A few weeks back my girlfriend told me to my face that she lied to me repeatedly over the first 3-4 months of our relationship to prevent me from leaving. She justified this by saying that "its normal for most people to lie and exaggerate as a form of masking during the honeymoon period", and then admitted that she had no guilt over what she did. It has been nearly 2 years and our relationship seems to just become more and more mutually destructive. She has become significantly less mature and needy over time and I have become distant and have lost almost all desire to engage in sexual activity with her, something which she has noticed and complained about. Both of us slowly stopped working out over time, something which we used to do nearly daily prior to us dating, and this has negatively impacted both of us. I should also mention that neither of us are straight and she is almost exclusively attracted to women. On top of this, neither of us originally wanted a monogamous relationship. We were effectively using each other to get back on the dating scene, or what is left of it, and even if we decided to continue dating we both planned on seeing other people on the side or integrating them into our relationship. While we both agree that what is going on isn't healthy we are unable to come to any solutions that we can both agree on. I do not want to break up with her as while we have our issues we both agree that we are the best partners we have ever had. Also, before anyone says "just be monogamous" that's what we have been doing for the last 2 years and neither of us are happy.
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>>34624371break up with her retard
>>34624371>I do not want to break up with herI can't imagine why not. Honestly, the lying is something you probably *could* forgive - it depends a bit on what she was lying about, but so long as it wasn't anything really important, you could choose to forgive it. But from the way you're describing things, it doesn't sound like you were ever particularly well suited to each other, and it also sounds like there's no reason to stay together other than sheer inertia. You talk as if you don't even like her any more, let alone love her.
>>34624371You need to elaborate on what she actually lied about
>>34624371You clearly love her. You're just hurt, afraid of showing your emotions like a little boy guarding a precious secret, afraid she will reject you and make fun of how you feel. And I think she's afraid too. You should think about what I'm saying. Sometimes fear casts shadows far larger than the truth, and hearts that long for one another often remain silent for reasons neither fully understands.
>>34624568The purpose of our relationship and what she was and was not ok with. >>34624563>You talk as if you don't even like her any more, let alone love her.Really depends on the day. I don't know if it will work out. I would like it to work out but we'll see. >>34624572I have tried to explain this to her in depth before and we have talked about our relationship and what we expected out of it. I really should just sit down and explain it all to her. I don't really care if she makes fun of me or whatever, I just don't want to hurt her.
>Should I stay in a dysfunctional relationship?People like you is why I don't date. Every single person is retarded, immature and has no clue what healthy monogomous relationships entail but you get into shit anyways because you want sex and then wonder why it isn't working when YOU want comittment. You fucking deserve each other and your misery, you absolute retard. If you want to continue being unhappy and in denial, sure, stay with a bisexual lying cunt that YOU have made the unfortunate decision to attach yourself to, and remain in denial about. Desperate cocksuckers like you who can't consider being alone to fix your shitty attachment problems are the reason every dating pool is toxic now, and no one is happy. Just break up and stay single. It will be better for literally everyone. I mean for fucks sake, read what you wrote and how much copeing you've added
>>34624371Adultery won't make you happy, either. You should probably look for happiness in something that isn't shallow and surface level.
>>34624371>OP is a faggotwasted my time reading this, who cares
