Background: I've known this guy since late high school (I just turned 40), In HS we hung out all the time. In my 20s I moved to a city that's more than an hours drive away. Since then we've hung out a few times, but he has kids now and I don't drive, so we mostly just talk on the phone, or watch tv together on Discord. Within the past 2-3 years this has become something we do 5 or 6 times a week. About a week ago he freaked out on me and hung up and hasn't called since, and I'm basically wondering two things: if I should even bother trying to repair the friendship, and if he sounds as crazy to anyone else as he does to me. So for context I work from home and my hours are unusual, I get off work at 10pm. He doesn't work (lives on the government tit) but he does have to get up early to take his kids to school. So he calls me one night at 11 pm and I tell him sorry, I haven't finished making my dinner yet. He looses his shit (as he's done in the past over this same issue) basically asking why I didn't make dinner the second I'm off the clock. I tell him what I always say: sometimes I want to chill out for a bit before making dinner. He then starts bitching that he has to get up early to take his kids to school. I tell him fine, there's no law we have to watch tv that night, so just hang up and we'll talk tomorrow.continued in next post...
>>34600705The thing is too, he doesn't always call at 11. Sometimes he'll be playing games and won't call until midnight or even later. But he doubles down on his idiocy, telling me that I'm selfish for not cooking dinner the second I'm done work just in case he wants to get to bed at a decent hour. He then suggests that I should be cooking dinner at 9, while I'm still on the clock, since "your job is on the phone and you can just have the phone with you in the kitchen."I explain to him that that's retarded as I take the calls through my computer on zoom and I need to be at the computer to do it. He then says I should just go back to the computer when a call comes in. I say "yeah great I'll just let my food burn while I go take care of a support ticket" and the raving lunatic responds by saying "It's called the low setting on the burner, use it".There's other problems too. To a degree he's always been like this, but its gotten a lot worse over the past few years. Basically when it comes to preferences (things like taste in movies, music, tv,) or hobbies, the words "I'm not into that" or "that doesn't interest me" or "not for me" are foreign to him. If you're into something that he's not, you have to be prepared for a rant about how said thing is either evil or gay, or conversely how the stuff he's into is good or correct because of "human nature" or "its what men like."To give an example, a few years back I got into eBay as a reseller (mostly stuff I buy in thrift stores). This has led to many rants about how scalpers make it impossible for him to afford toys for his kids. When I point out that I'm not a scalper, I resell used items, he - no joke - compared it to being an accessory to murder because scalpers also use eBay. A more recent example would be when we were looking for a new show to watch I suggested Unsolved Mysteries, and he was against it because "It's human nature to want to see things resolved."continued in next post..
>>34600709He's super into that retarded ancient aliens shit (which I've watched with him a few times despite having no interest) and at one point was convinced he was going to win the lottery by visualizing himself doing so because that's what magic spells really are. I completely held my tongue about how idiotic I thought it was and said nothing .Forget having a conversation about music with him. He's only into a very narrow range of guitar-driven rock music and nothing else. That would be fine on its own, but again, anything outside of this range is either "gay" or "soulless" and having a varied tase in music is "for women". He took a few years of guitar lessons in high school and seems to believe this imparted some form of sexual prowess, as recently when he got back together with his ex for a month he was claiming that his "guitar playing hands really know how to handle a woman." Meanwhile I'm a synth player (which he despises) and I'm by no means a Casanova, but I've fucked more women than him and hotter ones too, but he still hasn't gotten over that high school shit like how bragging about that shit just makes you seem insecure, the fucking guy actually accused me of lying about my body count when he asked me about it. Anyway thanks for reading this rant, I'll stop now since its starting to devolve into a list of things he does that annoy the fuck out of me, so once again I'll just ask this: should I even bother to try and reach out to this guy? and does he sound fucking nuts, or am I overreacting?
You know it feels wrong to just drop an old friend like that but he really hasn't contributed much to the friendship it sounds like
