6 months ago my wife became friends with this guy on discord. Yesterday I discovered her confession to him.>I wish I met you 3 years ago (before she met me)>Speaking to you is the only thing I'm looking forward to these days>I feel really deeply for youAll the while she's been been pulling away emotionally and physically. We haven't had sex in months. I felt extremely depressed on Wednesday and asked her not to go out with her friends because I didn't want to be left alone. While I was napping she did leave, and when I confronted her about it later she said,>I was thinking about my own sanity>if I had listened to you and postponed the meeting you would have just done it againIn the past week in particular she's been nothing but bitchy and disdainful to me. I wouldn't be surprised if the "gathering" was her meeting with the guy.The kicker is that I'm in a complex legal situation so I can't leave for at least another year.
>>34601814You start cheating as well. Don't let her know though.
She obviously checked out of the relationship, try to do the same. If you can't leave you can't leave, but what you wrote here about asking her to stay around to support you emotionally, stop attempting stuff like that when it is obvious she is not interested in giving it to you. Protect yourself by not being that vulnerable with her and trying to look at it in a pragmatic way like she is a roommate you can split costs with and ocasionally a fun conversation.
>>34601814I still don't understand why people marry in this day and age when divorce rate is like 55% or something
>>34601814Kick her out.
>>34601814may I suggest beating her?
>>34601814brutal, I'm sorry anon. No coming back from this. I would just leave
>>34601814A prison without bars, feels bad man. I would say that being needy to her isn't going to help, no matter how much you may actually feel it. I also won't say that it will draw her back to you if that's even in the cards, but it's more about preserving your self worth as much as you can. If there's anything outside of your marriage that gives you joy, friends or even other women I'd focus on that, it sounds like things with your wife are dissolving anyway. Countless men through history have survived this situation you can too.
>>34601814divorce her.>Complex legal situationBack to punjab ya go jamboy!
>>34601814ffffuuuucccckkkkk that sucks buddyhold on though!!! focus on urself!!! have a more straightforward convo with herunfaithful partners must be the worst people to live with, sometimes breaking up is the only way out
>>34601839Don't do this, if she finds out she could have the upper hand in divorce court. >>34601814The good news is that the law will favor you when the time comes, even though you're a man. What you need to do is spend the next year collecting as much evidence as possible. It's a shitty situation anon, I'm sorry, but be glad you found out. There are guys who go their whole lives with cheating wives and are none the wiser.
>>34601856most often it's the woman goading them into it and, even though the men instinctively feel that something's off, the'll give in, because they want sex and fear losing her
>>34601814I really wonder, if this is a LARPimagine setting yourself up for a life with a wife and then some complete BS like a discord acquaintance is going to ruin all of thatlike wtf guys NEVER marry NEVER do it. One "mistake" and she'll download some app or get an account anywhere and you're faced with competing against dozens of orbitersbrutal times we live in
>>34601814How on earth does a legal situation keep you in a marriage when you have proof of cheating
>>34603763It's probably immigration related.
Online advice/articles for quiet quitting a job (or if you search 'quiet quitting a marriage') oddly might help in this situation.My life for a while has been like this in a way, except the dynamic was with a toxic employer I couldn't seem to leave. But structurally it's a similar thing; someone with some sort of leverage or power over you is being irresponsible, and it's impacting your mental health because you're bound to them in some way.
>>34604597REMINDER TO NEVER MARRY TO OBLIGATION AND EXCUSE OF LACK BECAUSE OF PROXIMETY. YOU WILL FEEL TRAPPED
>>34601814>The kicker is that I'm in a complex legal situation so I can't leave for at least another year.Well, then, talk to her, discuss the fact that the marriage is clearly over, even though you won't be able to formally start divorce proceedings for a while, and have a conversation about how you are going to manage things in the meantime. From now on you're going to be housemates rather than a couple, and both see (only) other people, etc. Talk about timetabling and logistics. It's actually quite common for couples to continue living together even after divorce (to look after kids, for example) and they make it work.
>>34601814Marriage is a life long commitment. I don't know what I'd do here. Brutal.
>>34601814It’s like there are all these signs that she’s not fulfilled, interested or happy, and then you expect her to cater to you?I’ll buy her a drink and be the next in line once she’s done with the one she’s fucking with now.
>>34601814Damn bro, I'm so sorry you're in this shitshow.
