my girlfriends rice purity score is 45, but she swears up and down that she's a virgin and is saving herself for a guy she's in love with (we've only been committed for 1.5 months). Mine is 65, but before her it was in the high 80s. I know factually she sucked another guys dick at a party once but I have no evidence that she's had sex before but I just KNOW she has, I just can't prove it. It's come up a couple of other times as well and she gets so shifty when it does, I NEED her to tell me the truth but idk how to go about that. I'm going insane bros
why does her being a virgin even matter if she's sucked another guy's dick? she basically is not a virgin anymore then.
>>34632615Thinking of ways to force somebody to tell the truth is like thinking of forcing somebody to apologize. Apologies and honesty are absolutely worthless if they don't come from the person themselves. If you have to contrive ways to get them to do it, you're already deluding yourself.
>>34632650It does matter. Obviously her giving a blowjob is not ideal, but it's obviously not as damaging to pair bonding as sex. /adv/ice now please
>>34632683An apology is about the sentiment, the truth more about what is actually being revealed. Would I like her to tell me the truth out of some kind of trust/intimacy? Sure, but that isn't the main reason anyone wants to know the truth of anything relationship related
>>34632695It is the main reason. If you think it's not, then your own idea of what a relationship is meant to be about is corrupted. You seem concerned with pair bonding, so ask yourself this: Is pair bonding possible without honesty? If you answer no, then you already have your answer and you know what to do. If you answer yes, then pair bonding must be worthless if it can exist without the truth, because all value is derived from truth.
>>34632695>An apology is about the sentimentno, what a childish thing to sayits about the person trying not to repeat the thing they apologised for
>>34632615I just took it and got a 26. I think you should just go down that list and ruin her on all points so you know at least you did it instead of someone else who's not you.
>>34632615>I'm going insane brosWhat do you mean, "going"?
>>34632615don't worry about it. your psychopathic behaviour will scare her off inside a month anyway and then you won't have the problem any more
>>34632615I scored a 41, and ive been alone for the last 11 years. I wish I could to back