I published this earlier, but my grammar is horrendous becase english it's not my first languaje so I asked for some help to make this post easier to read: A month ago, my female best friend cried and confessed she has feelings for me. I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Before that, she tried to kiss me at a party, but I declined because I’ve never been kissed and wasn't ready.Since the confession, things have been incredibly awkward. We share the same friend group. In person, she acts cold, distant, or sad when I'm around. When I gathered the courage to say hi, she literally asked me, "Why are you here?" making me feel completely unwelcome.However, her text messages contradict her behavior. Over text, she says she wants to talk more, asks me out on dates (without setting a specific time), and even asked if I’d let her kiss me someday (I said I didn't know). Recently, she texted me saying it was weird that I was nearby and didn't talk to her, and offered me 5 bucks if she managed to talked to me the next day. She hasn't talked to me since, and we completely stopped texting.Now I'm added to a group chat with her because one of my friends add me. I'm incredibly confused. Her mixed signals are making me sad and anxious. Does she hate me? Is she just shy? Why say she wants to hang out if she acts miserable in my presence?Should I just ignore her, mind my own business, and match her energy? Help.
>>34623898Like many lesbians, your friend has fallen for a straight woman (you) and is handling it badly. Seeing you probably makes her feel lovestruck and hurt because you don't want to date her. That's all her shit to deal with. You should continue being friendly with her or ignore her if she becomes unpleasant to interact with. Hopefully at some point she'll deal with her emotions and treat you better
Have you given her a definite yes/no answer yet? Based off her reaction you could be giving off mixed signals too
>>34623898It is not so much mixed signals as a progression of feelings. She declared her feelings and you "declined." Hurt, she backed away to tend her emotional wounds, and got a little nasty in the process. Then she began to recover and tried (perhaps awkwardly) to get back on a friendly basis with you.She is probably still trying to sort out her feelings. You can choose to be kind and put up with the confusion it causes you until she gets it all processed, or you can legitimately back off and implicitly signal that she shouldn't impose her confusion on you.
>>34623898You're straight, and honestly? You should cut her off from your life. She is treating you badly in real life because you rejected her kiss.
>>34623938When she told me, I said that the news had shocked me, but then I explicitly and anxiously said no
