how do you stop being insecure to the point where you have to explain yourself all the time? i cant get rid of that habit no matter what. yes i do realize that not caring is the solution, but my natural impulse is to care, so i dont know how to change that
>>34630919Meditate every day on the reasons why you shouldn't care. There are lots to choose from, such as the idea that most people have incoherent views on most subjects, that no one actually cares about what you're doing as much as you think they care, or that you have no control over what other people think so there's nothing to worry about or do. My personal favorite is that truth and goodness are valuable for their own sake without qualification, so my only concern should be to say what's true and do what's right, and I shouldn't even consider what other people think unless it somehow relates back to truth and goodness for their sake. Even if I were to face ridicule, it wouldn't change my behavior and make me lie or behave harmfully, so why worry about ridicule that won't change what I do anyway?
