>"You have to learn to love yourself">"Girls won't like you until you like yourself">Okay, how do I do that?>"...*cough* Y-you just have to do it bro. It doesn't happen overnight. Excuse me, I left the oven on at home."So basically unless you won the parent lottery and they raised you to have self esteem there is no way to ever feel happy. Thank you very helpful.
>>34625018You learn how to love yourself by aligning what you value with what you have the ability to control. The only thing you truly get to control in life is your own conduct, meaning what you must learn how to love and value is virtue. You can always choose to be honest, courageous, just, compassionate, patient and generous. If you value those traits as you ought to, and pursue them with diligence, you will love yourself and live in an ever abiding joy. This isn't just one of the paths to happiness, this is the only path to happiness. Everyone has to follow it, eventually.
OP, you don't have to be born with self esteem. I don't want to discourage you but I went through literal decades of self hate, depression, suicide, drugs, and alcohol because of my personal issues, one of them having zero confidence and non existent self esteem due to emotional/verbal abuse and neglect from both parents growing up. It's not a lottery game, it took me fucking years to learn it but it's possible if you're willing to do the work. I got tired of people disrespecting me, treating me poorly so I decided to take a stand and study psychology to fix myself and then use it to get back at the rest of the world. What I came to realize is not only what my suffering blossomed into but how to give myself permission to be imperfect and still love myself because it was me who over came without the help of anyone. If you're willing to sit and think about what reasons there are for your insecurities, shame, anger, sensitivity it may be uncomfortable but you will gain vast insight into how to metabolize your suffering into strong internal foundations with unshakable fortitude. It's only you who can do the shadow work, and it will then be you who becomes whole and through that you'll stop externalizing your peace. I didn't think anything like this could be possible for me but I can tell you then if you're willing to endure the process you will find exactly what you're looking for. There is no wisdom without suffering. >>34625033I feel like you're absolutely right. An honest, unregretfully compassionate life will ultimately fulfill you if you can hold capacity for the rest of the world and it's short comings. Numerological dubs checked.
