I am 26 m and ex is 28 f. We met in 2020. In 23 I cheated while she waited for me in NYC. She took me back after this, but I didn't commit to the relationship. I indulged in prostitution and casually flirted at work. Getting away with it eventually detracted my ability to actively participate in my relationship. We had sex still, but it wasn't the same for me. Sometimes I actually felt guilty about cheating while having sex. I also stopped planning dates and doing nice things for her. I didn't help look for an apartment enough ( it was NYC so we were fucked anyway). When we couldn't find an apartment in Dec 2025 we decided to move. She went to Texas and I went to the SE US( not Florida). On Christmas, the day of the move, her cat died. It was awful. During the 3 day move I caught an awful fever. 2 weeks upon getting to Texas she suggested going on a break.It's been 6 months and we tried to rekindle things during month 2, but it didn't work. I think it was her trying to give it one more chance even though she was committed to it not working out. 2 weeks ago I texted her gay friend how's she's been and he called me a piece of shit for trying to break no contact end that I need to work on myself. I guess with this all being said, I am devastated. I feel like I lost the one person who actually loved me so much for so long. I should've treated her better. Instead of doing that when I got to NYC I became a drunk and mentally checked out.Any advice is appreciated. I'd just like to start getting over the emotional pain or dealing with it constructively.
>>34620406Damn, you really fucked her over. If you know her address, do one of those gay things they do in movies and write her a letter apologizing for everything you did. Don't provide a return address, the point is to apologize not to reconcile
>>34620406>Any advice is appreciatedThere's nothing you can do except move on, find someone else, and don't make the same stupid mistakes next time round.
>>34620406She's old meat. You'll get better ones
Selfish to the end for you cheaters. Boohoohoo me me me me nobody loves me
Wow, yeah, it sounds like she really loved you a lot and was willing to put up with a lot of bullshit to be with you. Love like that is hard to come by and you will probably regret this for the rest of your life, while she will find someone who's going to treat her the way she deserves. Best you can do is be happy for her.
>>34620443I think I might in a year or so. >>34620444Heard that. >>34620587I feel that, I just live in a statistically awful dating area. Roastie hell. >>34620650That's the mindset we're getting out of not maintaining. Not to mention I accept what I did, just having a hard time accepting the result. >>34620663I can live with that... Eventually.
>>34620587Fuck off incel
>>34620406>felt guilty You’re a pussy.
>>34620650I wish I could make you fall deeply in love with me, just so I could cheat on you and break your heart all over again. :3
>>34620406>I indulged in prostitution and casually flirted at work.>Getting away with it eventually detracted my ability to actively participate in my relationship.>called me a piece of shit for trying to break no contact>I need to work on myself.The gay friend is speaking truth, you frog posting asshole.
>>34621203It isn't him speaking truth that bothers me. It's the actually being a better person part. How do I actively become a person who respects themselves more and respects others? How do I establish better connections with others?
>>34620406you're a dumb retard and should just stick to paying prostitutes
>>34621811You married? I can start there. It wouldn't be the first time?
>>34620406The self pity in this post is sickening.
>>34620406>I indulged in prostitution and casually flirted at workBased bro
Get far away from her and never talk to women again
I'm sorry anon, this is one of those important life lessons that is not free or even cheap. By your own words, you fucked up because while your ex could forgive you for cheating, you could not forgive yourself. You felt like you had already ruined the relationship and treated it as hopeless, ruined, no longer worth investing in. That sealed its fate. In the future, know that most of the time both people end up seriously fucking up over the course of a long term relationship. There are many ways to betray trust apart from infidelity still. The real question is not if you can avoid being disappointed by your partner or disappointing them, but how you will be able to handle it when it does happen. Nothing is inherently unfixable if you are committed to finding out how you can still make it work. On the flip side, nothing is fixable if you have deep down already accepted it isn't.I hope you can use this heartache to set yourself free in the sense that you feel that by now you have surely paid for your misstep and you deserve to search for a good relationship in the future and to try to make it work for you.
>>34623832Working on the last part. Thanks for the advice. I had gotten too comfortable just doing whatever I wanted without the the thoughts of the consequences.
