Hi anons, I'm kinda wanting some input on dating apps (i know i know) and if I have unrealistic standards on the modern dating scene. I (22F) have an issue where most of the guys I talk to just want to text nonstop. I can find a guy super attractive, but I prefer to just match, arrange a date, and leave it at that with nothing besides practical details in-between. Is it bad to fully just stop talking to these guys because the texting gets annoying? I'm usually pretty honest forth front about not liking texting, but then they want to switch to anything but in the meantime (such as a phone call) instead of having a date sooner. Is this normal?
>>34627843They're deciding whether they should ghost you or not.
>>34627843>Is this normal?I dunno, never used dating apps. It's pointless. Maybe they're afraid you got cold feet after ignoring their miserable attempts at getting into your bed.
>>34627843Ew Op this is a great way to get date raped or killed. The chatting is to sus both of you out. I am at the point I wouldn't go on a date with a guy unless we talked for a good three weeks or so, I want to know there is chemistry before wasting either of our time.
>>34628018NTA, but you can't possibly establish chemistry in text messages. You certainly do need to figure out if there's chemistry, but face to face is the *only* way you can ever do that, and that's precisely why you need to have a first date as soon as possible. I haven't done dating apps in a while, but I was on them for a long time, and the most important thing I learned was that if a woman wants to wait more than a week before meeting face to face, she is not serious, and needs to be ghosted immediately.
>>34628046>You can't possibly establish chemistry in text messagesStopped reading there. You're autistic and have never made a woman cum.
>>34628054I'm not the person you're talking to, but why do you need to act like a disgusting asshole?
>>34627843Oh, wow, a guy actually wants to know you and is curious about you? You future rape ''victims'' truly deserve to mogged by trannies.
>>34628046You know videocalls exist, you retard
>>34628068Why do you need to be so autistic that you can't have a decent conversation in text?
>>34628121>Why do you need to be so autistic that you can't have a decent conversation in text?As I said, I'm not the person you were talking to. You're just an asshole and I felt I should point that out.
>>34628128It's 4chan crybaby, I'm sorry you can't make a girl cum.
>>34627929Or trying to figure out if she's likely to flake.
>>34627843Go out with a guy who doesn't text you and you'll complain about that too
>>34627843>I prefer to just match, arrange a date, and leave it at that with nothing besides practical details in-between.Say thanks to your foid sisters. I didn't use apps for a lot, but I am like you only male. And let me tell you, women will either ghost or chimp the fuck out on your ass if you don't spam them with text nonstop. Theres also a lot of bored women in relationships who just use those apps to get free male attention and be entertained, and they of course don't take kindly to people who are focussed on meeting. Also see retards like >>34628018 who genuinely believe you can "sus someone out" or create "chemistry" through lines on a screen. When for all you know you're chatting with a bot or the local town rapist in disguise.Overall its a cesspit. As a 22 yo girl, you're better served going out some place and talking to guys IRL.
>>34628133>It's 4chan crybaby, I'm sorry you can't make a girl cum.You never touched a girl, and never will. Because you're an incel, and probably bald too.
>>34627843I'm a lot older than you but feel the same way about it. I think people get anxious when the date is set for like a week in the future. They want to keep you excited about them but they're actually doing the opposite by texting you a bunch of mundane bs. The more I text a guy before the date the more opportunities I have to talk myself out of going at all. Stick to your guns, politely.
>>34627843OP.Every single one of these guys has been rejected 2500-6000 times this year already.300-700 times these were after a date was agreed on.80-150 times they were stood up day-of.So yes.Respectfully, you're asking too much. Until they see you arrive for a third date they're going to assume you're in an active state of losing interest.Nonstop unmitigated Spam is the modern equivalent of bringing you flowers. I.eNot doing it means you're not taking it seriously.
>>34627843> if I have unrealistic standards on the modern dating sceneThis kind of defeatist attitude is why the modern dating scene is such a dumpster fire. Your usage of apps is an excellent example of the same attitude, and will expose you to a skewed sample of men even more predisposed to undesirable behavior.If you aren't interested in whoring around, stop wasting your time hunting for gold in raw sewage.
>>34628018>>34628079>>34628255>>34628419OP here, you're all retarded, but thanks to the few non incel anons who replied :)
>>34628083You can't smell someone on a video call. Scent is important; compatible pheromones.
>>34628083Video calls count as texting?
>>34628054>You're autisticThis is actually true. >and have never made a woman cum.This, very emphatically, is not. But that doesn't change the fact that you can't establish chemistry in text. Chemistry includes things like how easily conversation flows, and you can't establish that without speaking.
