I'm in love with my lesbian bandmate. I'm a bisexual guy with a preference for women. I'm very feminine and I'm secretly learning towards being a trans woman. She is very affectionate and handsy towards me and flirts with me a lot. She says she wants to feminize me. She definitely loves me and I think she feels safe with me since we both have the same queer mindset. I feel a strong and unexplainable pull towards her. How do I go about gently and subtly getting her to be open to the idea of us doing or being something more together and taking our relationship to the next level without having it interfere with the band and the music? Thanks for any insight and advice you can give me!
>>34611103Queer gay zoomers went full gay goyim mode so hard they ended up in straight relationship lmao
>>34611103No such thing as bi. If you suck dick only sometimes, you're still gay all the time.
>>34611274Yeah that doesn't answer my question or help me in any way
LESBIANS DO NOT WANT YOU.YOU ARE NOT A WOMAN. DONT LET NATURE HUMBLE YOU.
>>34611103If you have a cock she won't be attracted to you sexually
>>34611103Animals become fags/trannies all the time. It's sometimes successful. Do they post on internet to ask if they should do it? Of course not, they operate on instinct. You seem like a retard driven by instinct, so what's your beef with mother nature? Just do as it orders you. It's been a valid tactic for probably a billion years by now. Why would it magically be 100% fail now?
>>34612579True, but OP's friend is not a lesbian. Nothing wrong with being bisexual.
>>34612582She has dated a trans woman before.
>>34611103you're gonna have to rape her to teach her she likes dick from men. thats the only way.
>>34612640I'm not asking if I should go trans. I'm already headed in that direction. My main issue is how should I go about getting my lesbian friend to be open to us being something more than just friends. We're already very close and there's definitely love between us.
>>34613096If I may ask,With or without D?
>>34613153I don't know. She didn't give details. Probably with D.
I don't see how beating around the bush helps you here.Just go with something like: 'I ask you, knowing who I am and who you are - do you wanna go on a date?'Option 1, she says yes, you guys date and explore your sexualities and gender identities together. Be kind to each other.Option 2, she says no and is nice about it. Take the L like the (assigned at birth) man that you are and be in pain for a while until you get over it. Band will prolly be OK. Option 3, she says no and is mean about it. You now know she wasn't good for you, because you don't want someone who assumes the worst in you and doesn't respect you enough to act kindly. Your future in the band is suspect here, but from your description this seems very unlikely.If you get hit with 'what kind of date?` don't hesitate to double down and identify it as romantic, something fun and slightly physical. Dancing, some kind of sport, an event that gets you jumping and cheering.
>>34611103Can you change?She is trying to troon you. She is dominating you. This is not attractive to women.My wife was gay, I'm a guy and she hated men because she had been sexually abused a bunch by dudes so her subconscious mind made her hate men. I'm a very masculine dude, construction job, bodybuild, but not a douche. I was friends with her and she fell in love with my masculinity. She went from being a girlboss IT consultant, to my housewife in a nice dress who cooks and cleans. My wife said to me, if you have tried a hamburger and every time it was disgusting then one time you had one that was amazing, you'd be super happy and go back to that place with the amazing burger. She said most men were shitty burgers and I was a delicious burger.I say that to say this, you need to be a man. Women don't want weak men. Yes it will fuck up your band. Yes it will fuck up the music. But have masculine confidence. Something to the effect of, I am going to be honest with you I have feelings for you and want something more. You won't do that though because you are a weak feminine man. Be more masculine, again not a douchebag but a man. Here is a video to inform you about male and female psychology: https://youtu.be/lL13EeEhgag
>>34614919Okay but she's not attracted to masculinity. She's attracted to femininity. And I was already pretty feminine before I even met her. If I was a regular straight masculine guy, we wouldn't be as close as we are now. Like I said, she feels safe with me. I remember we had a bit of a moment, where we kinda just looked at each other in the eye for a while and she said something like "I really like looking in your eyes. I feel very safe in them." And she's always really flirty and handsy with me. She's really affectionate towards me. She doesn't do that with our bandmates or other people when we hang out with others. For some reason, she singles me out. So there's some kind of strong connection there. Even other people have noticed it. Someone once told me that they can sense the chemistry and energy between us and the way we interact with each other and they can tell that "she loves you". Idk maybe it's all just wishful thinking and I'm being a pathetic lonely loser and reading too much into it. I know she's a lesbian and I'm still physically a guy but maybe there's a possibility. I'm optimistic and I always say that anything is possible. Oh btw, I'm 5'3 and she's 5'8.
