I finally got my first girlfriend at the ripe age of 28. She is 27. The problem is that she has so much more life experience. Like she spent her youth and early 20s just as in the textbooks.She has experienced relationships, casual stuff, FWBs, has a TON of dating and sexual experience. She did all the partying in college, festivals, drugs. She has a big group of friends, did a semester abroad, traveled a lot, trips, camping, hiking, whatever.I spent most of my college days studying, practicing piano at home and going climbing. I have never traveled, have no sexual experience, no dating experience, never partied etc.I am really excited about doing that stuff together with her but you can easily tell the difference between how much I am enjoying it and how much less she is, because she already experienced most of it. Like I am so excited about our upcoming wellness weekend trip but she is kinda "meh" about it. "Already done that so many times with previous boyfriends".What can I do here? I feel really bad.
She sounds like shes used up and is in turn, using you. Not sure if I'm off base here but she probably leaves you on read, doesnt try and get to know you better, but she's really attractive/good in bed. Have fun in the relationship but dont expect her to really take you seriously. You sound like a nice bloke, just don't let her break you down. Have fun on the weekend trip! Don't let her bring down your fun. She also sounds a bit depressed?
>>34630360>she probably leaves you on read, doesnt try and get to know you better, but she's really attractive/good in bedNo actually not. She puts a lot of effort into the relationship but I alway notice that when she asks me "Have you ever done X?" and I obviously answer with "No, never" because I have no experience, she always gets visibly sad. I am always excited and open to try new things but it's hard because most of them are things she already did. Like I tried to bring up having sex in the car but she said she tried that so many times and she does not enjoy that but she apologized for it and was visibly sad.
>>34630347Theres a really good chance she hates you.If i were you i would just break up with her to save face, before she cheats on you or dumps you.She will never see you as a human being deserving of love because to her NOT doing all these things makes you subhuman, and shes probably trying to figure out WTF is wrong with you.
>>34630347Sounds like you're uncomfortable with her. Break up, tell her you hate her killjoy vibe.
>>34630360>I hate women and want you to hate women too!>From the depths of the crab bucket I beseech you to join me in my misogynistic misery !
>>34630347>what can I do?She is a practice gf. You can always find someone 10 years younger in a couple of years and finally settle down.
>>34630347>she has experienced relationships, casual stuff, FWBs, has a TON of dating and sexual experience.This all just means she is shit at relationships anon.> What can I do here? I feel really bad.I doubt she wants you to be her.I recommend you choose the things you want to do.
>>34630373>Like I tried to bring up having sex in the car >but she said she tried that so many times>many times>many times>many timesKEK, you're a cuck.>and she does not enjoyKEK, she had sex in the car, just not with you.
>>34630347The classic. Had her fun in youth and now is settling for a betabuxx, you.
>>34630347>What can I do here? Take it as a causl fling and use the increased confidence to live your life? Like what else would you do. The only way to kill FOMO is to go out and do stuff. And yeah, any huge mismatch in a relationship will kill it eventually anyways.
>>34630373>I tried to bring up having sex in the carMuch to learn, you have. You don't "bring it up". You just start fondling her and initiating foreplay. Talking about that kind of stuff kills the vibe. You just do it.
It doesn't matter if she had done it before, if she genuinely likes you she would be excited to do all that stuff again just to see your reaction. I don't know how long you've been with this girl but this is a hit it and quit situation my man.
>>34630347thats weird. why is she even dating you? i dont wanna assume things but its hard to see why she would be attracted to you. and i dont think its a good idea to date someone like that either. like you said, the things you find new and enjoyable shes already done a million times. she might infantilize you because of that. its hard to see how you can be equals in this case. if i were you, i would try to date the youngest girl you can find
>>34630608The only way to kill fomo is to realize there is nothing youre missing out on. Do what you want, not what you think others are doing
>>34630347don’t feel bad about your feelings of not satisfying or boring her. you lived a life too just one that wasn’t focused on fun or degeneracy. you both have life experience but in different ways so don’t ever let it emasculate you.i had an identical situation where i studied worked and hunted/fished all the time and never went out. i dated this rich girl who went to raves and parties all the time. i felt the same way you do where i missed out or she’s done something that i didn’t have the privilege to do. one day i learned to take pride in all the things i did especially the hardships that came along. i realized that she experienced nothing like that and she was living life on easy mode. despite her intelligence she was also vain and vapid and i couldn’t relate to her on a spiritual level. these girls travel and go to clubs thinking they have a special kind of lived experience but in reality they live life on easy mode and are quick to lack any sense of empathy. not sure if your girl is like this but mine was. we dated for a while but it ultimately lead me to her friend who is my fiancee now. i am glad i experienced her and that she taught me a little bit of the debauched side of life but knew it was a means to an end.
>>34630347Not all "life experience" is equal. Your gf was and remains a whore. You're a retarded degenerate.
