How do I stop being overly emotional as an adult man? I can't control or hide my emotions and I am 30 years old. I have been practicing by watching heart wrenching shows and movies but I cry every time. I know plenty of women that are emotionally stronger than me.
>>34624446Women are heartless, just more emotionally reactive. The ability to feel deeply but remain calm is actually a very masculine modality.
>>34624446Hey brother, it's okay. What's wrong with being emotional? It's a little rough sometimes but you're technically blessed! It's quite a gift to be able to resonate on deep emotional frequencies, especially as a man. You should give yourself permission to cry, I don't recommend doing in front of everyone but to yourself, why not? Every time you cry a part of you dies and with it a part reborn.Is out merely just tears that afflict you? Are you an infj like me? Do you have rage issues? It's okay to feel, it just takes some discipline and time to get control of your emotional realm but you do need to embrace it and without shame.
>>34624446It's not about becoming an emotionally calloused husk, anon, that isn't "strength" that's repression or depression. There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling emotions, and someone having a lower emotional reactivity than you doesn't mean they're stronger; it might mean that the content didn't incite a similar emotional impulse in them, or that they're better at hiding it, or that they're repressing feeling anything, but it doesn't equal strength. Strength is in the ability to endure, despite how you feel, just as bravery isn't the absence of fear, but the ability to carry on with the fear in tow. What is important, though, is reacting to emotion in an appropriate manner. There's a time and a place to cry, an appropriate setting to give in to anger, a correct way to deal with how you feel, but that isn't strength so much as it is maturity. Immature people are highly emotionally driven, reactive, impulsive, careless, and express their emotions in improper ways at inappropriate times. Being "in control" of your emotions isn't to deny them, but to know when and how you should show them, use them, and in turn how you judge others based upon their emotional expression. Some of the weakest men in the world might be thought of as "strong" or "stoic" because they dare not shed a tear, but these people are not strong, they are driven by fear, and they let that fear cause them to shove their natural, perfectly appropriate feelings down, lest they be thought of as weak. That in and of itself is weakness, because again, strength isn't the absence of weakness, but the acknowledgement of it, and adapting to circumstances with it in mind. You are not weak because you feel, anon, but because you are afraid of feeling.
Hit the gym so the test in your body start physically making your tear ducts smaller. It might take a year to see them shrivel up. I did this after a close relative died and got surprised I don't cry anymore.
