I go bouldering 3x a week. I see so many cute girls there at the gym it's insane. However, I basically never meet or get in contact with them. The only way I ever get a shot is if I approach them.How do I do that though? I want to continue going to this gym and not develop a bad reputation or make girls uncomfortable.
>>34621418Bolder? I hardly know 'er!
There's no harm in making small talk.
>>34621418I can't think of anything more annoying than a strange guy hitting on me when I am half way up a climbing wall.
Start from simple hello. If they are regulars to the gym say hello every time you or them enter the gym and happen to be closer - make it natural. I am not native so don't know the correct terminology but if gym has the top rope climbing that require person at the bottom, you might approach and ask them if someone would give you a hand and be a belayer since you are alone. You might then also offer that you can be a belayer whenever they need. Small talk is fine as long you take it slow and make it casual for first few times with clearly no agenda behind.
>>34621418Try this line:whoa lady i'd grab dem boulders heheh what you doin later sugar tits?
>>34621418You're already doing the same activity so you have the easiest excuse ever to talk to them. Go up and talk about climbing. If you're worried about a "bad reputation" or seeming like a creep, by starting off with a very normal and on topic opener you have rock solid plausible deniability. If you go up and try to talk about climbing and she hits you with some "ew i have a bf" shit then she becomes the loser and you seem like the reasonable one to everyone else.
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>>34623353explain
>>34623747I'm not that anon, but I agree. Don't force interaction with them, other than just start saying hi to people (not just the females). You don't want to come off as a guy that force conversations with girls just because you find them attractive, they're already sick of that, it happens to them everywhere they go. If they are interested in getting to know you they will approach you/engage you with smalltalk on their on initiative. The probability of that happening increases as you become a familiar face over time, and you avoid forcing conversations just to get your shot.
>>34623781Best advice especially the being friendly to every person.
>>34621418Same as talking to anyone at a climbing gym. Just ask her about a route lmao>>34623781Sorta agree. Definitely dont shoot your shot right away but you can absolutely initiate conversation about the hobby.
>>34623781Yeah I did this at the gym recently. Girl I'm crushing on works there and recently commented that I came in later than usual, so I took that as a chance to get her name off her nametag and call her by her name. Its not the most direct approach, but you have to be mindful of when girls give you and inch to work with.
You cannot ever do thatgyms are just places for excersise, people only speak to people they already knowIf you ever want to approach women you need to quit your job and go to uni again or already have women>>34623353They never will, all women have deep autism>>34623781The problem is then conversation will never happenIf OP is already a 36 yo virgin who never once spoke to a woman what makes you think a woman will engage suddenly when he's 40 or 50 or 70? He will just continue being forced into silence, solitude and virginity and no one will ever speak firstHe needs to talk and the only place where men can start speaking to women is inside of a school. If you keep waiting for someone speaking to you, you will never be fammiliar to anyone. Just like no woman approached him until he was 36 no one will do it until he's 72. Meanwhile there's men who DO speak to women at age 13 or 18 and below that all because they are inside of schools and can speak to each other while OP will just continue growing older, sadder and more hurt by this enforced post-school isolation.
>>34623814You could practice being friendly and approachable to make more friends and meet more women yes, but what if it was already over since school and were destined to be a virgin for the rest of your life? What if you were a 72 years old virgin at the bouldering gym, do you think women would approach you?What if nobody gave a shit about your incel opinion lmaoIf you failed so hard you've given up on something so important why are you giving advice
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>>34623978You're the one giving incel opinions lmao Op already said he's in bouldering so he's already doing that meaning no women approach him meaning bouldering leads to being an incelThe only way to meet women and showcase you are friendly is inside of schools otherwise there's no speaking going on so you are forced to be an incel instead of destined to be oneif you were in school you could get to speak and learn about each other instead of just having to sit silently without being able to do anything until you die you retarded incel lmao you're already forced to be alone until you die kek
>>34624127>projection>tldrk
>>34623054>starting off with a very normal and on topic opener you have rock solid plausible deniabilityNot OP, but this is my general strategy. The problem is that opportunities to open conversations are surprisingly rare.Just going "Soooo uhhhh how long have you been climbing for" feels like it instantly gives off thinly veiled "I'm trying to fuck you" vibes. The very act of choosing to start a conversation because you just felt like it instead of some external circumstance compelling you to do it has that effect. Basically, it should not have been your idea to talk to her. It seems like the only option here is to force these external circumstances and skillfully hide the fact that you are doing so, but this is very difficult. It's certainly not something that I am good at. The best I've been able to pull off is an equivalent to "How good is that [piece of equipment]? I've been looking to buy a new XYZ and have been considering one of those.".However even this is still explicitly self-initiated enough that a good half of people are creeped out by your audacity to reach out unprompted.
>>34621619ywnbaw
>>34623814>>34624127SCHOOLER’S BACK!
>>34624318>Just going "Soooo uhhhh how long have you been climbing for" feels like it instantly gives off thinly veiled "I'm trying to fuck you" vibesMost humans in their fertile adult years are just trying to fuck.
>>34621619Get raped
>>34625917LET"S FUCKING GO!
>>34623814>>34624318Confirmed to have never been to a climbing gym. You have several people literally taking turns to try and do the same climb. Complete strangers sit back and observe other people doing a route. People spend half the time resting or waiting for a route to open up. Its the easiest fucking subject to bring up naturally. Not even for the sake of talking to women either. Like if you can't naturally come up with anything to converse with amother climber about the thing that you are both working on then youre beyond help
>>34625967Yes but most people are in denial about this in regards to others and still respond with hostility to anyone they perceive as having these intentions.>>34625988I have not, but I have spent significant time at other athletics hobbies that involve other people being around, and I was extrapolating from my experiences with them. Not that I know better, but I wouldn't expect rock climbing to be some magic exception to everything else I've seen in life.
>>34625977We eatin good tonight boys
>>34621418>YO Bitch!!! >Check this shit out!!!! >*climb v8 without your legs*It probably won't get you a girlfriend, but it will make you more confident, and give you practice being assertive, which will give you a girlfriend. You don't actually have to call her a bitch. It's just the mindset.
