Growing up people used to ask me out as a joke and I have never had a gf before, but that is in part due to not really trying to get one, because I am too afraid to ask. I am low IQ, and antisocial to boot to the point that I vehemently hate everyone (but I am trying to work on this). So the question remains am I low value?
>>34628162Value only comes from virtue, and the mother of all virtues is compassion. So for the moment, yes. But you can get better with effort.
>>34628170Then how do I become compassionate?I used to volunteer in a library but mostly did back room stuff, only really helping out when the children's wing had an event. I am good with children, just about the only people I am good with (that and the elderly). I was forced to quit when my parents told me to do so, a couple of years ago. I am 21 now, but to get back into the program would likely take up to a year due to revised safety checks.
>>34628201By developing patience, selflessness and a genuine desire to do good for goodness's sake. It takes time and effort, but daily introspection and regular study can both help a lot.Volunteering is great because it gives you a chance to help others and exposes you to situations that will test and exercise your patience, but it's also important to keep in mind that the external act itself loses any value it would have possessed if you do it begrudgingly or with hatred and frustration in mind.
>>34628238Thank you. I think I know just how to do this.I am open to the advice from others too.
>>34628300That anon gave good advice. I recommend continuing to work with children or the elderly. A lot of people don't like it and it's great that you do
>>34628619I thought he spoke a great deal of sense. Unfortunately the one elderly guy I helped passed away last year from cancer. He was in his 90s and had he not had the cancer he would have seen 100.I get that he lived a good life, but it feels bad man.My father is 80, so I guess he is next on my list, though I should also be taking care of my aunt and grandmother. The issue is that I cannot be with my parents, 1200 miles away with my grandmother and on the other side of the Atlantic taking care of my aunt at once.I will do my best.Truth be told, I have some close on-line contacts, but I feel like I have failed them. One is dead, one is gravely ill, one was raped and one is about to be buried under a lot of debt. That said, I met all but one from 4chan, I would not necessarily call them friends, but they are the only people I speak to and even then, only once in a while.
>>34628162>vehemently hate everyonesomebody bullied you or mad eyou feel very uncomfortable in the past
>>34628162>Dry, sociopathic looksmaxxer point of view:Your objective SMV is a combination of your looks - namely height, weight, build, facial structure and hairstyle - and your means - how much money you have now, will have in ten years and how much social clout you have.Most of these are deterministic values that can be apportioned based on anatomical statistics.You can determine the relative value of your appearance by way of places like /soc/ and whatever the non hugbox rateme subreddit is, and how much social clout you have by a statistical analysis of how you spend your time.>More nuanced, less mentally ill version:You're always going to be low-value compared to someone, and high-value compared to someone else. The only time this will be a problem is if you're trying to date above your looksmatch, in which case you need lots of money and lots of clout.The vast majority of humans do not explicitly think in these terms, and the end result is that generally people get with people that are equivalently attractive to them.
https://youtu.be/or6A1Pl04ss?is=gx5RwwV5m2hqbCYX
>>34629328Yeah because of my mother's nationality. Both of my parents are immigrants (from Europe). I lived in an area of the NYC metro as a kid that had lots of people from the surrounding area that my mother came from (not just her country, but also the one West of it, the one East of it and the one South of it). The ones South of it hate my kind.>>34629699I prefer the second one, though I don't think I have a looksmatch, because of a skin condition that causes my to shed like a lizard if I do not take a chemical bath daily. How do I increase my value, though, in your own words. I liked what >>34628170 had to say.>>34629740I will watch this later.
>>34629740I watched it. It was good advice, but the on-line stuff does not apply to me. Just about every single attempt at asking someone out has been in person starting at age 10 or 11, I would probably ask out three or four per year in school, volunteering, etc. and I was rejected without fail. I got a reputation for being a hopeless romantic and my skin condition (which was really bad at the time) did not help matters, so this is why people would ask me out on a joke or a dare. I know it because once this girl claimed another girl was interested in me and the "another girl" begged her to not say it and that it was cause her great embarrassment to be seen with someone like me, even for a moment. She was not blushing or anything, so it was not that she liked me (words aside, people can be overly dramatic). Funnily enough she would likely have been the next girl that I asked out. Now I have gotten things under control and I ooze maybe once or twice each year (though I did a bit yesterday), but back then it was two or three time a week and that was with two chemical baths daily (turned out salycylic acid was also part of the issue so that was removed in favour of castille soap for my hair).So far, I am like 30-40 girls in with rejections, all IRL. 0 dates so far and over a decade later. I am wondering maybe God is keeping me from dating for a reason.I do not immediately just ask girls out, I try to talk to them for anywhere between a week to a month first (depends how much we talk foor and how often we speak), since that might be something that may be asked.
>>34628162>How do I know if I am a low value man?Ask yourself. Am I Chad?If the answer is no, then you are a low value man.
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>>34630958>ChadHe is just hypothetical, mate.>>34630962I agree.
