Since I was a child, it's been my lifelong dream to be an adulterer. I always found affairs to be more exciting and romantic than marriage and my marriage will be a means to that end.I want my affair to last at least 6 years without getting caught and I would expect myself to get remarried to one of my affair partners.The advice I'm looking for is:"what's the best way to keep it hidden?""if I happen to marry a lawyer what can I do to prevent them from taking legal action against me or my AP?">inb4 don't do itI won't accept anything like that so you might as well save it for somebody who cares.>inb4 adultery is evil and you're a bad person for wanting to do it.Adultery is a valid form of love and there's nothing evil about it. Society has collectively gaslit each other to rationalize their own violence against people >inb4 be an "ethical" polyamoristThat's incredibly boring and unappealing to me. Sneaking around is more fun and exciting and romantic.>inb4 I got cheated on/one of my parents had an affair and it turned me into a neurotic crybabyyou're not a victim, stfu and stop pretending that you are.
>>34615372>my marriage will be a means to that end.What unsettles me is not the affair. It is not even the deception. It is the realization that, if these words are sincere, then there was never meant to be a marriage in the first place. Not really. A marriage is supposed to be two people meeting each other as they are, discovering each other, choosing each other, building something neither could have built alone. But when someone says their lifelong dream is adultery, the relationship itself ceases to have any meaning. The vows do not matter. The trust does not matter. The person standing beside them does not matter. The marriage is not being entered for its own sake. It exists only as a necessary condition for something else. Like a stage erected for a performance that has already been written.I cannot stop thinking about what that means for the other person. Imagine spending years believing you are sharing a life with someone. Imagine telling them your fears, introducing them to your family, making plans for the future, carrying them through difficult moments, believing that every memory is becoming part of a story you are writing together. Then learning that, from the very beginning, the story was never yours.Perhaps that is the part I find hardest to bear. There is something chilling about looking at another person and seeing not a world to discover, but a function to fulfill. A life that could have belonged to anyone. A face that could have been another face. A voice that could have been another voice. The individual disappears. Their uniqueness disappears. Everything that makes them irreplaceable is stripped away because none of it was ever the point. And when I think about that, I find myself hoping this is fiction, because the alternative means that somewhere out there may be someone who offers their whole heart to a relationship that, in the eyes of the person receiving it, never truly existed.
>>34615473It's beautiful, isn't it? Some slaver asshole thinks that their life can only have meaning if their narcissistic sense of entitlement to another person's sexual exclusivity can be validated and they find out that they never really did have them in shackles so they spend the rest of their wasted, insignificant, and selfish lives malding over it all alone.And it serves the rest of society right for the sadistic persecution they've perpetrated against adulterers throughout history and the sick revelry that they enjoy when they're killed or have their lives ruined.And, in any case, the kind of woman that I want is one who is willing to have an affair with me. I've been on forums where such women hang out and those women were some of the most wonderful I've ever met. They are the world I want to discover. They're the kind of women I want my life to belong. Their uniqueness is far more appealing to me than that of some miserable, angry, entitled, crybaby slaver bitch.
>>34615473You are assuming that marriage only counts as real if it is entered with the same meaning on both sides. But relationships are not metaphysically invalidated just because the participants assign different meanings to them.
I don't understand you. You think people who want to be in a monogamous relationship are slave owners, but you don't want someone who is comfortable or even desires an open relationship. What is so "romantic" about betraying someone's trust? You could always be in a relationship in which your partner does not expect or does not want you to tell them about your other sex partners. I understand the excitement, but what part of being in a long term relationship and fucking other people without them knowing is romantic? It's not like the flings you have expect you to be in a romantic relationship with them, I assume that defeats your point.
>>34615762Nevermind I missed the part that said you wanted to marry your mistress. Do you want the cycle to continue after that?
>>34615762I don't know how you can be such a moron. The appeal behind cheating is to be with somebody that you have amazing chemistry with and the risk of getting caught is an essential ingredient to enhancing the excitement behind it.>>34615766I can't imagine myself doing that because I do feel a lot of sympathy for women who do get cheated on after they marry their affair partners because, all of a sudden, everybody mocks them and condemns them even though that results in actual suffering that's way more horrible than what the first wife ever had to go through in their entire life.
>>34615372Funnily enough, ever since I was a kid I wanted to kill cheaters. I sense an opportunity for us both
>>34615942Try it, you'll regret it, and you'll deserve it, slaver.
>>34615372Personally, I've always fantasized about the idea of romantically martyring myself by marrying a truly good man (lel) who I respect and love but have no erotic desire for, only to fall in love with another man (sometimes a stranger, other times a friend of his or family member) but only ever having a will they won't they chemistry that never culminates in anything so that I can actually experience true love and yearning in perpetuity rather than it peaking and fizzling out like it always does inevitably.
>>34615372Hell is real and you're going to go there.
>>34619529Why would you even want that? It's suffocating. You're begging men to cheat on you.>>34619563If there really was a hell, all the people who acted like smug assholes after taking revenge against their cheating partners would be tossed in there because they hate love. But there isn't so I have nothing to worry about. Keep coping, slaver.
