I ended up having a relationship with someone who I completely did not expect I would. She was a coworker and we would see each other and talk every week. At some point, I slowly got to know her and we started confiding secrets. I felt really comfortable being myself around her so I decided to ask her out. We parted ways when I had to leave for college.I feel like most women expect relationships to just happen instantly nowadays. Sometimes I meet women and I can tell they really want me to ask them out. But I barely know them? Even if I find them cute, it takes so much effort just to get to know someone. Even if I'm attracted to someone and decide to ask them out right away, I end up disappointed because they end up just being normal girls like everyone else. But as I keep talking to them, I end up finding out that there IS something interesting about them that I would never have known unless I kept dating them. I don't know why it's not normal to just start out as friends first and THEN choose to date from there. In fact, many women seem to look down on that which is incredibly stupid.
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>>34602717Idk why this is even an issue for you if dating starts as dating or as friendship, you're your own person, do your thing and don't worry about others, but I'll entertain you. For me, I date because: 1) I'm too much of a pussy to engage in romantic conversations with women I know from irl 2) I don't want to waste my time building up ideas in my head then finally asking several weeks or months into our relationship, just to find out she's got a bf, not interested in me, or not interested in dating in general, which has happened to me several timesAll are valid reasons, as are your reasons for waiting; but not everyone feels like they have the time to wait or want to wait that time out. I hope I have informed you sufficiently saar
>>34602717depends but i do feel like so many relationships thrive on 99% lust and fantasies and 1% actual chemistry and appreciation for who the person ischange my mind
>>34602717Stop generalizing relationships and women. If you feel like you're dating the same type of people who act the same then you're doing the same routine and meeting people in that rouitne. Change things fundamentally. If you meet girls in dating apps, that's where you'll find chicks with fried dopamine reseptors looking for their next hit. Start going to dance class, art workshops, walking tours and you'll find other personalities.
>>34604990Yeah the fucking elderly. If op is a grave robber those would be great choices for him
>>34602717it has always been messed up ever since hookup culture became a thing. I mean just see yourself in the mirror as to how much of a messed up creature you're all because your whore mommy thought it was ok whore around in her prime and your spineless daddy having no issues marrying your whore mommy like a faggot cuckold
>>34604990all women are whores, including your own mom.t.first gen culture shocked paki in the west
>>34605106>paki in the westYou're probably trying to date white girls and the odds are against you.
>>34605202I've literally fucked 3 of your hoes anon and I see myself as a loser for having partook in this retardation. I hope allah forgives me in the afterlife
From experience I learnt eventually that while yes, some relationships can form from friendships, it's never really been the norm. What people refer to as 'dating' is actually supposed to be that 'testing the waters' phase, the 'learning about each other' phase. From there you would then move up to a 'relationship', or you would break things off if there was no compatibility.So when a girl wants you to ask them out, it's so you can go on dates and have opportunities to get to know each other the way you would when you spend time around a coworker or a friend or somebody at school.Because there are less opportunities now for men and women to casually spend time together, especially as you become an adult, there aren't as many opportunities for those natural friendships to lovers unions to develop. We go on dating apps KNOWING what the other is looking for. People who say they just want 'to be friends' are lying, and everyone knows this.In this case that you mention with your ex, you weren't even ever technically 'friends', you were coworkers. The only reason she spent time with you was because both of you had to show up to the same place on the same days and do the same tasks together. This creates an organic environment for bonding, but one that is divorced from a sexual or romantic context.Ask yourself honestly, how many of these girls would really be friends with you if dating was out of the question? What common ground brings you together with any of your non-female friends? Would you be friends with a woman, and then stay 'just friends' if you never grew that attraction to them?See where the answers to those questions lead you. Don't be scared of the 'high stakes' of dating. The process of learning about a person does take effort and that's what dating is about. Girls want guys to make the effort to learn about them. You are free to end things if it doesn't work out.
>>34602717Dating is how you get to know someone.
