I'm so sad anons. I broke up with an amazing woman because I finally realized I couldn't keep pretending we had a future together when I couldn't see myself with her long-term. Everything was perfect but the material conditions just weren't there. I'm slipping back into isolation and depressive psychosis already. Her last message to me was so cold and resigned but I know she's hurting too. I feel like there's nothing more I can say because I don't want to keep arguing anymore.I don't know if I can move on, this time. I know what I have to do. I know how to get my life back on track. But I just can't bring myself to do anything. I spent the last two years of my life worrying about her and caring for her and changing my behavior to show up better and be the person she needs, but it just wasn't enough.
>>34597185If you love somebody, set them free.
>>34597185what material conditions weren't there?
>>34597317I love her so much. I want to selfishly keep talking to her but I can't give her false hope again. >>34597322She has kids, a busy life, a lot of stuff going on that made it so that I had to fit into her schedule and basically mold my life around hers. I'm sure she would disagree. But she is also very social and I couldn't deal with the jealousy I felt whenever she told me about all the people she talked to and all the fun she had without me.
>>34597185I understand the feeling quite well. I went through almost the same situation, and it still pains me when I remember it.Had know this amazing woman for years. Got to know her life story, her struggles, her views, and also shared mine. We both supported and cared for each other. We were also on a very similar station in life at the time. It felt like destiny. I admired her determination and her intelligence so much. I legit had a sense of kinship and admiration for her that I never felt for someone before. But to cut to the chase, it didn't work because, similarly to you, I didn't believe it would work on the long run, not because of her, but because of me. I felt like she had a spark, a fire in her I didn't, and I didn't want to drag her down, after she had worked so hard to get up.I'm sorry about your situation, brother. It's tough. You feel like you've just let something amazing pass you by.My advice is to give yourself some time. Breaking from a relationship, specially one where things were doing good is always hurtful, there's no getting around it. Rest, distract yourself, dedicate yourself to your work and other things to allow yourself to take your mind off of things. This kind of situation takes some time to heal.You can try to understand your reasoning at any point. It may have made sense for you at the time, but perhaps it won't for future relationships.My since best wishes to you, OP.
>>34597185>broke up with an amazing woman>>34597353>She has kids,
>>34597390Thank you for the kind words anon. I'm sorry you had to experience this too. I felt similarly about her. We told each other everything. She overcame so much and I just wanted to help make her life a little bit easier. She's so smart, witty, compassionate, kind, empathetic. She's also very strong-willed and stubborn to a fault, but I loved that too.At the end of the day though, I still felt worthless, I felt insecure, I felt like I wasn't good enough. She made me feel happiness beyond words, but it was everything else in her life that made me feel like I could never be the person I truly wanted to be, both for her and for myself.I have to focus on my work again. My body, my mind. I let myself go. I forgot how it felt to have confidence, to be strong, to feel inner peace.
>>34597448Well, I dunno. Single mothers get a bad rap but they also tend to be more mature, they know what they want, they don't have time to waste. Sometimes I think that if I were a single father it would have worked out, since I wouldn't have felt like just some guy coming into her life.
>>34597448People out here simping for single mothers lmao.
>>34597448So what? She can't be amazing because she has kids?
>>34597185women stay with losers like this and won't give me a chance
>>34597620How many single mothers have you asked out?
>>34597533No problem OP. Like I said, it's tough.Don't feel demotivated by stuff people here or anywhere say. It's easy to judge others.Keep working on yourself and strive to do good. Good luck, brother.
>>34597637I have banged at least 3 mothers, one had an older daughter who was like 19 and hot that we hung out with.
This is a larp demoralization narc same fagging thread in an attempt to influence emotions and perception of me. Ignore this thread
>>34599331What?
>>34597353>she has kids Anon. Absolutely nothing of value was lost, good for you for dropping her.Now, one last thing: how old are you?
>>34597619Yes. Are you retarded? Being a single mother is the male equivalent of being a rapist or in jail for 20 years.>What? The guy cant be amazing because he is a rapist and a deadbeat in prison?Thats how you sound to men
>>34599368You're comparing having kids to committing a crime? How deranged are you?
>>34599376Adultery and being a whore ought to be a crime. If she couldnt keep it in her pants.In the Bible this sin is exactly on the same level as being a rapist.And for good reason
>>34599396You know she could've been married but got divorced?
>>34599398Thats also horrible, why did she divorce her husband? Or why did she marry someone so horrible?Either way it doesnt look good for her.Sorry, not gonna fly.Its like going to jail for something where you stole a car out of poor judgment then.The only exception is when she is a widow. But a widow is not a single mother, those are two completely different things
