathetically lonely and struggling for a while. Now im not bothered by it at all and the pain has subsided. Dont believe that you will never be loved again as you will subconiously fulfill that easily. I know because I did the same! Also I always say this for advice but develop healthy coping methods. Develop a hobby to physically exert yourself once a day and another hobby to emotionally express yourself once a day. For me it is running/lifting and playing music.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EBVB7a94O_4>We were lost in a whirling dance>Never slowing down>Long enough to give truth a chance>To come out>So that the light could shine in>And open your eyes>If it's not real, there's no reason to frown>Open your eyes>Let's not let what never was bring us down
>>34596859I am at least somewhat attractive, but was thinking that it might be a favor to the universe. Just painful to admit it.
>>34596743This life is painful, be a man and give some back.
>>34596903Did you eventually found love again?
>>34596931I have not been in a romantic relationship since. However I have finally learned to love myself in the past year and its the best I've felt in a decade. Only took me 25 years lmao. When I was younger I would cope for my self hatred by having a girl love me in place of myself. After I got muh heart destroyed I was very troubled, suicidal, and alcoholic for a while so ofc I found no love. I was also very socially avoidant as well and squandered many opportunities. Learn from my mistakes and don't use this feeling as an excuse to destroy yourself. You have it in you to find another love.
>>34597002you are wise anon, thank you for your advice
>>34596743What if they do want to come back to you but they didnt commit to the goals they wanted to do to go back to you. I.e they were retarded.
>>34598751In my understanding, I would have done everything to stay in relationship...For me its impossible anyway, because I am totally blocked for many years and I already begged for them to come back lol.I just had a relapse of missing them badly
>>34597002Real talk. You can be sad, but don't use that as an excuse to do nothing, become alcoholic, constantly masturbate chasing dopamine, etc. I just left a 4yr relationship about 2 months ago and it stings, but I also remind myself why it didn't work and why I shouldn't just stop living simply because me and a woman aren't compatible.
>>34598938Why are you blocked?
>>34600906I had a mental breakdown and I was begging them to come back. It truly was the lowest point of my life.
>>34601218Almost felt like my situation but that was a few years ago and now I realised too something too late and I have accept things as they are I guess.
>>34601905Mine was almost 4 years ago. But its probably how it usually goes: anxious attached people beg and avoidants finally leave. I guess it didn't work out for a reason.
>>34596743You are never alone anon, God is always by your side, wishing you luck, telling you he loves you, asking you to come home. Alone is not a real thing, alone is the lie satan tells you to draw you down into hell with him where he is indeed alone and away from God. You aren't alone anon because I am here, talking to you now. Showing you the way to the room full of people waiting for you to show up. You just have to be brave enough to walk through the door.
>>34596859Ha this has be so conflicted in my life. On one hand I feel like life is pointless without having kids, and my lonliness makes me want to kill myself. On the other hand I hate this world and if my kid is like me at all he will have an absolutely miserable experience in this world. So the moral choice is to kill myself and not reproduce. But I can't because my parents would be sad. So I just bide my time with my negative thoughts and play videogames to distract myself.
>>34602144thank you for your kind words
>>34596743>How to find find a joy in life when you know you will be forever aloneWhat I did was I looked inwards and analysed my life to work out why our relationship failed. What was it about me, what was it about her, what was it about us.Then I changed what I needed to and found someone else.It took about 18 months.
>>34602330I don't think I can love anyone else
>>34602395the problem is I dated several people and at first I like them and then I start finding them annoying
>>34596743why are you acting like you live in a zoo enclosure. did they move your girlfriend to a different zoo? are you going to spend the rest of your life alone in an exhibit getting popcorn thrown at you by children? No? Then quit being a fucking faggot. There are always girls on the girl tree. Pick a new fruit to eat.
>>34596743you have to treat exes like they are dead. it took me TWO YEARS to get over my first girlfriend. i tried really hard to make it work but she would not put in the effort to communicate her feelings directly. it is what it is. it helps a lot to meet other girls so you can realize that she was just one girl out of 8 billion. you will find someone.
>>34604038>>34604522I'm actually a woman, maybe this will make more sense to you.
