I need some moral and ethical advice, and I would rather ask anonymously so it's unfiltered in honesty.I work in a bakery, I'm 23. I don't feel qualified to do much, I think I'm kind of a dumbass sometimes. The bakery is a small mom and pop store, and I've been working for the bakery since high school. I grew up with their son, but he's never been interested in the store.There's been a diagnosis, and it's real bad. The mom and pop want to leave the shop and go spend the time they have left together seeing things.They want to leave the shop to me, and I feel guilty about it. They always wanted to set me up with their son it felt like, and when things didn't work out between us it seemed like they definitely blamed him.And I feel like they picked me over him as a way of punishing him for it. He never cared about the bakery as a business but it was still sort of a piece of home for him, and I feel like I'm betraying him if I accept it.This bakery was also a pretty big part of my life though, I grew up around this place too, and working here has been my every day for years now. I care about what happens to this place and I don't feel like he would run it well if he was running the bakery.In short, I want to accept the bakery. I feel guilty though because I feel like it's being given to me to spite their son for our relationship not working out. I do think the bakery would just close shop if he got it though, and it's just a precious place for a lot of the neighborhood.What should I do?
>>34610348Did your relationship with the son end amicably? Are you able to talk to him about it at all?If not, and if he genuinely doesn't want to run the bakery, maybe you can get a lawyer to sign off on a contract for him i.e. agree to pay him a small percentage of the profits (maybe 5-10%?) for a set number of years - ideally an emotionally significant number, like the number of years the store has been open or maybe his age or how long you guys were together or something.That way he would have a little stake in the business for a number of years and hopefully the bonus income will make him feel a bit better about being slighted by his own parents. You're not obligated to do this but I think that's what I would do in your situation. Just make sure to do it with a lawyer because you don't want him coming back to you asking for money when the agreed time period ends.
>>34610348>he's never been interested in the store They want you to have it so it continues being a bakery. Sounds like the son would just sell it.The people who own the thing want to give it to you, and you don't actually know for sure whether it's vindictive or they're being pragmatic about the future of the bakery. Morally you're in the clear.
>>34610348I agree with >>34610387. Depending on how things currently are between you both, you can maybe talk to him and sort things out.If he isn't an aggressive or unreasonable fellow, I think you can find a good middle ground.Isn't he moved by the recent diagnosis of his parents? Did he say anything at all about it or their decision to give the business to you?
I think >>34610387 is a bad idea. If you give him a little stake in the business that's not going to appease him. And it will only be easier for him to make it legally messy if he's involved in it somehow. She doesn't owe the guy anything that's a conversation to be had between him and his parents. She should stay out of it.
>>34610578You may have a point. Maybe giving him just a bit of the business will make him think she's being condescending or taking pity or something.Still, it would be a shame to see the bakery she was trusted with go out of business, too.Maybe the ideal would be to talk with the parents and the guy to make things right.
>>34610616Why would it go out of business if she doesn't throw him a home and just takes over for the parents like they're planning?>Make things right They are right as far as she is concerned. There is zero reason for her to be a part of the conversation between the son and the parents. And the parents don't owe the son the store, he doesn't even want to run it. They're not dying but I'm sure he'll get their house when they do. It's not her job to feel bad for this guy when she's not even sure what's actually happening or if he'll care about any of it beyond it's monetary value.
>>34610348>What should I do?You should respect the wishes of the people who own the bakery, and respect their basic right to leave it to whomever they wish. You don't get to tell them what to do with their own property.
>they suddenly leave a major part of the inheritance that was expected to go to the son to a friend as they find out they're about to die>"uhh you don't own that entitled chud anything, they can do what they want, go slay girl"What? I'd be expecting him to try to fight them on it if he feels slighted by it, which he's likely to regardless of how unsentimental about it he is. To act like an asshole here is a retard move, why would you suggest it? It could be a really drawn out process and it's not even clear that it's a guaranteed win.
>>34610784Legally it doesn't matter whether she's nice to him or not. They're still alive it's not like he'd be contesting a will. It's not her problem and she should stay out of it. If she tries to meddle and his parents give it all to her anyway he's going to hate her more not less. The best thing to do is let the owners do what they want to do and either accept or don't accept. It's a super fucking weird suggestion for her to haggle with these people about giving their son something. Not her place.
>>34610926I guess it might be a regional thing, but at least here gifts given when you find out you're doing is an issue of wills and inheritance and raise questions of legitimacy, especially if it seems they're doing it to deprive the legal inheritor of it.
>>34610965find out you're dying.
>>34610965They're not dying. They're retiring. they'll be there to answer any questions about what they want done with their property.
>>34610348He's not interested in it man, keep it running so he has a familiar face when he visits home. all the best to you.
>>34610975Weird fucking way of phrasing it if that's what's meant. The time they have left? Come on.
>>34610983What? I don't think we're going to be able to have this conversation. What you said is in English but it doesn't make sense.
>>34610348own the bakery.run the bakery.take the call.it's time to make the donuts.https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Qda-xzg-Flo&ra=m
>>34610997very naughty. i expect a 2000-character essay on why llms should not be used in online discussion on my desk by tomorrow.
>>34610348Offer to BUY the business for time payments over a number of years. They'll probably give you a very low price, and the fiction that it's just a business deal can be maintained
>>34610348Do not accept this gift. You are not their blood and should say so immediately. Fuck you for even considering this. Let them convince their son he should give the bakery to you. Create your own family elsewhere, let these people be. leave and build something that belongs to you, you stupid fuck. And all of you here saying to accept the bakery - fuck you all too.
