I have really bad autism and want to understand social cues better, can anyone here tell their experiences with socializing. How much is too much? How much is too little? How do I stop coming across of strange because of how blunt or otherwise withdrawn I am? Ive been like this my whole life. And lately its only gotten worse I dont have many friends and I spend most of my time in isolation. It fucking sucks.
>>34609233Idk. Can't tell over text (the worst form of communication). If have to hang out on discord call voice, video and get to know you to even have a valid opinion besides just using the opportunity to broadcaT saying something judgemental to mis characterize you to posture and manipulate others like a certain pathetic narc does here.
>>34609233Ttry socializing but pay close attention to peoples' faces. If they look upset or disgusted when you say something, probably try not to say that in the future. Better way, socialize alongside a non-autistic friend. Then when you say or do something you're nervous about, ask them if it was rude. Tell your friend that you want their help in this way beforehand
>>34609233I think I've accepted that coming off as strange because I said what I wanted to say is better than coming off as strange because I failed to mimic normal people properly. I know better than to be blunt (am a woman) but I am pretty withdrawn and that makes people nervous about me like other women think I hate them because I say hi and then don't interact further. Learning what body language means will at least let you know what you did wasn't correct but it won't tell you what the right move was. You figure that out through trial and error. I am far more socially functional now in my 30s but probably even more withdrawn. I don't LIKE socializing the way you're supposed to do it.
>>34610150>I know better than to be bluntyour loss, being blunt is liberating and enjoyable and cool people will find it funny.
Ok anon, I have some real advice for you, autist to autist but it's not easy and you won't like it. First you must become a primatologist. A zoologist who studies primates. You are studying Homo Sapien Sapien, humans. In 9th grade I read Dr. Goodall's books and Dian Fossey and used their methods to better understand the humans. Now with the basic research and observation down you have to use that knowledge of human primate interactions to mimic their ways and mannerisms. You have to become a great actor and you will never be a "natural human". We call this "masking" in the Tism world. It's stressful and over long periods of time soul crushing. You will never adapt and just know what to do. You will always be acting and always be drawing off observational data to fuel how and why you act the way you do. You will make mistakes, your mask will slip and the Tism will show, and the more you work to hide your Tism from the normies the more it will crush your soul. Like me personally I can never manage to look cashiers in the face, even now later in life. I always leave the cash register ashamed that I couldn't just look at someone like a normal person. But it passes quickly. Here is the hard truth anon, no amount of masking will make the normies accept you as one of their own. Sure some will understand and be compassionate kind people who look beyond your Tism to who you are as a person. In all honesty it's easier to find these rare humans is you don't mask or minimal mask so you can auto filter out all the people who can't handle your Tism. But the truth is because you are autistic no matter how much you study the human ape you will always find new ways to tell on yourself as being autistic and sure as you get older your data set grows and your masking skills grow but it's always going to be a struggle. Have you considered finding autistic friends or autism adjacent subgroups like Warhammer players or some other obscure autism coded hobbies?
>>34610207I generally hate the people who find it funny? I think you might just be kind of an asshole?
>>34609233Look into people's eyes lol
>>34610508you sound like an asshole to me. you are autistic, yet value sugarcoating the truth over honesty
>>34612131Yeah now I'm sure I would hate you
>>34612134yeah who cares retard you probably hate yourself too
>>34609233>>34609238Sounds like me, I’ll meet women irl and it will go fine, I’ll get their number and after 2 days of texting they lose interest. I’m not a good texter and never have been
