I'm 19; he's 27. We're constantly going on day trips, and he takes me out to eat so much. I don't have a car, so he picks me up and sends me home via Uber. He also bought me Confessions of a Mask and Spring Snow by Yukio Mishima while we were at a bookstore. We then kissed in the elevator, and then again while in an art gallery with nobody but us. He constantly greets me not with a "hello," but by calling me "beautiful" or "cute," then caressing the top of my head like I'm a cat. He says I'm the cutest girl he's ever dated.He also introduced me to alcohol. So far, I've had bourbon, gin, and sake, which got me so drunk that he had to princess carry me to bed. That happened on our first night and many times since then.I really don't want to tell him because I'm scared he will break up with me in disgust. But I am still naive enough to believe that maybe he will reciprocate and love me regardless. It's just getting increasingly difficult because now that we've been dating for some time, he's expecting sex. I have to be very vigilant to roll away from him when he tries to touch my private area, though he may already know because he has lain on top of me. It really is getting exhausting; for now, it's still viable to deny him intimacy, but with every day that passes, it becomes less so. And although it was beautiful in this one fleeting moment, I may end it without explanation since I want to preserve something beautiful rather than allow the truth to pervert it into something it’s not.Still, we were texting yesterday, and he said, "I would still date you if you were a trans woman." I looked for reassurance and asked if he would date me if I were "a bio male," and he hesitated but simply replied, "Sure." So I suppose he would still be interested if I told him? But I don't think I want to, even if he'd accept me regardless, because I think I value this relationship less as a romance and more as a vehicle to live out my fantasy as a cis woman.What should I do?
>>34624438>should i tell my bf im transYou literally raped him.>Still, we were texting yesterday, and he said, "I would still date you if you were a trans woman"If he did that, he would be a fucking homosexual, which he is, because he is dating you.
>>34624438>Still, we were texting yesterday, and he said, "I would still date you if you were a trans woman.">I looked for reassurance and asked if he would date me if I were "a bio male,"You can make the joke work by having him immediately agree in that overly enthusiastic, obviously fake way that screams "I am saying whatever keeps me out of trouble."Also, >should i tell my bf im transYou raped him.
>>34624438>I may end it without explanationThat would be unimaginably selfish of you.
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>>34624438You must be passing pretty well if he hasn't figured it out yet. Either that or he's a bit slow.>"I would still date you if you were a trans woman."Did he tell you that out of the blue or did you ask him that? If the former then he definitely has figured it out or at the very least thinks you most likely are trans. If you had to ask him then he would be questioning if you are trans. Any man would unless (like I said) he is a bit slow. Which is cute.>It's just getting increasingly difficult because now that we've been dating for some time, he's expecting sex.He would as you had multiple dates with him. Did you at least give him a blowie yet? That is how girls declare their love and respect to a guy. If not then get to it ASAP. My advice to you is to of course tell him you're trans. Like you said - you've been dating him for some time now. Long enough that he should have been dicking you down by now. He might bare a grudge against you for that reason so I would do it in a form of an apology. Tell him that you were concerned or worried that he wouldn't want you anymore if he knew thus you were scared to tell him earlier. Not that you were intentionally withholding sex. I would also do it in a voice message. Text messages can come off as fake and insincere like a company email unless you are really good at articulating your words.Nonetheless - I hope he enjoys your booty hole especially when he lets loose his little soldiers inside of you. That will be a bonding moment neither of you will forget. Make sure you fast for a day or two prior just for peace of mind. It will make douching quicker and easier. I would say lube up too for the past few times.Also ignore the prejudiced replies. Unless you literally penetrated him against his will you did not at all rape him, lol. That is some dumbass shit.
>>34624438>>34625188>I may end it without explanation since I want to preserve something beautiful rather than allow the truth to pervert it into something it’s not.That would be an unbelievable stupid and cold hearted thing to do. Do not break his heart. Sorry my reading comprehension is a bit shit so it took me a while to see that.
Just tell him. Sometime soon, before he expects more intimacy again. Sure he might deny you and you'd end the fantasy, but if he says yes you could be giving up a promising long-term relationship if you end it, if it's strong enough this could be someone you end up marrying.If things go south, next time you should probably make the reveal sooner. Some people don't care so much about the timing, others find it uncomfortable and see it as a betrayal if you hold it off too long.
>>34624438>he said, "I would still date you if you were a trans woman." I looked for reassurance and asked if he would date me if I were "a bio male," and he hesitated but simply replied, "Sure."You already seem to have an answer.Looks like he is up to it, or at least he seems willing to try it.>But I don't think I want to, even if he'd accept me regardless, because I think I value this relationship less as a romance and more as a vehicle to live out my fantasy as a cis woman.That's kinda bad.If you don't have your heart in it, I think you're are being doubly dishonest with the guy, since he seems to be very invested on the relationship.If you truly loved him, you'd value it more than just living your fantasy.In short, it's not good to be dishonest with someone you intend to have a romantic relationship with, specially if your heart is not into it.
>>34624438End it, but tell him why. And for future reference, it's literally not possible for a tranny to be in a genuine relationship for the reason you listed. If you ever want genuine companionship, you have to learn how to be yourself first and detransition.
>>34625188>you must be passing pretty wellYou can be the judge.>did he tell you that out of the blueno. i told him how i lied to him about my grades, and before i explained it, he assumed i was about to tell him i was trans. which is ironic because that’s something also something im lying about, but that’s more so a white lie, a lie of omission. but no—i lied about both my grades and academic standing, but so far have only revealed the truth about the former. though when i introduced the conversation by saying simply, “I’ve lied to you,” he assumed i was about to tell him im trans. which prompted him to make the comment about ignoring it and still dating me, even if im a trans woman, which, again, invokes dramatic irony because i am.
>>34625631i just liked the prose of the second green text. i think he’s very handsome and kind, and we have a lot of fun together. we text him at morning and night, and say “i love you” everyday. idk why i wrote that last sentence.
>>34624438I have never seen a trans that 100% passes, he must already know or heavily suspect so I'd say go ahead but do it in a public place just in case.
>>34625647>upside down pictureyeah you don't pass, this is a very common thing people do to hide something from their features
>>34625650I assume you meant to reply to me (>>34625612).If you do like him, it's best to just be honest.It is something you'll eventually need to do anyway. What's the alternative? Lie forever to everyone?
>>34625647You look pretty good, how tall?Pre or post srs?
>>34625647>no. i told him how i lied to him about my grades, and before i explained it, he assumed i was about to tell him i was trans.If he assumed that you was about to tell him you're trans then he most definitely knows. He is just waiting for you to tell him. Like I said - do it in the form of an apology. Again - make it clear to him that you wasn't intentionally withholding sex. Tell him that you were sacred to tell him out of fear that he will think less of you if not leave you (because that is the truth). Once that is over with you can get to embracing each other. Like I said - blow him already!!. From what you said he clearly does love you. He carried you to your bed when you were wasted. That is a declaration of trust. That could have went in an entirely different direction. You look cute but yeah you are noticeably male. Not to be a dick. Maybe with some FFS you could pass a bit more.
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>>34625647>>34626056>You look cute but yeah you are noticeably male. Not to be a dick. Maybe with some FFS you could pass a bit more.Not that it matters (as I failed to mentioned). He clearly loves you after all and wants to take things further anyway. You just need to clear that thing which I told you exactly how to do.
>>34626056>you are noticeably maleNot her but how? Genuinely passes perfectly to me (granted we can't really see her forehead in that pic).
>>34626195C'mon anon. I know you're trying to be nice but please stop. She isn't at the top of the hon scale but she still looks noticeably male. Enough to be clocked easily. Like I said it doesn't matter.
>>34624438Why the fuck didn't you tell him before the first date, you retard? To answer your question, yes tell him, if he breaks up with you oh well, just make sure that he can't beat you up if he gets angry. All of these things could have been avoided if you just told him before the first date, but oh well people are still retards.
Low effort bait. Crossdressing gay men do not pass as women.
>>346259115'7; pre srs. iive had no surgery of any kind, just estrogen and puberty blockers, starting at 13.also we played the story of kamikuishiki village on my pc, and it was really fun. he translated it for me since idk japanese but he does, and that in and of itself was a nice bonding experience. then he bought me dinner, and we went to his place and talked and watched tv while cuddling.
>>34625647>You can be the judge.Not passing. He has known you're a man since before your first date. Enjoy getting your bussy slammed, faggot.
