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People tell my to "work on myself" whenever I say I wish I could get a gf, but I don't know what that means. Exercise??? More money???
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>>34621632
Generally they mean hobbies, exercise, social skills, job, and I guess game too but I think it's usually the other things. Now, describe yourself right now. Be 100% honest. Your pros, cons, and everything in between.
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>>34621639
Uhh 6'5" white dude, 280 pounds. I don't really have any social life. I just finished community college and mostly just stay at home playing games or watching YouTube.
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>>34621632
Appearances are the most important thing by far you're 6'5 so you have a massive advantage in this regard just gotta lose weight
The other categories matter less but you need to be at least functional in each of them or your SMV will be multiplied by zero. But basically if you're still struggling its just looks mostly or money if you want gold digging women who don't love you and will have sex with you once a month.
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>>34621654
>6'5
Good.
>White
Good.
>280 pounds
Exercise, lift weights and put on some muscle.
>No social life
Fix this
>Finished CC
Good, what degree? Transfer to a four year
>Stay at home playing games or watching youtube
Get other hobbies (such as ones that get you outside
The good news is you have a decent base, you just need to refine it. Exercise, socialize, continue your education, get some (outdoor) hobbies. You're like halfway there so as long as you keep it moving you can succeed. Good luck.
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>>34621632
blaming you is easier then acknowledging how society is currently taking a massive shit on you..
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>>34621632
yeah it just means get more money. they think in order to get a gf you need a patrick bateman skincare routine and be fit wear a suit and be important and be the wolf of wall street. only then do you deserve a mid gf.

hellworld, i know.
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Yourself refers to your own persona: the way you dress, if you're healthy, if you socialize and how... everything that could be associated to your persona. Money is also considered, but if you're a desperate rich person you won't gain what you're searching (a partner that likes u).
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>>34621654
OP:
>People always tell me to work on myself but I don't understand why
also OP:
>Why yes I AM fat, have no friends and am doing nothing with my life, why do you ask though?
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>>34625156
People keep asking questions (usually related to personal development) that they know the answer too. Why?
>How do I save money? No don't tell me to spend less and/or budget.
>How do I get women? No I am not going to interact with them.
>How do I get fit? No I do not want to exercise in any shape, way, or form.
>How do I learn/get good at something? No I am not gonna practice or actually sit down and study.
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>>34625172
It's because they can't conceive the fact that this is how other people achieve these things, they assume everybody but them is exploiting some sort of trick to get the results without putting in the effort. They unironically think that everything has a Konami code.



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