>>34598670
Islam.

>>34598700
Hahahaha that was funny

>>34598670
Sounds like a lack of being genuine in your own life. Being genuine means feeling genuine and accepting and real with yourself, I'll explain:

Have a seat.
Let silence come. Let it sit for a minute. Now ask yourself the following question: "what makes me happy?" Then list it. Then ask, "Am I happy?" If not, "why not?". Answer that too.

Eventually you'll understand what actually makes you happy. Then go do what makes you happy, and be that person, and own it that you're this person.
If you're an antisocial asshole who doesn't really want to be social with people, I prefer that you're that person towards me at my work, that I know oh it's John he just doesn't give a shit but he does good work and we can work together, rather than that you're another performative forced smile nigger at my job playing some sort of appearances game. Like I said, it's about being genuine. You need to be genuine with yourself and with others right now, that's what you need most right now. Really think about what I've told you here today. Good luck man

>>34598670
Enough alcohol can fix all of these problems

>>34598670
>How do you learn to cope with all this?
Practice. Think of it as like learning a second language.

>>34598670
My entire person that I've developed for interacting with people is a mask. It took me about 28 years to build enough of a mask of normality because if you aren't normal and don't fit in in society you starve to do death. And no one will let you kill yourself painlessly if you don't want to be in society.
>neurotypical hierarchy games
Unfortunately this is so ingrained in the human brain that we would have to kill normies down to a population density of less than tens per square kilometer to get rid of this behavior

>>34598812
>Unfortunately this is so ingrained in the human brain that we would have to kill normies down to a population density of less than tens per square kilometer to get rid of this behavior
You say this as if it's not the morally right thing to do.
>if you aren't normal and don't fit in in society you starve to do death. And no one will let you kill yourself painlessly if you don't want to be in society.
More humane than the way they treat the ones *they* don't like.

>>34598670
Therapist

>>34598728
how do you pretend to not hold national socialist beliefs?

>>34598670
A lot of these cues aren't things that you have to cope with or are expected. In my experience, in middle-class society, most of these things are dropped once your colleagues and those you talk to regularly get a feel for you and you can begin to know them on a more casual level. Activities like taking phone calls and networking can seem cumbersome until you take it in your stride. I used to dread calling people but having to constantly get information quick replaced the fear with urgency. On relaxed days its fun to talk with people from other companies. Its a transition that occurs as experience converts your fears to everyday malaise. Can't think of many that go to parties, clubs, bars in our age bracket (assuming 25-30). Its surprised me on a couple occasions to find how few people my age drink compared with how forthcoming the older generations are.

Hierarchy can be a pain but it depends on the size and age of the company you work for along with who owns it. Again, don't worry about half the stuff and take it with blind idiocy as you would if you were a kid. Besides, with the standards of today just showing up is enough for most people.

>>34598700
It encourages you to be social, but so do most religions.

>>34598670
It's not called social skills for no reason. It is a skill to be developed, like any other, and like any other skill, it also takes time and practice, and it can be tiring if you do it for too long.

>>34598670
>>Pretending eye contact feels natural
I still struggle with this, so I usually talk to people while I'm doing something. I also have very piercing eyes so people struggle to hold my gaze.
>>Being expected to smile on command
Smiling comes easy the more you do it, sometimes deadpan is even funnier though.
>>Saying "How are you?" but not meaning it as an actual question
I always care about how people are, garnered a reputation for being authentic and easy to talk to as a result even if I am a bit of a tard.
>>Phone calls instead of texting
Sometimes it's nice to hear vocal inflections when determining a response, but texting is easier to remember and plan a response.
>>Networking and icebreakers
Be friendly, make people laugh and don't be the first to talk bad about others.
>>Reading the room with zero explicit rules
I struggle with this one still, but experience is key.
>>Neurotypical hierarchy games
Ignore 'em, ironically it places you above them.
>>unwritten social rules that nobody explains
>>Having to decode sarcasm, hints, and passive aggression constantly
I take it all at face value, then if they get upset I didn't read between the lines I ask them to elaborate. It sounds abrasive but more often than not it's lead to good communication and often conflict resolution.
>>Being expected to know when it is your turn in conversations naturally
Comes with farmiliarity and experience
>>Being expected to enjoy parties, clubs, and bars
Booze helps, I swear
>>Ambiguous dating norms and flirting through hints instead of directness
Didn't need to worry about this one personally, girls always made first moves on me including my wife.
>>Being expected to maintain friendships through constant casual contact
I suck at it, but make up for it with quality and being known to be reliable in a pinch.

I had the earnest farm boy archetype to lean back on, it's been a pretty good blueprint for me and I lead a happy social life.

>>34598988
Move to the conservative rural part of your country.

>>34599615
>girls always made first moves on me including my wife
How was that?