especially when talking to beautiful girlspic unrelated
bumping before zach writes 'just be confident bro'
>>34617282Warm bubble bath, classical music, meditation, incense, picnic in a pretty area away from the hustle and bustle, hot tea.
Stop being a perfectionist.
>>34617960> just Stop being a perfectionist, bro.
>>34617282do things that improve GABA. avoid things that suppress GABA or fry your GABA receptors
>>34618010huh, so heavy drinking doesnt help.
Imagine the lawsuits they will fuck you up with just for approaching them.
>>34617282imagine them being really old with saggy breasts and wrinkles (which will 100% happen)
>>34617282I have the structure and the solution but just follow me here.. it's a winding road.. Here are the mechanics behind this. When u are talking to a women you think is very attractive it can become a stand in for what lacan calls the "big other" or the imagined place from which you are judged recognized and given value. Anxiety is your body asking "what does the big other want from me" Before you approach you can enjoy imagining: maybe she will like me, maybe this encounter will change anything. Once you approach reality barges in and your fantasy is in danger of collapsing. Then if she likes you what now? Can you maintain her interest will she discover your flaws will she live up to the fantasy u assigned her? Reality always demands something of you fantasy keeps you safe. The neurotic subject always wants a guarantee. But a gurantee is a structural impossibility. So a guarantee when trying to get a girl is impossible so what do you do? It comes out in obsession, nonchalant staring and weird interpretations (she moved her bag towards me she must want me) etc, ritual obsession is all ways to extend the enjoyment of your fantasy, the enjoyment of the fantasy that you will have a guarantee. This is all to say you are risk avoident, direct contact with reality is often quite painful. There is one major solution to all of this: meditate an hour a day, breath meditation will melt the invisible walls around you it allows you to not identify with your thoughts, which in turn makes women not so important which in turn makes the big other less powerful which in turn allows you to act without thinking you are being watched and judged which in turn allows you to take risk which in turn allows you to talk to women normally which in turn allows you to fuck them bye
>>34617929hot tea bubble bath with pretty blond lady
>>34618102i need a guide about how to meditate, it would be very helpful anon
>>34618102this is good advice love that you brought in lacan>>34618895zen training: methods and philosophy by katsuki sekida is my favemy advice is to practice on random people that you dont give a fuck whether they like you or not. homeless people who aren't on drugs can be pretty interesting. just chat up anyone you can
>>34617282https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e5T1W8nBvIc
>>34618102Did Lacan ever suggest meditation?
>>34617282Exposure. Talk to girls who make you a little nervous. Make small talk with the cute barista, or your waitress. You will build confidence as you go.
