How do I get motivated to date? I tried dating apps and get likes and matches, but I almost always instantly ghost people, I was in a short term relationship, girl asked me to be her bf 3 days in and then a month later broke it off because she figured out she can only be romantically involved with another woman, but sex seems fine to be for some reason. We never had proper sex because I felt too shy to do anything past oral and fondling because I am a virgin, which makes the dating thing even worse because I am pushing 30. I just keep thinking about everything which is wrong with me and it makes messaging someone even more troublesome. I have the same issue with online and irl friends, where at some point I just ghost them and reappear months later or even years later at some point. How do I stop all this self isolation, I hate living like this and stimulants, ssris, an ndri and therapy did not help either, they make me me feel even more catatonic. I just wanna live a life instead of being stuck in this prison.
>>34631477It sounds like you're avoidant. Unless you work on that whole spiral of denigrating yourself until it's just "easier" to ghost the other person you're not going to get anywhere. Whenever you feel that it's the easy way out just don't do it. You need to understand that if you don't want to talk to someone at the moment then you don't have to. There's no need to ghost someone for months especially if you're just going to message them anyway. Slowly work on fixing your shit and whenever you feel overwhelmed just take a break, you can come back to them in a couple of hours instead of creating massive rifts of time and space that ultimately isolate you.
