Lads, I need a direct tactical playbook to get my live-in ex out of my apartment for good. She has diagnosed neurodivergent/high-masking traits, but acts like untreated BPD. I’ve been trying to get out of this for months.To give you an idea of the baseline crazy: she fakes medical emergencies during arguments so I can't leave the room, sends me petty itemized bills for basic household items after we fight, and talks trash about me with her friends using disrespectful nicknames.I finally managed to get 90% of her stuff moved out, but she begged for a "trial period" to prove she could change. I caved, but I'm completely checked out and traumatized. I get anxious just hearing her walk around my apartment. I can't even stand being touched by her anymore.Last night, her "good girlfriend" act completely fell apart. She had a massive, bizarre meltdown at 5 AM, literally hitting her head against the wall and doing weird sensory routines to try and "reset" her brain. Today she's trying to force physical affection and pulling the "you hate me" victim card when I don't respond.I have her final bag packed by the door. I am ending it tonight. She isn't threatening self-harm right this second, but the absolute second I tell her to take her bag and get out, I know she is going to threaten suicide or start bashing her head into my walls to hold me hostage.Give me the best methods to drop her cleanly and handle the fallout:Is it safer to break the news in a public place (like a cafe) to exploit her need to look "normal" in front of strangers so she doesn't crash?What is the exact protocol to handle a manipulative suicide threat without caving or reacting to the leverage?If she starts violently self-harming in my apartment the second I tell her we're done, what is the play?I just want my apartment and my sanity back. How do I execute this tonight?
have you been dating others since you broke up?
>>34605553nah im too fucking drained to do that and she spends way too much time with me.her phone is set on dnd nonstop and is susing me out hard.
>>34605642The best way to get a BPD person off you is to visibly move on such as start dating others or imply you are. She likely views you as "hers" still even if she has multiple people lined up
Where I live in Ontario, if someone is deemed an immediate risk to themselves or others you can have them apprehended by the police who often take them for treatment at a hospital. I'd look into what that process looks like for you in case she acts out with threats of harm.
If she was even b real, I'm sure she would leave you alone if you asked. If you guys live in the same apartment complex and frequently see each other, hopefully you could continue to have a wholesome and friendly relationship. Sometimes people fall in love with other people or end up wanting different things in a relationship, truth is that honesty and acceptance are best practices and would mean nothing without communication.
>>34605795This is a myth bc some girls (aka me) have tons of guy friends who they are not interested in and (single or not) there is usually only one guy to kind of stand out from the rest. Infatuation? Probably. Real love? Who knows. But I think it has alot to do with congruencies within their personalities and like mindedness with a touch of similar niche interests. Physical attractiveness plays a role as well but is surface level - and kind of a reason I think it's good to get to know someone before actually dating.
>>34605327Dude, just leave. Take your stuff and go, if your that set on not wanting to be with her.
>>34605327>If she starts violently self-harming in my apartment the second I tell her we're done, what is the play?Let her get on with it. If she actually injures herself badly, call an ambulance. (This is not, my any means, a bad scenario: if you tell the people in the Emergency Room what happened, they should be able to admit her for a psychiatric evaluation).
>>34605918I have BPD myself, but as a male, I absolutely do go looking for a fav person when my current one leaves and always have a few in the back of my mind ready to go. I imagine as a female your search for a sucker is relatively shorter than mine
>>34606523I actually tend to seclude myself and pull myself into isolation; which is why people often see me alone. On top of BPD, I have severe trust issues. I used to think it was an internal autistic compass to keep me safe but I am actually unsure.
>>34605327>diagnosed neurodivergent/high-masking traits, but acts like untreated BPD.I just went through several years of the same thing, bro. The crazy only came out when we moved in together. I'm convinced these women get the ADHD/autism label to avoid the "stigma" of BPD. 1. Record everything2. Get her off the lease if she's on it. Pay her to leave if it helps3. Grey rock (look it up)4. Block everywhere, move away if possible
>>34606523>search for a suckerremove all BPDemons from society, by force if necessary
>>34605327She's in love, get her off birth control
>>34606635BPD women don't act like this, this is nothing else but autism and desperation.
>>34607591(BPD women are whores), OP just says she gets petty after arguments, and that she self harms in order to manipulate him to stay with her. Just be affectionate to her if this is the only problem OP. If she cheated on you, or had bad traits that didn't show during moments of tension, it'd be another story. It just sounds like you have a tardwife, who really wants to stay with you.
>>34607599>It just sounds like you have a tardwife, who really wants to stay with you.Out of eeeverything he said, you concluded "she must have been amazing otherwise, and OP is the sperg"You are a lost cause
>>34608075No, if you deflower a retard, you have to marry that retard, even if at some point you realize they're retarded. At the very least she gets the benefit of the doubt.
