Old tenant screamed at the top of her lungs at me for an infestation of ants which was literally 5 ants in the bathroom despite her leaving her milkshake in the sink for days which led ants into the house. I sealed where they were coming from and after she started doing weird stuff like taking my kitchen soap for her bathroom, putting trash where I get into the car, and parking behind me so I couldn't get out. I gave her a 30 day and she ended up moving out but called the cops on me because I wouldn't return her deposit. The utilities hadn't come out yet and I was going to deduct it from the deposit. I find out later that she posted a hit piece on me in the college housing groups with tens of thousands of users saying to be aware of me because I sexually harassed her. Nothing happened and I had no trouble besides her trying to hurt my feelings with words. A few days later I look for it but I couldn't find it. I think she ended up taking it down because she knows it's made up and I really did not do anything out of malice towards her.Fast forward 2 years her friend shows up at my front door asking if I got a package that she accidentally had shipped to this address. We checked the mailbox and it wasn't there. I found it later as a another tenant had brought it into the house. I have no way of contacting her as I no longer have her number.But why do I even consider doing the right thing for others that have acted so cruelly towards me. I even make excuses for others treating me badly.I get it's childhood trauma from narcissistic parents and autism with fixation on justice. But shouldn't I just stop that since it leads to me being taken advantage of over and over again? I am 30 and most every time I've gone out of my way to be helpful or kind to others has bit me in the ass. Maybe doing the "right thing" all the time is not always the right thing.
>>34620606You should continue treating others well regardless of how they treat you. Self-abnegation is the point of life. If you treat others poorly to protect a self that doesn't even truly exist, you'd be going in the absolutely wrong direction.
>>34620606You're a leech on society. And pretending to be a victim too, kys soon.
>>34620606Sorry to hear about the situation OP. People can be awful scrotes, some do like to take advantage of the kindness of others.But you, me or anyone doesn't or at least shouldn't do what's right and fair expecting something in return all the time, it must be done simply because it is the right thing to do.Your conscience being free of guilt is rewarding enough, IMO.That being said, you also don't need to take shit from others.If you feel like a tenant is being a scrote for example, stop being nice to them, and just do the bare minimun. No one needs to take shit from others if they are acting unfairly.One thing regarding dealing with other people is that we all need to set limits to their behaviors, otherwise they, specially nastier ones, will just keep expanding and doing what they want.It's important to not let people who behave like shitheads believe they can just do what they want. Sometimes they're going through a hard time and it's just a phase, but in others they really are just awful.In short, always try to be kind and fair to others, but I think that being just also involves not letting other people's unjust behavior go unchallenged.
>>34620611Sure am. Let a tenant stay despite racking up a 6k bill and let him have a dog without asking me that destroyed the house. Helped a tenant move in and bought him pots and pans bc they wouldn't stop arguing over washing dishes and he ended up destroying 2 doors and letting stray cats in the house. Not to mention as soon as I left the city they started letting other people live in the house. And that's not even half of it. Finally decided to sell my houses as I've seen the growth in my stocks have much better returns with much less work. I've learned a lot and would be a better a landlord with better boundaries and background checks but there are just better investments out there.
