>be me>I played it safe. I was a quiet, indoor type kid. I listened to advice from adults, focused on studies.>Never did anything bold, never caused much trouble>Currently finishing a masters.>Realize I don't really have passions. There's nothing I really care about except from getting a good job so I have food on the table>No experience with women. Recently moved away from my hometown for studies, so no friends either. I don't know how to make small talk. I don't even know how to dance.>Listened to a song about careless teenage romance>Realize I just finished the stage of life I was supposed to be careless at. I must now become a responsible adult.>Get depressed.Is there anything I can do? I have nostalgia for something I didn't do, and it's getting worse by the day.
>>34621959Well I'm buzzed day drinking rn but I feel this from a different perspective. I got the stereotypical highschool / college experience. However once covid hit it all just kinda stopped; not only that but back then I became kind of an asshole because the popular douchebag stereotype is real and that's what I needed to be to get what I wanted. Now I just chill at home contemplating identity.Anyway I've been in this mode of feeling like shit for how I've treated people / myself and how I kinda ignored who I truly am. I'm introverted and overall just wanna be a good Church going man. Sounds cheesy af and I don't even believe that shit but I like the community and hate most modern zombies. My advice that I need to implement into my own life is forgive yourself. It's in the past and though we have kind of opposite but similar problems, the solution is the same. We only have the present and stressing about shit you can't change doesn't do anything, in fact it only further fucks up the present. So I'd say go to Church, or get on dating apps and get some company that way. Hell, even though it's not ideal go to random events or bars you see on Insta or download Meetup. Sad to say that for both of us, now that we're older, it is harder and the connections we make probably won't be like childhood friends; but it's what we've got and at least it's better than becoming a loser for the rest of our lives. I believe we can both get ourselves out of this slump, and I wish you the best brother. May the Force be with you.
you can stop caring like a little bitchget married or something, go out and find something so you dont have to care
>>34621959get off this board and similar lmao, talk to women, don't even think about something that isn't yours if you're not working out to get it or trying to obtain it
The past is inaccesible. Hindsight bias is a bitch though. You'll need to find something to make life worth living, and behaving like a teen isn't going to cut it.
When you imagine a passion or interest, what would that be?This is important, because the amounts of them out there is gigantic and you can't approach them the same way. Motorcycling is a different hobby than history.Also mind you that the carelessness as a young guy isn't that great because you're usually careless but broke and trust me a lot of really rewarding hobbies are hidden behind massive paywalls or could be accessed more easily if you can afford nicer stuff from the get go.
>>34623872>When you imagine a passion or interest, what would that be?I think that's my main problem. I can't really picture anything. It used to be videogames, but nowadays I don't really enjoy them. I've tried painting and writing.I moderately enjoy cooking, but mostly because I have to do it in order not to starve.
