I'm not the most social person in the world so I've been struggling a little bit with relationships. I mostly just watch Miyazaki movies at home with my cat whenever I'm not at work.I recently slept with a guy I've known for years, and it wasn't what I thought it would be. I always pictured myself as straight, and I thought sex was supposed to be something that excites you and feels good.It felt okay. I didn't feel anything special when I saw his penis, and I thought I was supposed to, but I just looked at it and thought "that looks weird but maybe it feels good". I'm kinda questioning if I'm straight at all, or what the deal is.
>>34597780Youre definitely a lesbo. Break up with the guy immediately and go fuck other women.
unless your brain is broken sex only feels good and exciting with a partner you're in love with.
>>34597839Lies. Sex only feels good if you're oriented with the right person. You're a lesbian having sex with a man, you're going to be miserable, end of story.
>>34597780You should rub your clitty more often, you sound pretty boring When was the last time you gave yourself an orgasm?
>>34597853Never? I was always taught masturbation is perverted so I haven't done that kinda stuff.
>>34597869And they didn't teach you that being gay is a ticket to hell? Lmao
>>34597845women need emotional connection to enjoy sex. she could be a lesbian, but she said she slept with a guy shes known for years, not someone she is romantically involved with. so that could be the explanation for why it felt lackluster.
sex without love is just two sweaty humans using each other to jerk off, might feel a somehow nice but postnut clarity will kill you
>>34597780If you are straight or not is up to you to figure out, don't listen to people pushing you one way or another.Regarding sex though, I do agree with >>34597839 in the sense that a big deal for sex feeling good is both people being eager to do the deed, and liking the other person romantically usually does the trick. When you do love the person romantically, you naturally desire to be with them. This makes your body react more positively to the person. Stuff like being on the right mood for it and the teasing/kissing/foreplay before and during sex itself can also play a big part in making the whole thing more enjoyable, not to mention the skill of the person etc., although that is often secondary to the emotional part of the deed.
>>34597891I mean they did but I'm fishing for an explanation on how I felt basically nothing when everybody told me nature would make me feel something whenever I got naked with a guy.>>34598024The part that really mixes me up here is that I had thought I was really into this guy most of the time I've known him. I thought he was the one person meant for me, but after actually sleeping with him I'm at a loss and a little confused. I thought everything was supposed to just come naturally but none of it makes sense.
>>34598120You're retarded. The problem is everyone gave you the wrong advice. If you don't feel anything with a guy, YOU ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO MEN. You are a LESBIAN.
>>34597780Are you two in a relationship? Or are you just fucking random friends in the hopes of getting rid of your anhedonia?
>>34598120>an explanation on how I felt basically nothing I mean if this >>34597869 is true youre basically the same as a 12y old kid, maybe it's time to explore your body, go see a psy if it makes you feel guilty this is stupidAnd also hopefully you should start questioning all the bullshit you were told and somehow never doubted
>>34598120I don't know what the deal with the other anon is or what he gains from this, but again, only you can know what you are.It doesn't necessarily mean you are lesbian or not. If you never felt attraction towards a woman, I don't think that's the case, but only you can tell.I can't say if you truly loved this guy or not, only you can. Usually regarding love, besides the emotional part, your body just tells you that it wants that person.It might be the case that you loved him as a friend or respected him, but that doesn't mean you felt attracted to him sexually and romantically.It might also be possible that you are just not a very sexual person, specially considering you mentioned you don't masturbate and all.I don't think there is anything wrong with it, and it might teach you more about yourself, but do what you judge to be right.Meditate on those things on your own time. You can also try speaking with the guy and opening up to him.
>>34597780this is some kind of fucking psyop...I was just with a girl and we had a conversation about it that was almost exactly this
>>34597780If you are ugly you will conclude eventually that you are not a lesbian. If you are redeemable in any way you’ll find life with a man to be infinitely easier and satisfying to your actual sexuality assuming you find a decent one. If you know someone for years and don’t hook up it means you found him not attractive enough to pursue for YEARS and it’s not surprising he didn’t bring the house down for you when you gave it a shot. >I mean they did but I'm fishing for an >explanation on how I felt basically >nothing when everybody told me nature >would make me feel something >whenever I got naked with a guy. Women are the selective sex, meaning they won’t be turned on at all by men they don’t think are better than them. For women, fucking an unattractive man is like a straight man fucking an unattractive man.Lesbians are only real in the sense that it’s a lifestyle for extremely damaged women. It’s a lifelong cope and that’s a small part of why they’re so miserable. But learn for yourself it’s an interesting experiment that’s probably largely painless.
>>34598156Kinda sorta. We've been friends since we were little, and neither of us has ever dated anyone else. This was an experiment for both of us, but he seemed to really enjoy it where I came out of it just thinking how I've had better sandwiches than that.>>34598157A lot of people are bringing it up so I feel the need to ask, would masturbating really help or are people just trying to trick me into doing weird stuff?>>34598169Part of what makes it hard is he acted like it was all a big transformative thing from how it felt for him. I don't want to hurt him by saying it didn't do anything for me at all when it affected him so much emotionally.>>34598230I never thought of my friend as unattractive or attractive. I kinda never pictured him as a sexual entity before this. I never felt into anyone though, so I thought that sex might be the catalyst to opening up those feelings.
>>34598636>would masturbating really help or are people just trying to trick me into doing weird stuff? It'd help knowing what you're looking for and how to get it for sure, or maybe you are asexual idkEven if you end up being lesbian, you must realize that nothing is gonna happen magically if you just sit there doing nothing Your dude is probably going to come back for more btw
>>34598652>Your dude is probably going to come back for more btwJust imagine you finally sleep with the girl who friend zoned you your whole life, and you think that she's falling for you and you'll build a family and a future together. And she just didn't really feel into it.
>>34598636>Part of what makes it hard is he acted like it was all a big transformative thing from how it felt for him. I don't want to hurt him by saying it didn't do anything for me at all when it affected him so much emotionally.I understand, and it's nice that you don't want to hurt his feelings. He is your friend and seems to be a decent fellow, but if you're not into it, and doesn't feel like it is something that can change, and if you don't love him romantically, then it may be better to be honest about it then spending years together with something you feel nothing for. It better to be with someone who can reciprocate one's feelings.>would masturbating really help or are people just trying to trick me into doing weird stuff?Again, it's up to you. Do what you're comfortable with. Like I said, it might be the case that you're just not a very sexual person, and that's alright, but it might give you some insight on things, or it may not.
>>34597780used goods, you should marry the bad at sex guy who took your virginity
>>34598120if you don't feel particularly attracted to women, you're probably not a lesbian, you'd know if you'd been given over to vile affections>>34597891religious people believe that you have a bad attitue towards God, then you turn into a reprobate, of which homosexuality is a symptom (as well as pedophilia, implacability, being unmerciful except when you're socially pressured into showing it, etc). Claiming that religious people think "being gay will send you to hell" is something you'd only believe if you learned about the world through 90s-2010s comedy movies.
>>34598755Fate worse than death
