So ive been feeling pretty lonely lately and decided to try to make some friends online with the same interests. But every conversation ive had is just questioning eachother and it just feels so forced and not really enjoyable. All friends ive ever made ive all made by being in close proximity for a long amount of time, like being in the same class or smt. So are people lying when they say they have lots of friend online? Or am I just socially awkward and cant have good conversations?
>>34630038>Is it actually possible to make friends onlineAbsolutely, I had some online friends since before university, we still talk to each other, play games and so on... But it's always better to have irl friends. If possible I want to meet my online friends in real life, I'll definitely do it, because they're important for me.
>>34630038>So are people lying when they say they have lots of friend online?Also, I don't have lots of online friends, only a few of them, there's 2 I am very close with, the rest aren't as close, but they would help me if I needed and I would help them. Some of these friends I don't talk too frequently are very busy, me too, so we understand that.
>>34630038>But every conversation ive had is just questioning eachother and it just feels so forced and not really enjoyable.Why is that? I think you've been putting a mask in real life, you don't need to do that, be authentic, say what you want. Once I saw a person that was worries even about small details like the amount of text they sent compared to the other party. This shouldn't matter.>All friends ive ever made ive all made by being in close proximity for a long amount of timeNot really what friendship is. All these people were colleagues, and eventually they drifted away, isn't it? Friendship is different, you want to keep in contact with the person in question no matter where the person is.
>>34630038> close proximityIf you want to get to know someone over a long period of time, you need a common activity that you can bond over. If you want friends online, just pick activities that are online.
I only ever keep one friend at a time. It's never a great friendship (at least in terms of sociability and good mental health, finding someone as strange and alone as you will tend to be that) but it's less lonely than nobody. It's so much harder now, there aren't niche hangouts online anymore (I basically got scared away from alternate smaller/slower chan site where I made them all because it seemed like FEDs were trying to entrap people). -but if you have anything you're enthusiastic about, have a decent stake in (arts, hobbies, fandom, activities (like a game you can play together even), anything you could talk at length about and feel comfortable/satisfied), it's a reasonable in. If you're anything like me you can see someone talking already and get an immediate impression they on some level are a kindred spirit, that you vibe with them and all too likely they must relate back to you. It's been just that, even though it feels lucky every time anyway, after a few back and forths where you prove the rhythm has clicked, bam, just ask them if you want to be friends and give them contact info when they say yes (a throwaway email if need be). The internet is great for preserving the moment for days if not indefinitely and making it all so accessible.Now all that said I pray you have more to connect over than fetish porn drawings.
I made some great friends on one of the streaming sites posted on /tv/ that used to play Game of Thrones. Made a group chat with about a dozen of the non-psychopaths and we watch movies, game, and meet up when we can. All very unique and some of nicest, positive, supportive people in my life.
>>34631383Like, if it wasn't clear enough, I'm no success story. -but maybe you engage too quickly before your conversation partner has established themselves as promising. There's reasons to like people and I think it's good go nurture those things with hints of appreciation, make them comfortable and encouraged. If you're unable to lead a conversation with something that was neat or important enough that came to you then always give them a subtle opportunity to succeed instead sometimes. My problem I think is I blabber and transparently am not an interesting person. So that too, I dunno, careful not to make it a chore, talking just to finish a process or make it like they're performing for you. I don't know, I'm not nearly normie or emotionally intelligent enough to talk naturally. Autism, hard to not beat yourself up if you know it.
>>34630038do you want online friends that you'll never consider meeting in person? all of my best online friends are people I have spent time with irl (even if I met them online first), taken trips with, and genuinely enjoy their company as a person not just as someone I talk to or game with online.
>>34630038you can but only for a hobby you actually care about. i made a lot of friends vtubing on twitch.
