I don't really get much attention from women unfortunately. So when I do get attention I feel more attracted to a particular woman than I think I should. Most recently, a woman who is 40 mentioned to me that she likes me. I am 35 so I guess I am not much younger than her. However, I'd like to have kids in the future and I am not sure if dating her would be a good idea. I do genuinely think she is a great person. She is so fun to talk to and we have great conversations. However... just how "no eggs" are 40 year old women? I couldn't bear hurting her feelings though by dating her and not really wanting to be with her. I wish I had met her sooner in my life as I would totally date her. Literally the only thing I dislike about her is that she is 40. She is great in the department of everything else. What do you think? I actually don't even know why she likes me. I feel like a retard.Realistically, I would like to date a woman in her late 20's - early 30's.
>>34618998She has about 5 years of fertility max. Potentially 10 if she already have eggs frozen... You can give it a ago but just be honest with her and see if she's on the same page. You'll need to decide if you want kids and a life together much sooner than you'd have to with someone younger.Maybe having biological children is something you are potentially willing to compromise on? Have you thought realistically about all the troubles that come with raising children? Bear in mind that even if she's onboard with a casual relationship, you are still wasting your time and sperm quality. 35 is not exactly young and it takes time to work out if the person you date is someone you want to marry/have kids with, a cycle of trust-building and break-up and getting up to try again and again, a process that potentially takes 10+ years (hence why people in general start dating around 20 and will have found someone by around your age).
>>34618998It's too late for her bro.
>>34619634I get what you mean. I don't think 35 is super old for me though. Not saying that I have forever. I consider myself to be in better health than a lot of my friends etc. However, I feel shafted by life because I couldn't find anyone in my 20's which also happens to be the time period in my life when I was at my weakest(both parents killed and homeless as a result).>>34619808I see. Maybe it was never meant to be.
>>34618998Are you sleeping with her?
>>34618998It IS permissible to date someone and not marry them, you know.
>>34620178No. She is nice looking though but I don't think I'd like sleeping with a woman that isn't my girlfriend. >>34620368I get it but it seems pointless in my case to date someone that I wouldn't even ever dream of marrying.
>>34621301I know you're feeling like you're getting old and all and the clock is ticking, but it is never a waste of time being in a relationship, unless you aren't attracted to the person, really. You will have time. And in the meanwhile, you can enjoy the company of another person and have them in your life romantically for a period of your life until you feel like it's time to move on, or it's run its course. Dating and relationships help you learn more about what to look for and how to behave in future relationships. If you have an opportunity for the experience, and, as you say, you were shafted in your 20s and struggled to find any relationships, then you won't know unless you try. It's not the be-all end-all. As long as you're communicative and honest about that. Just go for it and see where it takes you. You will have time to procreate.
>>34621325I understand what you mean but I have no idea what that even looks like in practice. For one woman, like I mentioned, it seems like a waste of her time for me to be be with her. Like if she is 40, why would I waste her time like that even though I like her? Actually, another woman I like unfortunately has 4 kids already. She is amazing too but I can't see myself ever seriously being with her because she has 4 kids already. Everyone I have ever known in my life has told me basically "Don't date single mothers ever." I feel terrible about that too because she is a really nice person. I honestly think she got the short end of the stick because her ex was a gambling addict and she had to leave him. Basically what I want is to be able to date a woman and not feel like I am wasting h her time if I am not serious. Both of these women to me are amazing people but they have one glaring issue stopping me from dating them. In one case, its age. in the other, its because she has kids already.
