how the hell do you make friends in university?its been years and i am nothing with these people.the path i am studying is VERY neglected, presently less than 10 of us are there in the whole city.and i have been unable to make friends with any of them. Those i do ends up going nowhere because theres 2 guys who really obviously hate me.i did "fuck it up" with them, i guess, by getting drunk when i go out. Which is usually not a dealbreaker for people but ig for these people it is.Not like i dont have friends but i see these people nearly every day youd think that would be a shared burden or something. Can it be too late with these people?they call me and then all they do is talk about the times they DIDN'T call me. And i can tell its to get under my skin because the same guy always shifts to that topic.I also feel as though none of my colleagues really care about the subject, cant even talk about that
>>34620527I only made friends with one person in my degree program when I went to college. You need to enroll in some clubs/societies, that's where you make friends
>>34620541There aren't any, at least that i'm aware of. i could go to one of a different course but thats "frowned upon"
>>34620545Change unis if you can I studied all over the world America was great for dating but all my friends were other Europeans Netherlands (Amsterdam) was great for friends and hookups, not dating (god no) Australia was just about work/study. You can make friends and date but it’s all low quality/value Some places have that friendly/social culture and others just don’t No need to force it into something it’s not
>>34620572I like what i'm studying and there aren't many international options, at least not of the same qualtiy. I'm stuck here ig.I do get what you're saying, maybe i'm just too "provincial" in my socialisation and just dont work with the pompous pricks. I know a lot of them hate how simply i view the world.Now one of them is in my messages talking about how they went out last night and didnt include me. This shit has to be deliberate atp.
>>34620624...for context most of them are self-loathing provincials so ig the last thing they expected to find in the big city was me. Too bad for them cause i was born here meaning i get to be me.
>>34620624Sometimes you just don’t clique with a place, anon You can suppress your personality to have the appearance of fitting in if you want but you’d be living a lie You’re basically a dog trying to get their validation and that’s no way to live Tbh if you’re in America then that’s the worst place on earth for finding genuine friends - it’s not you it’s them. The Jews socially engineered it like that on purpose The plus of living in America is it’s easy to date over there If you’re in Canada then I dunno what to say - smear some shit on your skin and learn Punjabi
>>34620633...i am in the civilised land of EVROPA
>>34620634Oh wow? You’re having trouble finding friends?? Can I ask which country you’re in? I’m from the Netherlands originally and I hear people are cold asf but I clique with people fairly well when I live there
>>34620642Croatia.Yes i'm having trouble with the 8 (probably less by now) other people in my course.
>>34620643I’ve never lived there desu If you can’t transfer somewhere else (even a different country), then I’d say find friends elsewhere (even if you do martial arts or something outside of uni), or readjust your expectations (worst case scenario)
>>34620646well i dont want to leave because all my (other) real close friends are here. I think youre missunderstanding
>>34620670My point is i see them every day, i put up with their bullshit (i dont mind) i expect the same in turn! I dont want to be tense with people i see every day!
>>34620545>There aren't any, at least that i'm aware of.What the hell kind of university doesn't have societies? No one ever puts on a play? There are no "<thing> appreciation society" groups? No women's group? No LGBT group? No campus political demonstrations? There must be something.
>>34620633>The plus of living in America is it’s easy to date over therelol
>>34620527Usually you can try to talk about class or a teacher to break the ice, or, if you see them talking about or doing some hobby you enjoy (ex: if they're playing or talking about some vydia), you can try to comment about it.That's usually how it goes in my experience. Unfortunately you need to gather some courage and try to talk, which I find extremely hard.
>>34620527university is for obtaining a high paying job, they are your competition. focus on that you retard
Sorry to hear, OP. Privileged Amerimutts don't realize that Gayopeans hate their countrymen, especially from the Warsaw pact/Soviet block, so much so they're great at integrating into another nation and have their culture completely erased by the end of the 2nd generation.
>>34620527ew coalburner pic
>>34620735We don't have that gay shit here. Everyone goes to class and goes back home when it ends, as it should be.
>>34621486Bruh. I am a wreck of nerves and breathe manually level of autistic. I don't know How a relationship is supposed to progress to the "hanging out" phase if I feel anxious and awkward all the time, and it seems people are expecting me to go blurting and commenting everything. Is that how it's supposed to be done? Friendship feels safe for others when you blurt irrelevant shit?If that's so, any ideas how to start commenting shit? When I like something I take in the moment, and when I don't like or someone's around I evaluate the situation with a strict filter. It seems my language skills and recalling skills are getting atrophied from it even.
>>34620735>>34622226Kek, they are like that in my country too. You're right calling it gay shit, for some reason americans are really laid back when it comes about making fools of themselves, even though bullying shit is so prevalent.Where I live there's no live-in campuses, I guess that's the most important matter, so there's no harry potter houses. Since it's a shithole nobody has money to invest in shows nobody will see, clubs that exist are only means to increase "social service hours" which are not credits but mandatory internship requirements. Theater exists and only gays go there. X student association exists they only gather to collect money for annual parties. Very few participate in project contests and those are all about work.
>>34622283I'm also terribly socially anxious, but the few friendships I have been able to make involved me taking the risk and trying to start a conversation.For example, the only friend I had in college. He was about to give a presentation, so he brought his notebook. He plugged it, and I saw his desktop. I saw that he had an icon for a game I used to love playing.I took a mental note and started rehearsing what to say to try and strike a conversation. After the presentation (he sit right next to me) I said something like 'hey man, nice presentation, congrats. Also, was that an icon for GAME.EXE I saw?'We started talking about the game and other games, introduced ourselves, and long story short I'm friends with him to this day. I also made friends with his friends.Point is, in my experience, sometimes you gotta try to see a hook for a conversation and take a risk. However, I only ever tried to do so with others I felt I had something in common with. I can't approach an overly social type, I find it intimidating.Also, this was all back when I was young. Ever since I got older, I am finding it much harder to make friends, since I am becoming more isolated and more afraid of interaction with others outside my circle.
>>34622377Same, our fraternities/sororities are full with dorks LARPing as if they're from the 20s(not even the 30s when it was semi-based) and everyone with any sex in their lives laughs at them. It's mostly propped up by the same people that prop up folk stuff nobody actually cares about IRL. The university is the means to an end, in which the end is moving abroad never to come back.
>>34622412Eh. I can get along with people, have a conversation about something one time but I seem not to be able to hold interest in repeated ocassions. I only have two friends which text me about common tastes, and yet I can't really text them first because all my life is spent on 4chan and not seeing game memes on tiktok.Well, what I really wonder is how do you hang out? Do you decide "I'm bored, gonna talk my ass out with these dudes, got lots to say about it"?Dunno, maybe I should be more involved and be more specific with my hobbies. I just consume shit in heaps so I like a lot but love none of it.
>>34622182>>34620527you ignored this and will fail at life. Good luck finding friends when you don't have a job.
literally every 4chan adv poster:>shit university>super expensive but no girls>no internships or other programs>no socializing everyone just gets in cars and leaves immediately afteram i psycho or is everyone here intentionally just sabotaging themselves? my local uni was asu, it wasn't perfect, more easy A type of school, but there were parties and internships. i literally don't understand why you'd stay for more than a year at the dead end schools everyone in here seems to go to
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>>34620643I'm also in Croatia and have had 0 luck making friends in university, what do you study roughly? I'm a social sperg though
>>34623397its actually very cheap, if you havent noticed my lack of complaining about costs.
>>34622799I am a serial yapper and i am getting the sense most people there are too and i am also getting a sense they hate me for that.
>>34620643>>34623436Hi fellow Croatian friends :D
How do you make friends out of university?
>>34623710Yello!
>>34623455Maybe there's too many broken people out there so they'd rather prefer a yapper, but one they specifically like. Life's too hard.
